Hair insults!

[simone103]

I have never understood how people with jacked up hair could make nasty comments to someone who has nice hair. It seems to me that person would try to take notes or something instead of making insults.

 

[felicia]

I was reading the hair snob thread and it got me thinking about how many hair insults some women get from other black women.
For instance, last week my cousins came over for a minute. They hadn't seen my sister in about 2 months. Now my sister's hair is almost bra-strap length and extremely thick. She's gained more than 2 inches since they last saw her. She wore a short cut and then a bob for years but everyone knows that her hair use to be waist length.
Her hair is type 4f (if there's such a thing) and beyond. Honestly. She could abuse the heck out of her hair and it will stay thick, bouncy and grow like crazy. And boy can it hold a curl.
Anyway, my cousin walks over to my sister, ran her hands through her hair and says "Huh, your hair feels like coconut husk. It's like wire" and starts to laugh . Mind you, my sister's hair was showing the heck off that day.
Now this is the same cousin who puts a weave in her daughter's hair. The one who's almost bald. The other cousin just laughs in a derogatory way and decides to stare at my head.
My sister was sooooooooooo mad. She told my cousin that she didn't have anything nice to say because she is just jealous so she should keep her comments to herself.
I'm sitting there applauding really loudly.
So what's the worst insult or derogatory comment you've ever received on your hair?

i had someone say the same thing to me. we were all at a friend's house letting her do our hair. the girl who made the comment had paper thin, broken, short hair. my hair was thick long and full. she grabbed it and said man you got some bad hair. i said no it's called thick. i could tell she was jealous b/c she kept staring at it.

 

[Zahrah]

I know im late...but the insults never end! My daughter overheard some kids at her camp saying behind her back that "she has all that hair and doesn't know what to do with it". First of all, I do her hair, she is 11. Second, this is my daughter's response "Obviously I know what im doing that's why it is long and healthy". It starts at home!

 

[deltagyrl]

I'm stretching my relaxer 16 weeks this time but I didn't feel like fighting w/ it for New Years so I had a shampoo and blowdry this past Sat.

1 stylist asked me if I was going natural. The stylist who does my hair kept commenting on how "nappy" my hair was but that she'd seen worse.

THEN she said she needed to trim my hair to give it shape and when I said "no thanks" she switched it up and said that my ends were really split.

After my hair was done (and looking purty) another stylist said that she didn't realize that it was my hair. She thought it was a weave......

I DO NOT HAVE SPLIT ENDS (frizzy ends maybe, but not split).

I wish I had the confidence to self relax.....

 

[live2bgr8]

People are always going to have comments... my hair has been everything from a TWA to Relaxed APL. I've worn wigs, weaves, twists and braids. And I've heard it all. From blacks and whites... I'm glad, though... 'cause if I didn't hear some of them, I never would have subscribed to this board.

 

[Soul♥Flower]

I'm always told I need to "get a style" and/or "do something with it." Tonite I told my mom I don't plan to ever cut my hair again, that I want it to reach about mid-back within a year and she asked me why. I thought it was an odd question.

Why not?

LONG is the style and GROWING is the something I'm doing with it, thankyouverymuch.

My mom said the same thing to me when I told her I wanted to grow my hair down to my waist. She continued by saying it was just hair and I should be proud of myself and my complexion....

What does that have to do with anything? Obviously she thought it wasn't possible and that I must have "color struck" issues by wanting to grow long hair. What can I say she's from the old school south. But I was still offended...I thought she was more open minded than that!

 

[sareca]

I've had my share of hair molestations, weird compliments, and only-white-people-do-that comments but no outright insults. *Knock on wood*

 

[dlewis]

My cousin use to always say how nappy my hair was until I recently told her that I have very nice hair. Just because it's supper curly doesn't make it nappy.

 

[Bouncy Curls]

I've had someone tell me my hair looked like buck wheat's.

i've also had a dude call my hair nappy.

i don't care one bit. haters...

I've gotten nappy comments too because I LOVE kink in my hair even though I am relaxed I don't relax bone stright. I have no problem with nappy edges and bdbs but I guess others do

 

[Bouncy Curls]

My cousin use to always say how nappy my hair was until I recently told her that I have very nice hair. Just because it's supper curly doesn't make it nappy.

I she nuts! You don't have a nap in site. BTW, your hair is beautiful!

 

[dlewis]

I she nuts! You don't have a nap in site. BTW, your hair is beautiful!

Thank you.

people can be so cruel, esp family.

