HI auntybe!
My hair is about two inches past my bra-strap. I just stopped wearing braids about two months ago. I think I might be able to help you out. My routine...
wash hair every 4 days with protein-enriched shampoo ( i use aveda with morikue protein)
detangle hair with a LARGE tooth comb while conditioner is still in it
rinse hair with an apple-cider vinegar rinse (once a month)
then i add some setting lotion to my hair and i twist it or put it into a bun. Don't do the bun thing to often cause it pulls on the hair.
auntybe, if you do one thing for you beautiful natural hair do this...buy cold pressed castor oil.
You said your hair has gotten thicker. I have found that when i started using castor oil, it actually changed the texture of my hair, it's so much softer now. And one more thing, I don't care what anyone tells you, NEVER put any grease or oil directly onto your scalp, just on your hair. If you want, just ask and I'll explain why. Follow this routine and you'll be on your way to long beautiful healthy hair. Also, I take multi-vitamins, evening primrose oil, and flaxseed oil. Good luck darling.