Have you ever told someone your goal...

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Millahdoowop

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... and they told you that you weren't going make it? Well I've been pretty excited about my journey to longer hair and I was speaking with an acquaintence of mine in class and I told her I wanted to be armpit by December, and I told her where I was... the length I told her was the length I had before I put in my braids back in September. And she flat out told me that I wasn't going to make it. I'm like daaaaang you didn't have to say that, a reason we make goals is to reach them and stay on top of what we need to do to get there right? I was already having doubts about reaching my goal, but I didn't need homegirl to shoot me down. Dang, smh. Has this ever happened to you?

ETA: I'm at collarbone, but only in the back. The rest is layered.
 
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Millah03 said:
... and they told you that you weren't going make it? Well I've been pretty excited about my journey to longer hair and I was speaking with an acquaintence of mine in class and I told her I wanted to be armpit by December, and I told her where I was... the length I told her was the length I had before I put in my braids back in September. And she flat out told me that I wasn't going to make it. I'm like daaaaang you didn't have to say that, a reason we make goals is to reach them and stay on top of what we need to do to get there right? I was already having doubts about reaching my goal, but I didn't need homegirl to shoot me down. Dang, smh. Has this ever happened to you?

ETA: I'm at collarbone, but only in the back. The rest is layered.
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look girl...thats why shes your aquaintence. i know youll make it there with no problem..goals are set with a desire to meet them..you wouldnt have set it if you never thought you would make it..i think she said it because she was just plain jealous..and because she knows that she wont make it to that length herself (just evaluate how much hair she has on her head- if any of it is real)...i think you definitely need to x out what she says and realize that her words need to give you that much strength to reach the long hair goals youve only ever dreamed of..because you will get there one day or another you will. and people like her who discourage will never get past themselves long enough to reach any goal.
 
That is one of the reasons why I keep my hair goals to myself...the only person who supports me the most in my future goals is my boyfriend...everyone else including my mother thinks i'm nuts.

Honey...I would just say dust that hater off your shoulders...she's not worth worrying about...keep doing what you're doing and you definetely don't need the support of her or anyone who's negative in your life...you have plenty of positive support here from me and all your fellow LHCF sistas...ignorance never seems to fail...and do me a favor when you finally reach your hair goal of armpit length...I want you to work it and flip that head of hair over and over in her face.

Oh and by the way your hair is looking real good...keep up the good work!!!:grin:
 
Awww thanx guys, that's why I love this site. I kind of was thinking that she was jealous or perhaps doesn't know about sites like these and that it isn't possible for me to grow my hair that length. I guess people are assuming that I'm forever going to have short hair that doesn't go anywhere because that's how it has been since I have gotten to college. My hair has barely budged. But once I discovered this site and decided to grow my hair out, I knew that it was possible considering how long my hair was when I was younger. Even my mom is excited because I straightened my hair before I put in my braids and she saw progress, my mom is on my side too. She got mad that the girl said that. Lmao. :lol: But thanx again for the support, you guys are the bomb.
 
No way. :nono: I only tell you guys. People would discourage me.

I've mentioned it to a couple of people who I knew wouldn't say anything mean.
 
I used to tell people but they look at me like I'm crazy. Like "Why would you want hair that long?"... and screw their face up like I said something nasty. So now I keep my length goals to myself :)
 
Caramela said:
I used to tell people but they look at me like I'm crazy. Like "Why would you want hair that long?"... and screw their face up like I said something nasty. So now I keep my length goals to myself :)
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What she said. I keep it to myself and then watch their jaws drop when I wear my hair down.
 
I started out with mid neck length hair. I told my girlfriend, who also is my stylist, that I had decided to grow my hair out long. She said, you and everybody else. Now she comments on how long it's grown. I don't think she was hating. She just had limited vision. But I proved her wrong.
 
HECK NO!! :mad: I don't ever tell anyone my hair goals! :lol: If I MUST say something (like if someone asks), I just tell them that I'm trying to take better care of my hair, that's all.

I don't need anymore "nay-sayers" in my life. :nono:

If there's one thing I've learned in life, it's to NEVER tell anyone your:
-Diet goals
or
-Your hair goals.

Sad to say, but most of the time you're just setting yourself up for scrutiny.

If I were you, I would just let the results speak for themselves! ;)
 
The only people that know, are my sister (she's also trying to take better care of her hair and grow it) and my husband who is 100% behind me.

I daren't tell my friends, simply because your closest friends can sometimes hate as well and i don't need that. Im also looking forward to the day they turn around and say wow girl your hair has grown.
 
I've only told my Best Friends who have my back 101%. As for acquaintances, I really don't tell them anything...when I wear my long flowing hair they'll see.
 
Millah03 said:
... and they told you that you weren't going make it? Well I've been pretty excited about my journey to longer hair and I was speaking with an acquaintence of mine in class and I told her I wanted to be armpit by December, and I told her where I was... the length I told her was the length I had before I put in my braids back in September. And she flat out told me that I wasn't going to make it. I'm like daaaaang you didn't have to say that, a reason we make goals is to reach them and stay on top of what we need to do to get there right? I was already having doubts about reaching my goal, but I didn't need homegirl to shoot me down. Dang, smh. Has this ever happened to you?

