thatscuteright
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if you are not down with dealing with a man that is separated, don't even bother wasting anymore time.
I would tell him Holla at me when he has that situation figured out......until then find someone else who might if he gets deported... I've seen it time and time again. They woo you..marry you..gets that paper then forgets you.
Oh and they are usually the ones looking to settle down and very involved in church....
Err on the side of caution... The fact it has been ten years and no progress on his paperwork???
All communication has been cut off. A friend had me feeling some kind of way as if I was missing out something that could be great
How is it that he's able to work but not go to school?
I'd be too suspicious to even bother dating him. People get paid handsomely to marry illegals. A friend was offered $10K. It's nowhere near as bad as it was prior to 9/11 since the immigration officials do a lot more digging and follow up visits.
Scenario:
You are 31, relatively accomplished, have done well for yourself, mind your own business, and keep a low profile.
Your mom sets you up with a man from her church, nice, hard working, same faith, from parents country, etc.... You talk to him on the phone and exchange facebook friend requests.
After talking on the phone 2x, you discover that he has been in the country for 10 years, has a decent job but wants to go back to school to become a pharmacist or PA. He's 37, ambitious, hardworking and wants more for himself including wife and family.
He came here with the intention of furthering his education , you ask him why he was not able to, he tells you that he does not have legal papers. At that point your interest wains and you make some excuse about being busy and soon avoid all his calls.
Are you overreacting?
ETA:
He told your mom that he was looking for a nice young lady, God fearing, etc....because he is ready to be married and wants a wife .
What if he turned out to be a pretty good guy tho? Who ended up loving and caring and providing the way any woman has ever dreamt about? Mind u, I'd be suspicious as all get up, but I kinda have in my mind also that he's a man who's in his prime who regardless of needing the papers, at this age would also want a wife and kids and to settle.....
But then again, that's kinda not ur prb lol. Me thinks he can find another woman who can give him all he desires. At the end of the day if ur uncomfortable, I agree with u exiting stage left.
All the guys Ive known who didnt have papers found women to marry them in the church.