Hi....just wanted to share a few thoughts I had while reading through the thread...
As far at the anger about the lack of knowledge, that can really be said about so many areas in life. There are some people whose parents didn't teach them about nutrition, or money management, or the importance of education, so they were overweight, or bankrupt, or under educated until they sought out the knowledge that empowered them and possibly changed their lives. On a less dramatic scale, it's the same with hair care.
I didn't bc for just that reason, that was partially it. Also, you're probably right. Maybe I am weak. You're not the first person who has thought that. I cry at the end of every sad movie like a baby! I'm sensitive. I always have been so I guess I better learn to expect negative comments either way. Should I act more aggressively in response to negative things they say? How do I do that without being rude/disrespectful?
You don't have to be aggressive. It's more about the way you carry yourself. You have to be confident, and tell yourself that you are beautiful. However, if someone does say something outright disrespectful, you have to cut them off and correct them. If you're not sure if they are trying to be rude, ask for clarification. "What do you mean by that?" Don't just let the comment go, then wonder about it or let it bother you afterward.
This woman's TWA is soooo beautiful and this vid she made about rocking your TWA with confidence is great
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qKziSULrArg.
I would say It's normal to have mixed feelings sometimes Im transitioning Im in my 11th month and sometimes I think am I really the type to be natural (which doesnt really make sense). As far as the stares you receive when you are out dont assume that they are bad. I find myself staring at naturals hair all the time just yesterday I was waiting in lline to get a sandwich and the woman in front of me had the most beautiful shiny natural hair it wasnt long but it looked so healthy and the texture was gorgeous I was all up in her head she caught me looking I was embarrassed but she was really sweet and smiled wished everyone a good holiday before leaving. Dont assume the stares are a bad thingnthey could be admiring your hair.
As the poster above stated, don't assume the "stares" are negative. I stare at women with natural and relaxed hair. I can't help it - sometimes their hair is very long, or very thick, or their style is so unique, or their hair just looks pretty to me.
I saw a Hispanic woman today with 3C/4A tight curls. Her hair was APL, but I was trying to figure out how long it would be stretched, probably tailbone. I saw a little girl at church with cute little twists in her 4B hair...I stared at her in church. Some women might be admiring you and you don't even realize it. I assume you live in Brooklyn? Isn't natural hair quite common??? Anyway, your hair looks great and there are sooo many women who wish they had the confidence to rock their natural hair. You might end up being an inspiration to someone else. But, if you do choose to relax again in the future, you have to do what makes you happy.