He never has any money, is it a deal breaker?

One of my good guy friends just left his girl cause she kept borrowing money from him and asking him to pay her bills. Nobody likes a leech.

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I think there are two different topics being discussed in this thread...:lachen:


Anyways,

I would give you excuses too....better yet, I'd tell you NO!!! if you constantly need money to hold you over, then you are the broke one not him; he just don't want to give you money.

Also, its been my experience that you don't have to ask; when a man is into you, he offers; he wants to make sure you have everything you need.
 
msdr said:
My coworker just vented to me about this situation and is ready to break up with dude behind this. I told her to get a 2nd job and quit messing with his fool.

They've been together a couple of years, she usually pays for their dates. She showed me a $300 watch she bought him for Christmas. She came in the next week upset, becuase he didn't get her anything. He said he was broke. She's steady saying they are going to get married, but since neither one of them have a pot or a window I think she needs to focus on getting her bank account in order.
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But why is he broke? Is he "paying back student loans/has a part-time job while in school" broke or "has poor money management skills/misdirected priorities" broke? As far as the original question goes, if someone is constantly asking their SO for money to "hold them over", I think they need to stop asking for "loans" and start making changes with their approach to their own finances.
 
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Yes. I don't do broke, never did, never will ISA.

Ok missed the bit about asking a SO for money:nono: if he wants to he would offer, I wouldn't give you my money either.
 
It sounds like your gf is having money problems because she is paying for all the dates and buys him expensive gifts. He in return pays for no dates, accepts her nice gifts, drives her car, and uses up her gas. If she drops him and quits dating users she will probably be okay. But we all know she likes the drama and thinks having any man is better than being single. She is pitiful, hopefully she will wise up sooner than later.
 
Sounds as if she should have dropped him long ago. He is a moocher.

He might even have a little bit of money but he knows she will use up hers.
 
Never ever asked any man for money and I don't expect to be asked either. A guy was telling me that he used to give his ex money every week, I asked, "what for," he said "so she could go out." What? :perplexed I don't understand people, I really don't.
 
You know very well when most woman says "borrow" to a bf/husband it means she wants him to give her money.


It's obvious that it's "code" for I want you to give me money, some women use "borrow" instead of just straight asking

It's things like this that remind me of the disconnect.

Your arse should WANT to spend money on me, I shouldnt even have to ask. Dealbreaker with your cheap arse bf. :rofl:

Seriously though, this reminds me of last week's Curb.
 
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Maybe I'm missing something, but i don't see anything wrong with her asking her boyfriend to borrow 40, or 50 dollars. I could see if it were hundreds or thousands at a time. I find it very hard to believe that some commenters have never in their lives asked their significant other to borrow money in the whole course of the relationship.
 
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CarmelCupcake said:
Maybe I'm missing something, but i don't see anything wrong with her asking her boyfriend to borrow 40, or 50 dollars. I could see if it were hundreds or thousands at a time. I find it very hard to believe that some commenters have never in their lives asked their significant other to borrow money in the whole course of the relationship.
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I can honestly say that I have not. Men have spent money on me date's and gifts, but so far as me asking nope, not until I was married. Actually after I was married my husband just gave me money, I didn't have to ask. He would set aside money at home for my "pocket money". I don't know why it is so hard to believe.

He would sometimes claim that he made me lunch and would put $15 in a paper bag and put it by my house keys.
 
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CarmelCupcake said:
Maybe I'm missing something, but i don't see anything wrong with her asking her boyfriend to borrow 40, or 50 dollars. I could see if it were hundreds or thousands at a time. I find it very hard to believe that some commenters have never in their lives asked their significant other to borrow money in the whole course of the relationship.
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I don't see anything wrong with asking a bf for $40 or $50 dollars on occasion but in this situation it's sort of delusional. If a man is driving your car, allowing you to pay for dates, and accepting your expensive gifts while not reciprocating at all, why on earth would you think he'd loan you money? But in general I personally don't see why a bf would have a problem giving you money sometimes. For most adult men with good jobs it would not be that big of a deal and they would just give it to you, no when you gonna pay me back.
 
She's paying for all their dates. She's dumb.
she lets him use her car. Double dumb. Let him take the bus!

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He must be putting it down or something.

She's the one having money issues, not him. He's doing only what she allows him to do....which is freeload.

-A
 
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