"He is saving for the ring...."

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vevster

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I know someone that has been saying this, unprompted for the past 2 years. This time she was showing pics of rings she liked.

They broke up, AGAIN, the week of Valentine's day.

I'm thinking she thought a ring was coming and either found out before or was unsurprised on the day itself....


Thoughts?

I say, don't say anything about a ring until you are wearing it. :up:
 
I feel sorry for women like this. The men never marry them.

Oh, and no man unless he is a young student is "saving" for a ring for 2 years.:perplexed
 
Rings come in all different price ranges and you mean to tell me she's been falling for this lame excuse for 2 years. She needs to move on because this man is not trying to marry her.
 
My husband sold alot of his jewellery AND put cash on top of it to buy the ring i asked for.If he s not willing to make her happy He doesn't want to commit at that level .
 
I just saw a girl get engaged and dude got a ring from walmart he had on layaway, THAT is a man that wants to get married:lol:
 
BEAUTYU2U said:
If there's no ring, there's no engagement. Period.
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BEAUTYU2U Maybe for you personally and that is ok, but I disagree with that as the sole reason for not having an engagement in general. I was engaged without a ring and got married. He ask, we set a date and we got married. Wedding bands were exchanged, but nah, no engagement ring.
 
BEAUTYU2U said:
You're probably the exception.
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[USER=165682]BEAUTYU2U Nah, I think plenty other's do and may be a bit embrassed by that fact and just keep it on the low.

[GASP] "You got engaged without a ring", so non-unicornish. That doesn't happen to LHCF ladies.

Different strokes for different folks. Remember that there are plenty of women with engagement rings and no wedding, nor husband. Just food for thought, an engagement ring means nothing with no follow through. Just my take on it. :)

Oh if I marry again, it wouldn't happen again. I am in my 40's so nah, not the kid.
 
ThickHair said:
[USER=165682]BEAUTYU2U Nah, I think plenty other's do and may be a bit embrassed by that fact and just keep it on the low.

[GASP] "You got engaged without a ring", so non-unicornish. That doesn't happen to LHCF ladies.

Different strokes for different folks. Remember that there are plenty of women with engagement rings and no wedding, nor husband. Just food for thought, an engagement ring means nothing with no follow through. Just my take on it. :)

Oh if I marry again, it wouldn't happen again. I am in my 40's so nah, not the kid.
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They call those rings SHUT UP rings.
 
ThickHair said:
BEAUTYU2U Maybe for you personally and that is ok, but I disagree with that as the sole reason for not having an engagement in general. I was engaged without a ring and got married. He ask, we set a date and we got married. Wedding bands were exchanged, but nah, no engagement ring.
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I have friends that didn't have a ring and got married, very good couples. One of them had a disabled child so an engagement ring was bottom of their list of priorities at the time.

If you set a date and book the venue, then marriage is happening:lol:.

Also met a lot of young people with a ring, but no date. Or something crazy like a 5 year engagement (that the man set) lol.
 
Hm well I can't say I've heard too many successful engagements w/o rings. But maybe it has to do with age too. Like if it's teenagers versus grad students, etc.
 
Humph. I bet not get no Walmart rang :lol:


But yeah seriously if he really did want to get married he would have just purchased the nicest one he could afford after six months to a year IMO. Rings can be upgraded, right? I'd be ok with a starter ring but I'm not sure if that is the norm.

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BrownieBrie said:
Some people will find any excuse not to get married, while others will do whatever it takes to make it happen.
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Je Ne Sais Quoi said:
Humph. I bet not get no Walmart rang :lol:


But yeah seriously if he really did want to get married he would have just purchased the nicest one he could afford after six months to a year IMO. Rings can be upgraded, right? I'd be ok with a starter ring but I'm not sure if that is the norm.

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I'm not saying everyone wants a walmart ring:lol: but a man that wants to get married WILL get married- $200 or 20K. He won't worry about saving for a ring, he will do it. I've seen it over and over.
 
I remember about ten years ago, a good friend asked me to come with her to look for an engagement ring. She said that she and her BF at the time were talking marriage (i.e. her bullying him to marry her :look:) and came up with a plan that she would pick out her ring, give the information to me with her choices and ring size, and her BF would come to me when he was ready so that it would all be a surprise.

I knew then that he was never going to be giving me a call and I actually still have the little card in my wallet :lol: I think he said those things to her to get her shut up about it. If a guy is ready and wants to do the ring thing, he will more than likely come to the contact himself and work out the details.
 
BEAUTYU2U said:
If there's no ring, there's no engagement. Period.
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I have to disagree with this. My husband (of 12 years) asked me to marry him about two months after we started dating. He asked while in the moment, yes the brother got whipped into proposing, LOL ;-). Later we shopped for rings and I eventually picked out my diamond and setting but later he said he couldn't afford the one I wanted. I kindly just told him to get whichever one he can afford. Several months later he proposed with the exact diamond and setting he said he couldn't afford. The point is, he made it happen but I was more than willing to accept one of lesser quality.

His actions before and/or after that tells you if he is full if Sh!t and this guy has it coming from his ears. I do feel bad for the ladies who can't see the forest through the trees. Dude is stringing her along and taking her for a joy ride.

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Zaynab said:
I just saw a girl get engaged and dude got a ring from walmart he had on layaway, THAT is a man that wants to get married:lol:
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THIS is what I'm talking about. A man that wants to get married will find a way to get a ring, ANY ring.
 
ThickHair said:
Different strokes for different folks. Remember that there are plenty of women with engagement rings and no wedding, nor husband. Just food for thought, an engagement ring means nothing with no follow through. Just my take on it. :)
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Is it just me or is this happening more frequently? Women with "shut up" rings who have been engaged for years and it's clear to everyone except them that they are never getting married?

Oh, and apparently there is some kind of thing happening now where women are buying their OWN rings? Say WHAT?!:perplexed
 
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