ETA: I'm at collarbone, but only in the back. The rest is layered.
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I've got a story for you! I told my hairdresser. She wasn't my normal hairdresser, my normal hairdresser is ill and can no longer work, but she was who I went to as a little girl (when I had no hair). Anyway, I am currently 34 weeks post-relaxer (praise God I'm taking out my braids this weekend!). I went to her this summer to get my hair blown out and straightened. I guess she thought I was going natural, so the first time I went, she did a great job. She only lightly pressed the new growth, and took care to moisturize my whole hair. The second time, I told her that I wasn't growing out my relaxer, but just having to wait b/c I was getting braids. She said "oh" and this time, she put setting lotion on my hair before blowdrying (I don't ever use setting lotion b/c it's too drying for my hair). After that, she pressed the roots again, but this time didn't put moisturizing oil or grease to help protect my hair. Then she said I should probably cut off the dead ends. I didn't, got my braids, and have been taking great care of them ever since. When I told her that I was trying to grow out my hair, she said it wouldn't happen, b/c I don't have the genetics. She then told me that my hair was "different" from my two sisters. She said their hair can grow like that b/c it's a softer texture, but mine won't ever get that long, and I should just accept what I have. So, from now on, I'm sticking with my LHCF people!
 
cocoberry10 said:
I've got a story for you! I told my hairdresser. She wasn't my normal hairdresser, my normal hairdresser is ill and can no longer work, but she was who I went to as a little girl (when I had no hair). Anyway, I am currently 34 weeks post-relaxer (praise God I'm taking out my braids this weekend!). I went to her this summer to get my hair blown out and straightened. I guess she thought I was going natural, so the first time I went, she did a great job. She only lightly pressed the new growth, and took care to moisturize my whole hair. The second time, I told her that I wasn't growing out my relaxer, but just having to wait b/c I was getting braids. She said "oh" and this time, she put setting lotion on my hair before blowdrying (I don't ever use setting lotion b/c it's too drying for my hair). After that, she pressed the roots again, but this time didn't put moisturizing oil or grease to help protect my hair. Then she said I should probably cut off the dead ends. I didn't, got my braids, and have been taking great care of them ever since. When I told her that I was trying to grow out my hair, she said it wouldn't happen, b/c I don't have the genetics. She then told me that my hair was "different" from my two sisters. She said their hair can grow like that b/c it's a softer texture, but mine won't ever get that long, and I should just accept what I have. So, from now on, I'm sticking with my LHCF people!
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Please girl she don't know what the hell she talking about! She sounds so damn ignorant, and the sad thing is so many people in the beauty industry believe these triffling lies!
 
People talk like they know you or something. I guess, like I said before it's not a question of whether or not it's going to get there because my hair was very long and thick as a child. But I guess since they didn't know me then, they figure I'm destined to have short hair. Idk... mostly everyone has hair that's longer than mine. They probably think that I'm talking out of my *** when I say these things. I'm still new to all of this so I'm very excited about it. I should probably keep all of my excitement here on the board because no one is feeling me, except my mother. :lol:
 
I've only shared my ultimate goal with one person, and that's a friend who also joined the forum. She's a big supporter and her and I have made up our own length challenges. Another good friend knows about the forum and my goals for healthy hair, but not my length goals and she is also very supportive. She has healthy, natural waste length hair and understands my pursuit.
 
Alli77 said:
Please girl she don't know what the hell she talking about! She sounds so damn ignorant, and the sad thing is so many people in the beauty industry believe these triffling lies!
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Thanks Alli77! I couldn't agree more. Negative hairdressers are the reason I believe so many women of color with "ethnic" hair can't get their hair to grow. The tighter your hair, the harsher they treat it, thinking that's the way to get it to do what it should, and then they wonder why you don't have any!
 
I only share my hair goals with my husband who is 100% supportive. As far as everyone else, I let the results speak for itself. When they do say something like ,"Your hair sure is growing or is getting long". I'll just say, We'll I'm trying and leave it at that. That's all they need to hear. People who inquire about my products or routine some how loose focus when I mention the cowash. So that's why I always keep my reply on compliments short. Even my mother who I love so dearly would have something to say, though I don't think it would be out of spite, but just not being aware and set in ways. (cowashing, hair to where?, yeah right). Your *egra girl :lol:
 
Lady_Lioness said:
[color=Red[U]]That is one of the reasons why I keep my hair goals to myself...the only person who supports me the most in my future goals is my boyfriend...[/U]everyone else including my mother thinks i'm nuts.

Honey...I would just say dust that hater off your shoulders...she's not worth worrying about...keep doing what you're doing and you definetely don't need the support of her or anyone who's negative in your life...you have plenty of positive support here from me and all your fellow LHCF sistas...ignorance never seems to fail...and do me a favor when you finally reach your hair goal of armpit length...I want you to work it and flip that head of hair over and over in her face.
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I am CO-SIGNING with Lady_Lioness. I don't share my hair project with anyone but LHCF and my man. Don't trust nobody else with my stuff. People have issues and will vomit on you any chance they get. You WILL reach your goal. Forget her.
 
