He bluntly tells you he has no money...

**SaSSy**

**SaSSy**

3rd Big Chop on 7/18/2016
...but he will soon when he gets his "situation" together (job, more money, etc.) but still wants to talk to you every now and then and still likes you. Would you wait for him (but keep yourself busy with dating other people) or drop him like a hot potato?
 
if i like him, then i would kick it with him but go dutch when we go out and date other men. we wouldn't be exclusive until he gets it together. i don't judge people and everyone goes through hard times. i wont with hold my friendship just because someone is struggling. but to date me you at least need to have it together. i mean i do.......
 
How old is he?

If he is in his teens/early twenties then he is entitled to be 'getting it together'.

In his 30's - nah son. That's bull he's dishing out. Next.
 
Hmm...that's a tough one...:scratchch

I think for me it would have to depend on a few things:
1)How old is he?
2)WHY does he not have any money? (If it's because he got laid off unexpectedly, or he has had some "surprise" financial obligations come up, then that's one thing. But if it's because he's knee-deep in debt, and doesn't manage his finances well, then naaaahhhh son. :nono:)
 
I have a lot to say about this BUT I will be brief.

I met a dude that was coming out of a marriage and he basically said the same thing. When I met him I was in dating mode and was actually on my way to have dinner with another guy. This guy introduced himself and just started talking bluntly about himself while asking about me. Long story short I never made it to dinner with the other guy. This man was very different and he made it easy for me to be comfortable. He didn't put on a mask and I didn't have to play the role.

Most men are lying when we meet them. Lying to make themselves look good. The difference is the blunt guy told you the truth. Can you handle it?

I have been with that guy for 3 years now and he has done more for me than both of my ex husbands and anybody else I was dating. He was back on his feet in about 4-5 mos after we met, however he was not flat broke when I met him he had his own everything including and income it just wasn't what he was use to but he shared that with me.
 
You don't drop friends or acquaintances because their situation or money is funny unless it affects your life. It sounds like he knows he cannot be dating at this time nor asked to date you. He simply told you what's up and that he likes you. Take it for what it is, a simple statement.

I'm trying to understand where you get the thought of waiting when he didn't imply or ask you to?
 
To answer everyone's questions:

He's in his late 20's
And is interested in dating when his situation improves.

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What is his "situation"? Is he a broke law school student or a recovering street pharmacist? (I know those are two extremes but it depends). Did he ask you to wait?
 
depends on the what why how etc (especially age/what you are doing now!!)

i dated a phd student that tbh, shouldn't have been taking me out the way he did. school was funded + he had a stipend, but once he told me what it was later in the dating period i was like :perplexed: i mean, yay for spending money on me, but i'm not into living above your means. but he did have help from his parents (paid his insurance w/e).

since i tend to be drawn to the professional students (lol masters/phds/whatever) & have some strict financial goals myself, i wouldn't mind trying to date on a budget/find free things to do.

my friend makes half of what i make now, but he's super driven (money motivated :lol:) and i would consider him dateable. since i know his character/drive (and he has proven that he achieves his goals/gets things done).

idk i know so many people (men & women) who can make something out of nothing (new dude had no help from his family and made it through an elite/very expensive college w/o student loan debt, paid cash for a car, etc). so like...why are you broke? :look: :lol:
 
His "situation" is him working on his independence and becoming success

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**SaSSy** said:
His "situation" is him working on his independence and becoming success

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I don't like the fact that he has to work on his independence. :nono: What does that mean? Still living with mommy? Who is he depending on right now? I wouldn't stop talking to him but I would keep my options open. Life is too short to deal with brokearseness for years without knowing when the situation will get fixed

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**SaSSy** said:
His "situation" is him working on his independence and becoming success

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If his words were really "working on becoming a success" with no mention of a realistic plan/evidence of the wheels in motion, this would be the biggest tell for me. The working on independence thing would be a problem too.
 
I bluntly exit stage door left.

Broke: Its cute in high school. Expected in college. Unacceptable as a working, self sufficient adult.
 
You feedin us bits n pieces chile..

Who he live wif?

Is he workin right now? Cuz see all dat "i gotta situation" type shyt he tawkin is sum bull. What is da situation?

So wassup?

*puts newport one hunnit n ashtray and waits for it*
 
The more we talk he's less appealing to me on anything more than just a friend.

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^^^i can undastand dat cuz my puddi wont even get moist when a brotha tawkin bout some "im broke" and sum independence type shyt cuz right now, he aint got his paperwork in order. He tryna shuckle n jive you n shyt.

