"He is saving for the ring...."

[MizAvalon]

I remember about ten years ago, a good friend asked me to come with her to look for an engagement ring. She said that she and her BF at the time were talking marriage (i.e. her bullying him to marry her ) and came up with a plan that she would pick out her ring, give the information to me with her choices and ring size, and her BF would come to me when he was ready so that it would all be a surprise.

I knew then that he was never going to be giving me a call and I actually still have the little card in my wallet I think he said those things to her to get her shut up about it. If a guy is ready and wants to do the ring thing, he will more than likely come to the contact himself and work out the details.

JewelleNY whatever happened with your friend? Did she ever get married? To him or anyone else?

 

[okange76]

I agree. If a man wants to marry you he will make it happen. Co-Worker got engaged last week on Valentine's day. Wedding is this Friday. JP then dinner at a restaurant with friends and family. Money's got nothing to do with it. Plus she broke all the "rules" including shacking up and he's marrying her in less than 2 years.

Another story, my cousin divorced 2 kids, new man never married no kids, well paying job, respectful etc etc , It's been eight months and he is ring shopping and they have started looking for a place. He gave her conditions in that if she decided to date him, she better be ready to get married within a year. He has no time for games. He gave her time to go and think about it and she hemmed and hawed till she realized she was blocking her blessings. Oh and he is the celibate one so she's been having a hard time with her hot blooded self. I have talked her off the ledge plenty of times.

Another girlfriend from first date to actual wedding date - 8 months.

I repeat, when a man wants to get married he will find a woman that suits his needs and make it happen as quick as humanly possible.

 

[JewelleNY]

JewelleNY whatever happened with your friend? Did she ever get married? To him or anyone else?

[USER]MizAvalan[/USER]

She has not That guy turned out to have real issues. I could tell he was not as into her as she was him. He ended up marrying his distant cousin

She is usually the aggressive one in her relationships and often dates guys with issues. She seems to be taking a break right now.

 

[NOEChic]

I agree. If a man wants to marry you he will make it happen. Co-Worker got engaged last week on Valentine's day. Wedding is this Friday. JP then dinner at a restaurant with friends and family. Money's got nothing to do with it. Plus she broke all the "rules" including shacking up and he's marrying her in less than 2 years.

Another story, my cousin divorced 2 kids, new man never married no kids, well paying job, respectful etc etc , It's been eight months and he is ring shopping and they have started looking for a place. He gave her conditions in that if she decided to date him, she better be ready to get married within a year. He has no time for games. He gave her time to go and think about it and she hemmed and hawed till she realized she was blocking her blessings. Oh and he is the celibate one so she's been having a hard time with her hot blooded self. I have talked her off the ledge plenty of times.

Another girlfriend from first date to actual wedding date - 8 months.

I repeat, when a man wants to get married he will find a woman that suits his needs and make it happen as quick as humanly possible.

That right there shows me that while he was marriage minded it wasn't her or anything she did that put him there. Men (not all) will think ok 2013 is the year I want to get married so the next chick I get with I will ask to marry. Want to know how I know? Heard it straight from the horses mouth. My ex was with one of his ex's for 7 years. They were engaged for about 2 years I want to say. They never got married. I come a few years later and basically that is what he told me.

 

[JewelleNY]

I just want to add that just because a guy is marriage minded early on does not necessarily mean he will be a goog husband or is the right guy. In the past, I have been proposed to and guys will often try to do the ring hunt early on but they usually turned out to be the possessive controlling type and they rarely made little effort to get to know me outside of my outward appearance.

Make sure the guy is trying to get to know you when he is talking marriage, you don't want to leap just because the guy is talking rings and marriage.

 

[NOEChic]

But aren't you stationed somewhere?

This was my ex husband. He had came to visit me for basic training graduation and then he left. I had my cellphone with me and he called me and asked me to marry him while I was held over at Lackland

 

[Angelinhell]

Hmm, well do you guys think the same about people saving up for a wedding when there's no engagement OR ring? My brother told my mom this about a week or so ago. He says I'm saving up because I know she wants a wedding. Didn't sound right to me. There's a lot more details to this situation though.

 

[NOEChic]

Hmm, well do you guys think the same about people saving up for a wedding when there's no engagement OR ring? My brother told my mom this about a week or so ago. He says I'm saving up because I know she wants a wedding. Didn't sound right to me. There's a lot more details to this situation though.

I dont see a problem with that. He might be planning on asking her and taking some of the money for the weedding and putting it on a ring. He has a plan and that is better than most people

 

[Angelinhell]

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[NOEChic]

thats they life let them be ratchet