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People have issues and will vomit on you any chance they get.
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Cosigning with your statement CBC's :lol:, powerful,sad and true.
Straight up haters. Your hair speaks for itself ladies. Shake 'em off.
 
I've shared my goal with my cousin and mom. They were really supportive. I've talked about haircare so much that my cousin and aunt are working harder on their hair.

I agree about the hairdressers. They're just like older people. Can say what they want and you betta shut up.
 
nah cuz people wont believe it anyway...plus people think that my hair grows at a snail pace because of this darn shrinkage so it doesnt look like its growing
 
Maybe i'm different but i've told loadsa people my hair goals and my intentions 2 get there, as negetive comments help me to stay more determined!!!i think if i told people i would achieve brastrap and they all agreed, i wouldn't be able to "prove" myself and it would be quite boring... i've got the "i'll show them!" attitude. i'm like, "yeh by next yr my hair will be to my bra". people r quite shocked at my personality as i'm quite positive and sure of my self, i actually convince myself that i will get there (not just hair goals, other goals) and i usually do as i feel this helps my brain switch to "go-get-it mode"....lol
 
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Candy_C said:
Maybe i'm different but i've told loadsa people my hair goals and my intentions 2 get there, as negetive comments help me to stay more determined!!!i think if i told people i would achieve brastrap and they all agreed, i wouldn't be able to "prove" myself and it would be quite boring... i've got the "i'll show them!" attitude. i'm like, "yeh by next yr my hair will be to my bra". people r quite shocked at my personality as i'm quite positive and sure of my self, i actually convince myself that i will get there (not just hair goals, other goals) and i usually do as i feel this helps my brain switch to "go-get-it mode"....lol
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yeah they say positive thinking brings positive results. and i love the pic ayeshia.
 
cocoberry10 said:
I've got a story for you! I told my hairdresser. She wasn't my normal hairdresser, my normal hairdresser is ill and can no longer work, but she was who I went to as a little girl (when I had no hair). Anyway, I am currently 34 weeks post-relaxer (praise God I'm taking out my braids this weekend!). I went to her this summer to get my hair blown out and straightened. I guess she thought I was going natural, so the first time I went, she did a great job. She only lightly pressed the new growth, and took care to moisturize my whole hair. The second time, I told her that I wasn't growing out my relaxer, but just having to wait b/c I was getting braids. She said "oh" and this time, she put setting lotion on my hair before blowdrying (I don't ever use setting lotion b/c it's too drying for my hair). After that, she pressed the roots again, but this time didn't put moisturizing oil or grease to help protect my hair. Then she said I should probably cut off the dead ends. I didn't, got my braids, and have been taking great care of them ever since. When I told her that I was trying to grow out my hair, she said it wouldn't happen, b/c I don't have the genetics. She then told me that my hair was "different" from my two sisters. She said their hair can grow like that b/c it's a softer texture, but mine won't ever get that long, and I should just accept what I have. So, from now on, I'm sticking with my LHCF people!
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My old beautician told me pretty much the same thing...hair has a determined length blah blah blah.....you don't have hair(3b/c) like your sister...blah blah blah.....can't wait till she I see her again.
 
Sad to say, but it seems that some people will be against your hair goals, just show them by letting your hair get more longer and beautiful and flip it in front of them. ;)
 
I agree with only telling supportive people your hair goals. Because of certain haters, I have a goal of wearing my natural hair in a straight loose style around Christmas 2006 - once I reach my hair goal(Godwilling) and making a point to show that all that gorgeous hair down my back is mine. I smile just thinking about it.
 
Yes, people are haters...

my old stylist... when i started going to her, would trim my hair every two weeks... and after a while i was like 'NO WAY did my hair grow, get damaged, and have to be cut every two dang weeks! :mad: she was this dominican lady with short relaxed hair that stayed the very same length... i minimized the amount of times i went to her, and as soon as i get there, she'd chop off the length i gained, to make my hair 'healthy"... :confused:

In March, i went to this other beauty salon with my sister and everybody in there was mesmerized by this lady with mid-back length hair and i had just discovered LHCF and my sister said wow she has nice hair and i told her i'm growing mine out and I want to have that length or close by December and she goes yeah right. That's when I told her about LHCF and Robin Wood's website, but she still didn't believe me. Few months later, i'm retaining all the growth i gained and she took notice and is growing hers out too, and asks me for advice.

As for other people, they like to hate. They listen for a little bit and the minute i mention my progress they get all hostile, so i pretend i got off the hair-growing challenge. I don't tell non-black people... they'd probably think i'm BS'ing myself b/c they think black hair either does not grow, or grows slowly. When I get to my goal, THEN I'll speak... and just say 'yeah it's long, i grew it out" PERIOD...ZILCH...nothing else :grin:
 
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