Ladies, I know you can give good advice...so here goes. I'm happily engaged to the love of my life - as of last weekend. Still smiling ear to ear over that. However, we're in a long distance relationship (for just a few more months - I can do it!). We started out in the same state for well over a year and he moved for his job, plus he's always wanted to live down South - me too!
Anyways- long story short, I'm all alone here. No family - I have sisters and a brother, but we're not close, no matter how much I want to be close they aren't living healthy lives right now and our relationships have suffered because of it. Basically my sisters aren't my friends. This has left me feeling so alone and lonely.
When my fiance is here, I don't feel that way at all and even though we talk COUNTLESS times a day over the phone....I still miss what could have been - with my family.
Now the good news? I like his family and they seem to like me. But I don't want to impose and throw myself on them for friendship and support...even though I desperately need that in my life.
I have no close friends, but some good acquaintances and one nice older lady (20 years older) but no one to hang out with, go to movies with, share a drink with, eat with, talk to on the phone. It puts a lot of pressure on my man to be there for me.
Help me, help myself. I'm a nice person, I make friends easily. What do I need to do to fill up this void in my life?
Oh and for those that would suggest it...I have a great relationship with God and I am spiritually grounded. I pray over this often.
Anyways- long story short, I'm all alone here. No family - I have sisters and a brother, but we're not close, no matter how much I want to be close they aren't living healthy lives right now and our relationships have suffered because of it. Basically my sisters aren't my friends. This has left me feeling so alone and lonely.
When my fiance is here, I don't feel that way at all and even though we talk COUNTLESS times a day over the phone....I still miss what could have been - with my family.
Now the good news? I like his family and they seem to like me. But I don't want to impose and throw myself on them for friendship and support...even though I desperately need that in my life.
I have no close friends, but some good acquaintances and one nice older lady (20 years older) but no one to hang out with, go to movies with, share a drink with, eat with, talk to on the phone. It puts a lot of pressure on my man to be there for me.
Help me, help myself. I'm a nice person, I make friends easily. What do I need to do to fill up this void in my life?
Oh and for those that would suggest it...I have a great relationship with God and I am spiritually grounded. I pray over this often.
On the flip side, I can be surrounded by people, close friends even, and feel so lonely. So I do think a certain amount of what you're feeling has to be resolved within you, BEFORE you start reaching out to others to fill the void.
My mom used to always say (regarding a men and women) 'Two halves make a whole, true. But two 'wholes' is a beautiful thing.' 
So taking this time to figure out what is causing your lonliness (not what is the reason for you being alone), filling that void internally and finding inner contentment is DEFINITELY a good look! 
