Have you used a dating site to meet a man?

levette

levette

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If so, how was it? Would you do it again? Are you still with the person? Would you recommend it to anyone?
 
I was lucky the men I met were brilliant quality and great catches. Only dated about 3 though off the site (OKC). Was a lil picky.

It didn't work out with two of them although the dates were fun, but the last one I had to choose between him and my SO. He's great and we are still friends. I'm quite surprised there's guys like that on there tbh. Few and far between I must add. A lot of sifting involved.

I hate dating in general though. This was my first go at it and I couldn't the whole artificial feel to it.
 
I signed up for Eharmony last year. I was unsuccessful because I wasn't ready so I didn't put the time required to navigate the site and I was still hung up on an unavailable man. However, I wouldn't do E again. The site was not user friendly IMO and very few men of color were suggested to me. Again I wasn't ready so it could have been my unpreparedness.

A couple of months later I met my current SO IRL so I disconnected completely.
 
levette said:
If so, how was it? Would you do it again? Are you still with the person? Would you recommend it to anyone?
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Yes, about 5 years ago on match.com. It went well, and we ended up dating for almost 3 years. We are no longer together because our relationship wasn't strong enough to survive the long distance. Yes, I would recommend it to others. Dating online opens you up to a larger pool of men you wouldn't meet otherwise.
 
I met my babe on aim in let's say 04. I gave him my number but when he called a few times I was too scared to talk to him. He was sooo polite. He eventually gave up on calling me. Then we became fb friends somehow, but I never said anything to him til one day we were just having a random convo in my inbox and I asked him if he remembered me? He said yes. The rest is history he still remembers and we've been together for 3years this July.
 
I met my current SO on plenty of fish...I was on for months before I met anyone of any quality..I would date online again...prob not POF again..I would go to a paid site next time (hopefully I would never need to again)
 
I met my boyfriend on OKCupid. Was on for several months before I found him. There are definitely some quality men on there, you just have to filter through some chafe to get to them.

I'm always weary of any man who says, "You're so pretty/cool/put together/etc. Why are you on this site?" That lets me know that he thinks online dating is for people with something wrong with them and he's probably in that contingent. JMO.
 
I think POF America is unlike POF UK. It is awful and i'm hiding my profile this evening. :nono: I think it's a meeting place for the mentally disturbed. Just weirdo's on there. I think the only genuine people on there are the 55+ year olds. They send me such sweet messages but.....nah!!!
 
^ Agreed! I wouldn't recommend plenty of fish to anyone. I did end up talking to a few decent seeming guys but 90% seem crazy.
 
There are creeps on any site, but definitely on the free ones. I met my current SO on Black People Meet, but met a lot of nice guys on POF also. You just have to be a dang good screener.
 
I've used:

match.com
yahoo personals
lavalife
ok cupid
plenty of fish
eharmony
chemistry.com
howaboutwe.com
nerve.com

.....

none of them worked out for me! i did go on a few dates with a cute guy from lavalife.com but we only realized that we had been emailing when i ran into him at a film forum after party.

match.com - i always could meet one guy who was a good emailer and a friendship would com from it... attraction, yes, but there was always some reason a relationship never resulted (long distance, different cultural backgrounds, etc).

ok cupid - a handful of 1st dates, maybe a 2nd date but for the most part the guys were boring.

i've concluded that online dating is not a good choice for me! i have better chances of meeting a potential match in person, the old fashioned way.
 
Vanthie said:
^ Agreed! I wouldn't recommend plenty of fish to anyone. I did end up talking to a few decent seeming guys but 90% seem crazy.
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My friend met her dh on there. :lachen:
 
chiming in to say i found pof to be the pits :nono: i deleted my account from there without meeting any of the guys who messaged me.
 
LivingDol1 said:
I've used:

match.com
yahoo personals
lavalife
ok cupid
plenty of fish
eharmony
chemistry.com
howaboutwe.com
nerve.com

.....

none of them worked out for me! i did go on a few dates with a cute guy from lavalife.com but we only realized that we had been emailing when i ran into him at a film forum after party.

match.com - i always could meet one guy who was a good emailer and a friendship would com from it... attraction, yes, but there was always some reason a relationship never resulted (long distance, different cultural backgrounds, etc).

ok cupid - a handful of 1st dates, maybe a 2nd date but for the most part the guys were boring.

i've concluded that online dating is not a good choice for me! i have better chances of meeting a potential match in person, the old fashioned way.
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I totally agree!!
 
I used several dating sites and hated them all. I tried Match.com, Christian Single, Eharmony. Online dating is very superficial which makes things a lot more complicated than they should be. You really have to go at it with a calm mindset. It can be very draining. Would I try it again? Sure. While I have met a few decent guys online, it took plowing through hundreds of bad ones before getting to the good one. The guy I am currently dating, I met him at my local library. It was really nice to finally meet someone in a non online setting.
 
LivingDol1 said:
I've used:

match.com
yahoo personals
lavalife
ok cupid
plenty of fish
eharmony
chemistry.com
howaboutwe.com
nerve.com

.....

none of them worked out for me! i did go on a few dates with a cute guy from lavalife.com but we only realized that we had been emailing when i ran into him at a film forum after party.

match.com - i always could meet one guy who was a good emailer and a friendship would com from it... attraction, yes, but there was always some reason a relationship never resulted (long distance, different cultural backgrounds, etc).

ok cupid - a handful of 1st dates, maybe a 2nd date but for the most part the guys were boring.

i've concluded that online dating is not a good choice for me! i have better chances of meeting a potential match in person, the old fashioned way.
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LivingDol1: How is it using this site?
 
I've used both POF and okcupid. The guy I'm dating now is from POF. There are a LOT of fools on POF, but once you learn how to properly screen (and, trust me, that learning curve can be quite steep), there's plenty of Gems out there too!
 
Met current DH on Black People Meet; very happily married! Met my first husand through close mutual friends; he was a complete loser! I had my guard up and was very selective and cautious when I was dating online and I "vetted" my current DH myself. I didn't have my guard up when introduced to my first husband and didn't really "vet" him because I felt the close mutual friends who introduced us were vouching for his character. Bad move on my part.

Moral of my personal story: Throughly vet any potential mate for yourself regardless of how you meet him.
 
Met my SO through okcupid. We have been together for 1 year and 4 months...and have already had the marriage talk. I have no doubts that he's the one for me :-)

Before I met him I met up with 2 others: 1 was nice but there was just no chemistry. The other was a loser and liked to use his money to justify treating people like crap.

I think you have good guys and bad ones online and that it's possible to meet someone. You just need to be selective, intuitive, and smart about it.
 
In 2009 I met my boyfriend on Craigs List and we were together for 4 months. We eventually broke it off because he was having baby mama drama.

I didn't meet my current boyfriend online, thank God! Online dating has it's positives and negatives and also it's about location location location. Would I recommend it? Sure. Just stay calm about everything because online dating can be frustrating. One day you meet someone, you hit it off well and have a great email conversation and BAM they disappear into thin air, never to be heard from again. Which brings me to another point~~fake profiles. Many sites are known to put up fake profiles to beef up membership and to reel you in to pay the money. Be careful!
 
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