He never has any money, is it a deal breaker?

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LongTimeComing

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The guy you're involved with always has an excuse when you ask for a little cash to hold you over ($40-$50). How would you feel?
 
How long have the two people been involved in a relationship? Maybe he doesn't like having someone always borrow (or want to borrow) money from him.
 
That doesn't necessarily indicate he's broke. Do you mean the problem is he's broke or the problem is he's not giving you (general you) his money?
 
Dealbreaker.
I find that when a man is into you, he won't even want to borrow from you, he will want to be seen as provider.

eta: oh snap! read it wrong. i thought he was asking to hold money from you...

I don't really ask my man for money, he always offers. But i can't stand a stingy man either. With my ex from way back, we were doing his grocery shopping and i realised i would need tampons and threw a box in his trolley. Two weeks later he texted me talking bout 'i'm going to need that tampon money back"...TIGHT FUCCER!:lachen::lachen:
 
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Forget what he does or doesn't have... I would first have to take a look at myself to find out why I need to borrow as little as $40-$50 from someone.
 
My coworker just vented to me about this situation and is ready to break up with dude behind this. I told her to get a 2nd job and quit messing with his fool.

They've been together a couple of years, she usually pays for their dates. She showed me a $300 watch she bought him for Christmas. She came in the next week upset, becuase he didn't get her anything. He said he was broke. She's steady saying they are going to get married, but since neither one of them have a pot or a window I think she needs to focus on getting her bank account in order.
 
lesedi said:
With my ex from way back, we were doing his grocery shopping and i realised i would need tampons and threw a box in his trolley. Two weeks later he texted me talking bout 'i'm going to need that tampon money back"...TIGHT FUCCER!:lachen::lachen:
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Did you tell him to jam those tampon's up his arse? :lachen: That would have loosen him up a bit.

To answer the original question, I have never ask any man for money that wasn't my husband. That makes me feel uncomfortable, because I sure as heck don't want no negro ask me to hold a little change.
 
LOL @ "you're broke every time I try to borrow money from you. Imma need you to get your finances together." :look:

lolwhat?
 
I never have to ask my SO for money he just offers it to me, but I'm also a full time grad student living off student loans and my measly teaching stipend lol.
 
msdr said:
My coworker just vented to me about this situation and is ready to break up with dude behind this. I told her to get a 2nd job and quit messing with his fool.

They've been together a couple of years, she usually pays for their dates. She showed me a $300 watch she bought him for Christmas. She came in the next week upset, becuase he didn't get her anything. He said he was broke. She's steady saying they are going to get married, but since neither one of them have a pot or a window I think she needs to focus on getting her bank account in order.
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She shouldn't be blowing $300 on watches if her finances aren't in order enough for her to not need to ask to hold $50.
 
As for him not getting her a Christmas gift, I won't say that means he doesn't love her. Some men are just so bad with money that they can't plan beyond their next paycheck.

Among most of the married couples I know, it is the woman who manages the money for the home. And most of those women (myself included) leave reminders, drop not-so-subtle hints for the gifts we want. If you know your guy is crappy at gift-giving occasions, don't leave it to him and make yourself miserable.
 
msdr said:
My coworker just vented to me about this situation and is ready to break up with dude behind this. I told her to get a 2nd job and quit messing with his fool.

They've been together a couple of years, she usually pays for their dates. She showed me a $300 watch she bought him for Christmas. She came in the next week upset, becuase he didn't get her anything. He said he was broke. She's steady saying they are going to get married, but since neither one of them have a pot or a window I think she needs to focus on getting her bank account in order.
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she stuck on stoopit n broke da hell down on dumb. a worn and tired puddi, an empty bag times a broke bama is not da bidness. and then she comes to work and talks about it.

she's late...she breakin up with him cuz HE broke. yeah, ok.
 
freelove said:
I feel like the title of this thread is misleading :lol:
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I didn't know what else to put... :look: I understand her being a little upset, but I would be more upset with myself for being in the situation.

This is the same girl I was telling yall about who makes good money and is getting dropped off at work in her own car so he can use her car to get to work. :look: But he never has any money. :/
 
Umm, I wouldn't ask my SO for $40-$50. Granted, I'm a grad student still living at home so my expenses are all taken care of, but unless we're married, there's no reason for me to ask him for money.:perplexed So, if a woman is constantly asking her SO for money and he refuses, the problem isn't with him, but the woman. The issue isn't whether he is broke or not, but she needs to get her finances in order.
 
:lol: :lol: :lol: if I was him, I would dump you. He's nice to even still be around period. $40-$50 to hold you over? Someone I'm "involved" with? :lachen:

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msdr said:
I didn't know what else to put... :look: I understand her being a little upset, but I would be more upset with myself for being in the situation.

This is the same girl I was telling yall about who makes good money and is getting dropped off at work in her own car so he can use her car to get to work. :look: But he never has any money. :/
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Say no more.:nono::nono: You already know what time it is. And I'll be damned if a man was driving my car and wont lend me any money. I bet he dont even put gas in it and when a flat tire comes he looking around for help.:perplexed
 
She has no right to complain because being in this situation is HER fault. Not his. The next post you do is going to be about how he breaks up with her because she's always asking for money and that she's too broke for him. "The car was nice but uhhhh... you always askin to hold somethin so I can't be with you anymore". Then she gon be cryin because no man is around to make her feel validated.

Tell her *SkolarStar* said, SitYoArseDown! :nono:
 
ThickHair said:
Did you tell him to jam those tampon's up his arse? :lachen: That would have loosen him up a bit.

To answer the original question, I have never ask any man for money that wasn't my husband. That makes me feel uncomfortable, because I sure as heck don't want no negro ask me to hold a little change.
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This.

I have NEVER asked a man for money in my life, not even that year I was unemployed.
 
msdr said:
My coworker just vented to me about this situation and is ready to break up with dude behind this. I told her to get a 2nd job and quit messing with his fool.

They've been together a couple of years, she usually pays for their dates. She showed me a $300 watch she bought him for Christmas. She came in the next week upset, becuase he didn't get her anything. He said he was broke. She's steady saying they are going to get married, but since neither one of them have a pot or a window I think she needs to focus on getting her bank account in order.
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Ooooh, okay. Cuz from the original post, it wasn't clear that he was broke, maybe just that he didnt want to keep giving her money. But I see from this post that he probably is broke.

I would be really upset if my guy got me nothing for Christmas and never took me out.
 
Uhh what? Why is she putting up with a grown man that isn't willing to pay for darn near anything? She pays for the dates and lets him ride around in her car all day and who knows what else and he can't even get her a christmas gift? Not anything? The only excuse that may be acceptable is he doesn't work. If that's not the case then wow, why is she even with him still? I sure as heck wouldn't be.

So yes being broke is a deal breaker. If you're falling on rough times I understand that but if you've been like that since we met or that's the norm for you then nah son.
 
I doubt she is broke to everyone saying it. She is probably asking for money because she feels it should be fifty/fifty. She probably doesn't need the money but wants him to for once say "Here babe here is some money for xyz". If this has been going on this long she needs to leave him. If she doesn't want to leave she should cut him off financially ans encourage him to get a damn job. I would go with the first choice because I have tried the second and it did not end,well.

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