He doesn't want to tell ladies in his past.

silenttullip

silenttullip

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Okay so my galpal is married only a few weeks. So I ask her how did his friends take it "he has a few female friends that call" they don't even know she exist... He hasn't and I'm sure won't tell them BUT when its work or anything else he always wants to make it clear... Is it for advancement and just something to hide otherwise but nothing she has to worry about? Or is she right to take it as a giant sign that she can't trust him? What do ya think? Just all seems pretty junior high to me they're knocking on 50
 
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Only he knows the answer to that, and that's exactly why I feel she should talk to him about it.

This makes me uneasy though. I'd think a newly married man would be shouting it from the rooftops.
 
Or is she right to take it as a giant sign that she can't trust him?
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I'm wondering why she didn't 'make' him knock these girls outta his life prior to the marriage. He may want/need a wife for advancement in the workplace, etc. but still may want to fool around. She needs to put her foot down.
 
ROFLMAO u gonna throw a red flag on the play huh shoot thats what I was thinking too but she was like "ur young and makin somethin outta nothin"

awhyley said:
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I'm wondering why she didn't 'make' him knock these girls outta his life prior to the marriage. He may want/need a wife for advancement in the workplace, etc. but still may want to fool around. She needs to put her foot down.
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silenttullip said:
Okay so my galpal is married only a few weeks. So I ask her how did his friends take it "he has a few female friends that call" they don't even know she exist... He hasn't and I'm sure won't tell them BUT when its work or anything else he always wants to make it clear... Is it for advancement and just something to hide otherwise but nothing she has to worry about? Or is she right to take it as a giant sign that she can't trust him? What do ya think? Just all seems pretty junior high to me they're knocking on 50
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Am I reading this correctly? He basically has female friends that doesn't know that he has a wife and just got married?

WTF?
 
silenttullip said:
YOU ARE CORRECT MA'AM lol she said one time she coughed and he told the girl it was the TV smh
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:perplexed

She should have never married him. Ever. He must have been doing this prior to them even getting married.

I wouldn't be surprised if he is stepping out. He's hiding his marriage from other women in front of her. How are you gonna talk about that was the TV and not mention the fact "my wife just coughed."

The writing is on the wall. She needs to bounce and get this situation handled/annulled.

This can't be life :nono:
 
silenttullip said:
I guess she didn't really ask she just made it like me thinking it odd was so far fetched so I hada ask ya'll since I'm just "young"
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Even worse. You are right is odd on the best day and a deal breaker on every other day.


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IA with the gigantic red flag up there ^^. What excuse does he give for not telling these women he's married/ has an SO??
 
She said something like when she asks he gets irritated and says it doesn't matter if they know. idk she just sent a text sayn I should be more respectful smh I wasn't rude...

Urban said:
IA with the gigantic red flag up there ^^. What excuse does he give for not telling these women he's married/ has an SO??
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silenttullip said:
she said one time she coughed and he told the girl it was the TV smh
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:nono:Why Did She Even Give A Man Of This Nature The Time Of Day.

This Is A Red Flag To Me. If A Man Doesn't Want To Tell A "Lady Friend" He Is Married, (My Opinion) That Just May Mean He Has Some Type Of Intimate Relationship With These "Lady Friends".
Why Else Would A Man Want To Keep His Marriage/Wife A Secret?
 
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She said something like when she asks he gets irritated and says it doesn't matter if they know. idk she just sent a text sayn I should be more respectful smh I wasn't rude...
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:nono: Disaster. If he really loved her and had nothing to hide, he wouldn't be hiding her from his friends. Oh dear, and they're already married too.

Huh, that YOU should be more respectful? Why, because you're telling her this behaviour is suspect? Umm.... I'd just leave it alone then eh.
 
It is never a good sign when a man will not or cannot acknowledge that you are his wife an acquaintance of mine had this exact same problem in that he refused to introduced or let alone acknowledge her existence to his so called friends and he had good reason too because he was in another relationship. I hope that unlike my acquaintance she will get out before the other woman unapologetically knocks on her door accompanied by his two kids demanding to see him.
 
Whoa thats wild right there... I don't know they've lived together a few years and stuff was cool but I didn't know about this craziness until yesterday...
He said SHE could do it but he wasn't gonna be the one but at the same time I guess since I didn't talk to him (maybe I should have, we're cool) I didn't et the whole story. I hope she's just tripping but I would be uncomfy and I told her so...

hanna_light said:
It is never a good sign when a man will not or cannot acknowledge that you are his wife an acquaintance of mine had this exact same problem in that he refused to introduced or let alone acknowledge her existence to his so called friends and he had good reason too because he was in another relationship. I hope that unlike my acquaintance she will get out before the other woman unapologetically knocks on her door accompanied by his two kids demanding to see him.
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I think I will...
I didn't respond to her text so I'll just hush lol

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:nono: Disaster. If he really loved her and had nothing to hide, he wouldn't be hiding her from his friends. Oh dear, and they're already married too.

Huh, that YOU should be more respectful? Why, because you're telling her this behaviour is suspect? Umm.... I'd just leave it alone then eh.
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silenttullip said:
She said something like when she asks he gets irritated and says it doesn't matter if they know. idk she just sent a text sayn I should be more respectful smh I wasn't rude...
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silenttullip said:
I think I will...
I didn't respond to her text so I'll just hush lol
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Yes, I would just hush if I were you. I would make it a point to never respond to any comments she makes on the subject. She knows he is foul and when she's had enough she will do something about it.
 
Sounds like he doesn't want to "hurt" them, which means that they may actually...gulp...mean something to him.

Or maybe he doesn't want to "hurt" what he's getting from them.
 
silenttullip said:
She said something like when she asks he gets irritated and says it doesn't matter if they know. idk she just sent a text sayn I should be more respectful smh I wasn't rude...
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It's because she knows what's up but you saying it out loud forces her to pay attention to it instead of ignore it, like she's trying to do. "That was the tv" get outta here, man, she knows full well what that's about.
 
Booooooooy the things some of us will put up with. Damn. She knows smthn ain't right!

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Smh. Getting married, almost 50 & your husband denying you like Peter did Jesus. Must be a very heavy/sparkling wedding ring to put up with that nonsense.
 
RarityFluttershy said:
:nono:Why Did She Even Give A Man Of This Nature The Time Of Day.

This Is A Red Flag To Me. If A Man Doesn't Want To Tell A "Lady Friend" He Is Married, (My Opinion) That Just May Mean He Has Some Type Of Intimate Relationship With These "Lady Friends".
Why Else Would A Man Want To Keep His Marriage/Wife A Secret?
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Exactly. My eyebrows would be in my hairline if dude didn't even tell his female friends that he was in a relationship much less getting married. I'm not one for "Now I'm here you can't have any female friends", but he had better let them know the deal and be sure they respect our relationship. But it sure does look like he's not even respecting their relationship- or her.
 
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It sounds to me like your friend is getting on in age and wanted to get married, and didn't care WHAT she was marrying.

I can't think of any other reason someone would put up with that bulls***. It was the tv? For serious? :nono:
 
hopeful said:
Yes, I would just hush if I were you. I would make it a point to never respond to any comments she makes on the subject. She knows he is foul and when she's had enough she will do something about it.
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This!!!! I don't understand why people complain about their relationships THEN get mad when someone tells the real deal. She does know he's foul; otherwise, she wouldn't be complaining about it.

Myjourney2009 said:
He is a KANG.

What the heck did they get married for. I wish I would.... *grumble, grumble*
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Why do I :lachen:everytime I see the word "KANG"?
 
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