TCatt86
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The guy I have been seeing on and off for the last few months read my journal. In one of my entries I wrote about how I really liked another guy and I felt that guy should be the man I spend the rest of my life with. I feel like I should give some background into my relationship with him. Our relationship goes in ebbs and flows, somtimes it's really good and sometimes it's bad. He and I had a major setback and we were just starting to get back right and now this has happened. I feel like when we take a big leap something bad happens that sets us back.
This is the second time he has violated my privacy, he also read my text messages a couple months back where he saw some text between the same guy where we were discussing how great the relationship we had was. My boo or ex-boo whatever he is now, has issues with my relationship with this guy, he feels I downplay the relationship. And while I did write that I liked the guy and wanted to be with him long term I really do love my boo,and I want to be with him longterm. I told him there was nothing to worry about as far as my relationship with the other man or any man for that matter, but he's not hearing it now. I tried to console him but now he feels I'm a liar and wants to take it slow again. I can understand why he feels that way, but he shouldn't have gone through my stuff. And I really have gotten over my feeling of liking the other dude, it was a fleeting feeling that lasted for about a week. He left stuff at my house so I know what that means but I can't keep going through this violation of my privacy. I'm thinking of calling it an end and just letting it be, because it's one of two things 1) he has major trust issues or 2) he's seeing someone else and thinks I would do that too. I'm thinking it's both because when I went in his car for something I saw what looked like women's glasses. I'm just getting tired of this, I shouldn't have to worry about leaving him in my house and him snooping. Because he did go through my drawers and commented on me having a brand of condoms that he doesn't use, which I already knew because I have had these condoms for about two years. I'm really getting tired of this and explaining myself about something I know I'm not doing. And my only experience of a man snooping is when he was out there bad.
Have any of you ladies dealt with a man that consistently violated your privacy? And how did you deal with it? Did you stay with the man or did you break up with him?
This is the second time he has violated my privacy, he also read my text messages a couple months back where he saw some text between the same guy where we were discussing how great the relationship we had was. My boo or ex-boo whatever he is now, has issues with my relationship with this guy, he feels I downplay the relationship. And while I did write that I liked the guy and wanted to be with him long term I really do love my boo,and I want to be with him longterm. I told him there was nothing to worry about as far as my relationship with the other man or any man for that matter, but he's not hearing it now. I tried to console him but now he feels I'm a liar and wants to take it slow again. I can understand why he feels that way, but he shouldn't have gone through my stuff. And I really have gotten over my feeling of liking the other dude, it was a fleeting feeling that lasted for about a week. He left stuff at my house so I know what that means but I can't keep going through this violation of my privacy. I'm thinking of calling it an end and just letting it be, because it's one of two things 1) he has major trust issues or 2) he's seeing someone else and thinks I would do that too. I'm thinking it's both because when I went in his car for something I saw what looked like women's glasses. I'm just getting tired of this, I shouldn't have to worry about leaving him in my house and him snooping. Because he did go through my drawers and commented on me having a brand of condoms that he doesn't use, which I already knew because I have had these condoms for about two years. I'm really getting tired of this and explaining myself about something I know I'm not doing. And my only experience of a man snooping is when he was out there bad.
Have any of you ladies dealt with a man that consistently violated your privacy? And how did you deal with it? Did you stay with the man or did you break up with him?
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