 

[favorc]

I went into Sally's the other day and one of the ladies that worked there said. " if I would have seen u walk into my salon with that nappy hair I would have ran."

I have have very thick hair and it is mid-back. So i was in there buying Two boxes of ORS relaxers for my hair. Here she come again with her comments. " u have to use two boxes on your head? u need to do something about that stuff on your head.

There was a nice old lady there who liked my hair and wanted some hair tips. The main tip that I told her in front of the lady is that i don't go to beauticians.

That shut here up quick. Besides here hair wasn't even cute. It was short form breakage, not from a cut, and it was a horrible blonde that didn't go with her complexsion.

It always be people with unhealthy hair that have something smart to say. If she was nice I would have gladley givin any hair tips that might help her.

 

[dlewis]

It always be people with unhealthy hair that have something smart to say. If she was nice I would have gladley givin any hair tips that might help her.

You are so right. I had women tell me whatcha gonna do with that mess or it's to big. And I tell them, did I ask you what you thought. I can't wait until it's waist length and I can wear it like Diana Ross' hair. hehe.

 

[Vshanell]

When I wear my hair natural it never fails that someone calls me "poodlehead"...grrrr . Why I gotta look like a poodle!!

 

[BAP28]

My brothers girlfriend has called me this past wknd and was telling me how she asked her dominican stylist to give her big curls since she was goin out for new yrs and her stylist the whole time is like mami your hair is damaged.. it is really damaged…

MY BROS GF HAS BEAUUUUUTIFULL FULL THICK BSL HAIR..i think the lady didn’t want to do the curls.. Because she kept telling her, her hair was damaged…my bro’s girl was like no it’s not then she said the lady called the other stylist over and was like yessssssssssss mami your hair is damaged.. I was like WTF.. oh no.. you need a new salon cuz their buggin out..their is not one damaged hair on that girls head.if she didn’t want to do the curls or whatever let someone else do it shoot….

Y is it when you have long thick hair ppl…..stylist whoever try to find something wrong…wtf…

 

[baby42]

i went to the bb store and i going to buy a big jar of some thing and the girl that work there asked the man that was waiting on me why you giveing her a big jar and she got short hair she donot need that much i said what did you say and she like i mean that your hair cut is cute and i was trying to save you some money i ask her who you ask you to save me any damm thing it was bad enough that idid not like the hair cut so that hurt

 

[Soul♥Flower]

I've had my share of hair molestations, weird compliments, and only-white-people-do-that comments but no outright insults. *Knock on wood*

@ hair molestations.

 

[Soul♥Flower]

When I wear my hair natural it never fails that someone calls me "poodlehead"...grrrr . Why I gotta look like a poodle!!

jealousy, that's why.

 

[Country gal]

The OP, your cousins were just jealous. The comment was filled with hateration.

I had people joke about my napputural hair when I first transitioned. The payback was this week when they saw how thick and long it had gotten. I even had family members asking me if they should go natural.

 

[CAPlush]

Wow, I'm thankful that everyone around me seems to keep their hair issues to themselves.

I only have problems when I go to the salon. She laughed and was basically saying that my hair type was a special case, and I couldn't get away with going more than 5 weeks between relaxers. She didn't say the word nappy, but she said the word "thick" as if it were a substitute for nappy.

 

[Lucie]

I had my hair natural for two years. I finally decided to go back to the relaxer. When I got home my dad, said he thought I was natural because I couldn't afford to get my hair done

 

[MizAvalon]

Wow, this thread is unreal. What is it with people thinking they can say whatever they want to others?

And it NEVER fails that the person making the comment always has ugly hair.erplexed

 

[keluric]

4. This guy came up to me at my old job and swore up and down i had a weave. Then proceeded to tell everyone that came in the store "here is another black girl trying to perpetrate a weave off as her own hair" Then some ghetto chick with blonde and red hair pasted down on her forehead swooping to the side ending with a swirl on her cheek had the nerve to say "well if its a weave, whoever did it did a terrible job."

NOT the swirl!!! I just about DIED when I read that..

 

[isioma85]

NOT the swirl!!! I just about DIED when I read that..

You're not alone! Red, blonde, and the cheek swirl too, and she has the nerve to say someone has a terrible weave job? Good Lord!

 

[Soul♥Flower]

oh, I forgot about my old roomate (whom I still adore). She NEVER had long hair and it was soooo course and broken off and her hair line was really far back. I later told her that her hair wasn't course it was damaged and that her hair line was really an inch lower than she thought it was. That was because she permed her hair every 4 weeks and didn't do anything else to it EVER. So as you can tell I really wanted to help her and she responded by cooing over my hair and telling me how much she wanted to "JUST CUT IT ALL OFF" if every chance she got.erplexed At first it was funny, but then I really started getting scared.

