filthyfresh
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Here's the convo I just had with my SO.
Me: i need to wash my hair
SO: wash the hair
Me: i had this conditioner sitting in my hair for hours
SO: your day long wash
Me: lol
Me: pretty much
SO: im going to have to rethink about me growing out my hair cause you might put me on the same program
Me: lmao no
Me: you don't have to do too much to yours
Me: because you don't get a relaxer
Me: what you growing your hair out for? braids?
SO: i just want to let the stuff grow
Me: grow into what?
SO: probably get some dreads
Me: really?
SO: i dont know thinking about it but thats after i find a job [he just graduated]
Me: i truly cannot see you with dreads
Me: i don't think that'd look right on you
A little background on me. I don't date men with dreads. I just don't like men with long hair. I prefer guys like my dad; tapered cuts with waves, neatly trimmed goatees, and expensive cologne. My SO currently fits into this category. So him saying that he wants dreads is blowing me.
On the other hand, when I was transitioning I really wanted to do a BC. He told me, "If you cut your hair off, I'ma buy you a wig or something because I don't like you with short hair." So yeah. Am I wrong for being a little disappointed because he wants to get dreads? I like him the way he is right now. And why is it okay for him to change his appearance to something I don't like but if I change mine he has an issue with it? Am I being selfish? Are we both being selfish?
Me: i need to wash my hair
SO: wash the hair
Me: i had this conditioner sitting in my hair for hours
SO: your day long wash
Me: lol
Me: pretty much
SO: im going to have to rethink about me growing out my hair cause you might put me on the same program
Me: lmao no
Me: you don't have to do too much to yours
Me: because you don't get a relaxer
Me: what you growing your hair out for? braids?
SO: i just want to let the stuff grow
Me: grow into what?
SO: probably get some dreads
Me: really?
SO: i dont know thinking about it but thats after i find a job [he just graduated]
Me: i truly cannot see you with dreads
Me: i don't think that'd look right on you
A little background on me. I don't date men with dreads. I just don't like men with long hair. I prefer guys like my dad; tapered cuts with waves, neatly trimmed goatees, and expensive cologne. My SO currently fits into this category. So him saying that he wants dreads is blowing me.
On the other hand, when I was transitioning I really wanted to do a BC. He told me, "If you cut your hair off, I'ma buy you a wig or something because I don't like you with short hair." So yeah. Am I wrong for being a little disappointed because he wants to get dreads? I like him the way he is right now. And why is it okay for him to change his appearance to something I don't like but if I change mine he has an issue with it? Am I being selfish? Are we both being selfish?
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