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Hello Girls,
I have been reading threads on this forum for a while, and many of you are very insightful. You have helped me in a lot of ways, and I want to officially say thanks!! Now for my issue:
I am in my mid-twenties, and have never had a real relationship because honestly, my focus was elsewhere (school, etc.). I strive to be a good christian woman, and I'm waiting for the right man to share the rest of my life with.
In January, I was approached by a christian young man who happened to be a relative to one of the members in my church (he attended another church), and he was a couple of years younger than me. He said that the Lord pointed him in my direction (we have met a couple of times before), and since I was praying for the young man that I wanted, I honestly thought it was him. However, it was not approved by my parents (I'm very close to them and want them to approve of whoever I'm in a relationship with). In the course of five months, me and this guy talked about everything we could possibly talk about...dating, marriage, kids, fantasies....everything. Now, I am a very private person, and I was so comfortable with him, that I felt that we could talk about anything and everything...so I let my guard down...we even said I loved you to each other, even though we hardly saw each other, and never actually went out on a date (he said it first, and I said it a few weeks after)...it's just that we had such a strong connection.
To make a long story short, we ended up "breaking up" because he felt like I thought less of him because he wasn't finished with school or had a job, and I had. Anyway...I feel very exposed now....like he knows everything about me and my family, to the point where I am embarrassed that I fell for him so hard, and for the things that I said in the moment. Then there's the issuse of his family members attending my church, and things that I have said might be repeated. Mind you, we did not have a terrible "break up" and I still think he's a nice person....but I just don't like the feeling of someone knowing so much about me....what can I do to get rid of this feeling? I feel like I didn't keep my standards high like I did in the past.....even though I literally didn't do anything....I just don't want some of the things that I said to come back and haunt me.
I should have listened when people told me, "never tell the person everything that your parents say....and always keep them guessing on all matters.." Lesson learned!
I have been reading threads on this forum for a while, and many of you are very insightful. You have helped me in a lot of ways, and I want to officially say thanks!! Now for my issue:
I am in my mid-twenties, and have never had a real relationship because honestly, my focus was elsewhere (school, etc.). I strive to be a good christian woman, and I'm waiting for the right man to share the rest of my life with.
In January, I was approached by a christian young man who happened to be a relative to one of the members in my church (he attended another church), and he was a couple of years younger than me. He said that the Lord pointed him in my direction (we have met a couple of times before), and since I was praying for the young man that I wanted, I honestly thought it was him. However, it was not approved by my parents (I'm very close to them and want them to approve of whoever I'm in a relationship with). In the course of five months, me and this guy talked about everything we could possibly talk about...dating, marriage, kids, fantasies....everything. Now, I am a very private person, and I was so comfortable with him, that I felt that we could talk about anything and everything...so I let my guard down...we even said I loved you to each other, even though we hardly saw each other, and never actually went out on a date (he said it first, and I said it a few weeks after)...it's just that we had such a strong connection.
To make a long story short, we ended up "breaking up" because he felt like I thought less of him because he wasn't finished with school or had a job, and I had. Anyway...I feel very exposed now....like he knows everything about me and my family, to the point where I am embarrassed that I fell for him so hard, and for the things that I said in the moment. Then there's the issuse of his family members attending my church, and things that I have said might be repeated. Mind you, we did not have a terrible "break up" and I still think he's a nice person....but I just don't like the feeling of someone knowing so much about me....what can I do to get rid of this feeling? I feel like I didn't keep my standards high like I did in the past.....even though I literally didn't do anything....I just don't want some of the things that I said to come back and haunt me.
I should have listened when people told me, "never tell the person everything that your parents say....and always keep them guessing on all matters.." Lesson learned!