And see, if a man aint got his paperwork in order (i.e., own place, car, career and not a job), he need not step out there n try to date. He shoulda kept all dat to himself. Does he have a car? Prolly not. How he plan to datechu wif out no car? How yall gonna go out? Both of yall standin at da bus stop tawkin bout sum "we can ride allova town on an all day transfer" ....gtfoh wif dat. Or worse, you go pick him up from his parents house, u pull up blowin da horn and here dis bama come out da house runnin down da steps cheezin n shyt wif da whole fam peepin thru da curtains....then get in yo car sittin on da passenger side ridin shotgun. Chile puleez...you'll be an upgrade for him and his family would LOVE you cuz they would be lookin atchu to get his dumb azzz out da house cuz I know they tired if him....das why he keep tawkin bout some dayum independence!

Keep it pimpin Sassy. You aint dat hard up. Thats why he said he like u cuz aint nobody else checkin for him
 
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does he have any higher education? If not, i fail to see ANY redeeming quality that would even make me remotely interested in him.
 
ThatJerseyGirl said:
^^^i can undastand dat cuz my puddi wont even get moist when a brotha tawkin bout some "im broke" and sum independence type shyt cuz right now, he aint got his paperwork in order. He tryna shuckle n jive you n shyt.

And see, if a man aint got his paperwork in order (i.e., own place, car, career and not a job), he need not step out there n try to date. He shoulda kept all dat to himself. Does he have a car? Prolly not. How he plan to datechu wif out no car? How yall gonna go out? Both of yall standin at da bus stop tawkin bout sum "we can ride allova town on an all day transfer" ....gtfoh wif dat. Or worse, you go pick him up from his parents house, u pull up blowin da horn and here dis bama come out da house runnin down da steps cheezin n shyt wif da whole fam peepin thru da curtains....then get in yo car sittin on da passenger side ridin shotgun. Chile puleez...you'll be an upgrade for him and his family would LOVE you cuz they would be lookin atchu to get his dumb azzz out da house cuz I know they tired if him....das why he keep tawkin bout some dayum independence!

Keep it pimpin Sassy. You aint dat hard up. Thats why he said he like u cuz aint nobody else checkin for him
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You are so frigging funny.:lol::lachen:
 
ThatJerseyGirl said:
^^^i can undastand dat cuz my puddi wont even get moist when a brotha tawkin bout some "im broke" and sum independence type shyt cuz right now, he aint got his paperwork in order. He tryna shuckle n jive you n shyt.

And see, if a man aint got his paperwork in order (i.e., own place, car, career and not a job), he need not step out there n try to date. He shoulda kept all dat to himself. Does he have a car? Prolly not. How he plan to datechu wif out no car? How yall gonna go out? Both of yall standin at da bus stop tawkin bout sum "we can ride allova town on an all day transfer" ....gtfoh wif dat. Or worse, you go pick him up from his parents house, u pull up blowin da horn and here dis bama come out da house runnin down da steps cheezin n shyt wif da whole fam peepin thru da curtains....then get in yo car sittin on da passenger side ridin shotgun. Chile puleez...you'll be an upgrade for him and his family would LOVE you cuz they would be lookin atchu to get his dumb azzz out da house cuz I know they tired if him....das why he keep tawkin bout some dayum independence!

Keep it pimpin Sassy. You aint dat hard up. Thats why he said he like u cuz aint nobody else checkin for him
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OMG that did me in! :lachen::lachen::lachen:
 
:lachen::lachen::lachen::lachen:you make me laugh out loud every timeeeeeeeeeeee!!!!

jerseyyou need to put up an advice website---i would read it all day--mofos need da truf!!!! and you serve it every time!!!



ThatJerseyGirl said:
^^^i can undastand dat cuz my puddi wont even get moist when a brotha tawkin bout some "im broke" and sum independence type shyt cuz right now, he aint got his paperwork in order. He tryna shuckle n jive you n shyt.

And see, if a man aint got his paperwork in order (i.e., own place, car, career and not a job), he need not step out there n try to date. He shoulda kept all dat to himself. Does he have a car? Prolly not. How he plan to datechu wif out no car? How yall gonna go out? Both of yall standin at da bus stop tawkin bout sum "we can ride allova town on an all day transfer" ....gtfoh wif dat. Or worse, you go pick him up from his parents house, u pull up blowin da horn and here dis bama come out da house runnin down da steps cheezin n shyt wif da whole fam peepin thru da curtains....then get in yo car sittin on da passenger side ridin shotgun. Chile puleez...you'll be an upgrade for him and his family would LOVE you cuz they would be lookin atchu to get his dumb azzz out da house cuz I know they tired if him....das why he keep tawkin bout some dayum independence!

Keep it pimpin Sassy. You aint dat hard up. Thats why he said he like u cuz aint nobody else checkin for him
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drop him and wish him all the best

i seek relationships w/ people that are on my level or above
 
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