 

[Meli]

Wow, I'm thankful that everyone around me seems to keep their hair issues to themselves.

I only have problems when I go to the salon. She laughed and was basically saying that my hair type was a special case, and I couldn't get away with going more than 5 weeks between relaxers. She didn't say the word nappy, but she said the word "thick" as if it were a substitute for nappy.

You know...I didn't feel as though this thread was for me BUT It IS..As I am reading all of this...I realize that similar comments that I had dismissed should not have been dismissed by me. I always try to give people the benefit of the doubt. And to my own naiveness I took advice from these haters who saw my hair growing long and would tell me my hair was damaged, that I needed a 2 to 3 inch cut or that I need to do something to my hair...it's just there, or that my hair was super thick. I listened to them and then tried to style my hair, or use products that I should not have used. Wow the green-eyed monster is everywhere.

Now my hair is Natural and I love it. I did the big cut October 2006. I never was happy with my hair being relaxed as a kid and now as an adult I have chosen a different route. My family is not happy about it. My fiance says he prefers long hair. They are all like, what are you going to do with it. It's nappy. But guess what...this is my life, my hair and I don't want to hear it. I love my natural self.

 

[SUPER SWEET]

My girlfriend and I had tried a new salon and the service was so-so. We get back to her home right after getting our hair done and her mother said "well what time is your hair appointments I can drive yall" . We told her we got our hair done and she says"if you wanted to waste 40.00 you could have just given that money to me." We felt so bad... Im just happy she insulted me and I didnt go back to Hair it is.

 

[i12sitonmyhair]

oh, I forgot about my old roomate (whom I still adore). She NEVER had long hair and it was soooo course and broken off and her hair line was really far back. I later told her that her hair wasn't course it was damaged and that her hair line was really an inch lower than she thought it was. That was because she permed her hair every 4 weeks and didn't do anything else to it EVER. So as you can tell I really wanted to help her and she responded by cooing over my hair and telling me how much she wanted to "JUST CUT IT ALL OFF" if every chance she got.erplexed At first it was funny, but then I really started getting scared.

I'm glad she's not your roommate anymore!!

I've heard a lot of haterade from family and co-workers over the years, but you guys mantioned most of it already.

There was this one co-worker who kept her hair really short that made a comment I won't forget. She's a little older than I am, but she looked at my hair (during the last blue moon that I wore it down at work) and said something about the older you get the shorter your hair should be. She just didn't think women over 29 should have long hair. I wanted to say, 'Well, *****, that's your problem"....but I didn't. I was a good girl that day. erplexed

Oh...and this white, male co-worker said to me once in a CROWDED elevator: Nice pony-tails, are they yours? I just looked at him like he was crazy and said, "Of course". He was new and most of the other people in the elevator already knew it was my real hair so they looked at him funky, too.

 

[Soul♥Flower]

I'm glad she's not your roommate anymore!!

I've heard a lot of haterade from family and co-workers over the years, but you guys mantioned most of it already.

There was this one co-worker who kept her hair really short that made a comment I won't forget. She's a little older than I am, but she looked at my hair (during the last blue moon that I wore it down at work) and said something about the older you get the shorter your hair should be. She just didn't think women over 29 should have long hair. I wanted to say, 'Well, *****, that's your problem"....but I didn't. I was a good girl that day. erplexed

Oh...and this white, male co-worker said to me once in a CROWDED elevator: Nice pony-tails, are they yours? I just looked at him like he was crazy and said, "Of course". He was new and most of the other people in the elevator already knew it was my real hair so they looked at him funky, too.

O.k. I might be a overly sensitive, but I get offended when white males ask me if my hair is mine. They just don't have a clue, but I got a couple for them

 

[Xavier]

oh, I forgot about my old roomate (whom I still adore). She NEVER had long hair and it was soooo course and broken off and her hair line was really far back. I later told her that her hair wasn't course it was damaged and that her hair line was really an inch lower than she thought it was. That was because she permed her hair every 4 weeks and didn't do anything else to it EVER. So as you can tell I really wanted to help her and she responded by cooing over my hair and telling me how much she wanted to "JUST CUT IT ALL OFF" if every chance she got.erplexed At first it was funny, but then I really started getting scared.

I was cracking up when I read this. Thank the Lord she is now an OLD roomate I would be afraid to go to sleep myself after hearing someone make a comment like that.