He bluntly tells you he has no money...

[PretteePlease]

...but he will soon when he gets his "situation" together (job, more money, etc.) but still wants to talk to you every now and then and still likes you. Would you wait for him (but keep yourself busy with dating other people) or drop him like a hot potato?

I would ask of his past. If he has made good money in the past more than likely he can get back on his feet. If he has never obtained an education, really made good money, or had any property then I would bluntly tell him my lotus garden is an a permanent drouth.

 

[sunnieb]

How old is he?

If he is in his teens/early twenties then he is entitled to be 'getting it together'.

In his 30's - nah son. That's bull he's dishing out. Next.

This is it in a nutshell.

Don't get caught up romantically just yet.

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[SurferBabe]

Don't do it! You will waste a year with him and he STILL won't have his stuff together. Believe me, been there, done that, and don't even have a t-shirt to show for it. I have a thread on here about a similar situation.

 

[naturalmanenyc]

Noooo scrubs......
If he is grown he needs to focus on getting his ish together rather than dating.

Teens and college guys get a pass.

 

[Ayesha81]

This reminds me of a guy who told me the same thing but come to find out he just didnt want to spend any money in the relationship buts still expected to get the goods......lol

 

[chocolat79]

Initially, I would say, it would depend on the "situation". But, after hearing the VAGUE terms, independence and success, it's probably best to leave him alone. People who have a plan/ambition/goal are specific. He'd say something like "I'm trying to get my own place by (insert date), and then my next goal is xyz..." Those jokas who aren't doing anything, throw some vague terms out there and hope that "independence and success" will be enough to rope you in. IF he were talking about FINANCIAL independence, that's a whole 'nother ballgame and you should still expect details.

I'm going to go with "Throw that fish back in the water for $200, Alex."

 

[Triniwegian]

When I met my honey we were both flat broke. He was just done with school and I was still working on my degree.
Him being "broke" did not bother me because I knew it was temporary and he had concrete goals and a plan for what he would to get out of the post-college rut. It didn't bother me because we were in the same boat and his efforts paid off quickly.

If he has concrete goals, a degree/trade and can show you that he is motivated and is actually doing what he promised, i'd give him a chance but if it's all fluff and lofty ambitions I wouldn't enetertain it.

 

[greenandchic]

Sounds like my ex husband.

 

[ManeStreet]

at least he told u so that u can decide for youself

 

[ThickHair]

When I met my honey we were both flat broke. He was just done with school and I was still working on my degree.
Him being "broke" did not bother me because I knew it was temporary and he had concrete goals and a plan for what he would to get out of the post-college rut. It didn't bother me because we were in the same boat and his efforts paid off quickly.

If he has concrete goals, a degree/trade and can show you that he is motivated and is actually doing what he promised, i'd give him a chance but if it's all fluff and lofty ambitions I wouldn't enetertain it.

Both of you were broke, I call that even.

 

[FoxxyLocs]

When I met my honey we were both flat broke. He was just done with school and I was still working on my degree.
Him being "broke" did not bother me because I knew it was temporary and he had concrete goals and a plan for what he would to get out of the post-college rut. It didn't bother me because we were in the same boat and his efforts paid off quickly.

If he has concrete goals, a degree/trade and can show you that he is motivated and is actually doing what he promised, i'd give him a chance but if it's all fluff and lofty ambitions I wouldn't enetertain it.

This was my situation also. When you are in college and he's in college, or a new grad, that's the time to stick it out. When you are deep into your career and he hasn't even started trying to get himself together, it's a waste of time, unless you just don't care about being with a successful man, which is fine too.