Hair insults!

[Guyaneek]

This is the funniest thread! I can't understand why these people don't even attempt to disguise the hate! It is just so blatant that it is pathetic!
One instance that stands out vividly is my husbands ex said to me once, "short people don't look right with hair past their shoulders". I didn't bother responding because 1) the comment was well past ridiculous and 2) she showed her whole hand by professing her jealousy and hate.

 

[i12sitonmyhair]

O.k. I might be a overly sensitive, but I get offended when white males ask me if my hair is mine. They just don't have a clue, but I got a couple for them

Yup, he really needed to just mind his business.

 

[BAP28]

OH SNAP...

daddy whyyyyyyyyyy

parents can be a trip my mom use to say stuff when i first decided to transition like" I WILL PAY ANY MONEY IN THE WORLD FOR YOU TO GET YOUR HAIR DONE!" IM LOOKING AT HER LIKE MOM YOU ARE BUGGING OUT ITS NOT THAT SERIOUS.. if you would've saw how serious she was lmaooooo

I had my hair natural for two years. I finally decided to go back to the relaxer. When I got home my dad, said he thought I was natural because I couldn't afford to get my hair done

 

[trulyurangel82]

Ive had white people ask if I wear a weave. My hair isnt that long either but still. Its ridiculous.

Black people can grow their hair too. This board just shows it.

When my hair was natural I also had someone touch my hair and say,"hehehe your hair feels like carpet."

 

[Country gal]

When I wear my hair natural it never fails that someone calls me "poodlehead"...grrrr . Why I gotta look like a poodle!!

They are crazy. You have some pretty hair. How often do you maxiglide your hair?

 

[MrsQueeny]

Yes people here kill me. When I wear my fro, my hair is super curly people always ask questions and look in awe. I finally break down and say, you know all of us don't have nappy hair. They look shocked but I know that is what they were thinking.

Then I had a family member who has been relaxed for years and her hair is thin and breaking. She saw me with my twists and said, I don't know how you deal with all of that hair maybe you should relax it. I said why so it can be like yours? She shut right up. Q

 

[Soul♥Flower]

Yes people here kill me. When I wear my fro, my hair is super curly people always ask questions and look in awe. I finally break down and say, you know all of us don't have nappy hair. They look shocked but I know that is what they were thinking.

Then I had a family member who has been relaxed for years and her hair is thin and breaking. She saw me with my twists and said, I don't know how you deal with all of that hair maybe you should relax it. I said why so it can be like yours? She shut right up. Q

LOL..can we say SABOTAGE??
and if you would have relaxed she probably would have "suggested" you cut it into a shape.people are so funny they don't even know.

 

[CurliDiva]

I get the "your hair is so THICK" comment all the time when I wear my natural hair out.

I also get the "what are you going to do with long, natural hair" -- like every natural has to wear a TWA.

For people talk about how they KNOW someone with hair longer or fuller than your - like you having a healhy, full head of hair is nothing special.

 

[navsegda]

Well this woman I was tutoring back in summer '06 (for FREE, mind you because I wanted to be really nice and help her get into nursing school) had some friends come over and one girl asked me if my hair was real. I told her yes. Then I told the woman I was tutoring about the question I was asked and she said, "Well, that's 'cause you never comb it" (and no, she wasn't joking). I was like "Um...I do comb it. I just have a lot of new growth right now and it's really thick at the roots." My cousin (who is her daughter) was like "OMG mama, that was so rude." Needless to say, I stopped tutoring her shortly after that. How the hell are you going to be rude to someone who is doing YOU a huge favor? *shakes head*

But that's not the worst. I used to get rude comment after rude comment when I was in middle school before I got a relaxer (all from all the little black boys and girls, too). But it wasn't JUST the kids. It was the summer after 7th grade and I was visiting my friends who happened to live in the projects. We were all minding our own business and just walking by. This big fat black girl who was jealous of me asked her mom, "Hey mama, what are we gonna get Vannessa for Christmas?" Her mama (which was twice the size of this heifer) answered, "A perm kit." You are a grown woman and you are helping your daughter pick on a CHILD? I had never bothered either of them in my life! And one woman that same summer who I'd been nice to and helped out a lot flipped out on me (guess it was the drugs) and had the nerve to yell at me that I needed a perm and THEN came over to my house and told my mom I needed one. In any event, her sorry behind overdosed and died on her living room floor as soon as the new year started (sometime early '98 if I remember correctly). God does not like ugly.

 

[Sosoothing]

Well this woman I was tutoring back in summer '06 (for FREE, mind you because I wanted to be really nice and help her get into nursing school) had some friends come over and one girl asked me if my hair was real. I told her yes. Then I told the woman I was tutoring about the question I was asked and she said, "Well, that's 'cause you never comb it" (and no, she wasn't joking). I was like "Um...I do comb it. I just have a lot of new growth right now and it's really thick at the roots." My cousin (who is her daughter) was like "OMG mama, that was so rude." Needless to say, I stopped tutoring her shortly after that. How the hell are you going to be rude to someone who is doing YOU a huge favor? *shakes head*

But that's not the worst. I used to get rude comment after rude comment when I was in middle school before I got a relaxer (all from all the little black boys and girls, too). But it wasn't JUST the kids. It was the summer after 7th grade and I was visiting my friends who happened to live in the projects. We were all minding our own business and just walking by. This big fat black girl who was jealous of me asked her mom, "Hey mama, what are we gonna get Vannessa for Christmas?" Her mama (which was twice the size of this heifer) answered, "A perm kit." You are a grown woman and you are helping your daughter pick on a CHILD? I had never bothered either of them in my life! And one woman that same summer who I'd been nice to and helped out a lot flipped out on me (guess it was the drugs) and had the nerve to yell at me that I needed a perm and THEN came over to my house and told my mom I needed one. In any event, her sorry behind overdosed and died on her living room floor as soon as the new year started (sometime early '98 if I remember correctly). God does not like ugly.

Sorry she was so mean and too bad she passed away but the way you tell it is so funny!

 

[zzirvingj]

I was dating this guy once who was actually an influence on me going natural. When I did the big chop he told me that my hair "looked like a dried out jheri curl".

One day at work the topic of my hair came up (as it often did). I think I was wearing it in a twist out. White guy #1 says to white guy #2 that he thought he wished he could "be cool like me and wear his hair like I wore mine". Don't know if he was being for real or not. Anyways, guy #2 says "you'd look stupid wearing your hair like that.". Guy #1 "why??" Guy #2 "cuz you'd look a mess-you'd look like SIDESHOW BOB". Guy #1 "Then how does Jade not look like Sideshow Bob????"

Guy #2:erplexed Looks flustered and tries to find a way out of the mess he just got himself into.

 

[CurleeDST]

You know that was just TRIFLING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I was reading the hair snob thread and it got me thinking about how many hair insults some women get from other black women.
For instance, last week my cousins came over for a minute. They hadn't seen my sister in about 2 months. Now my sister's hair is almost bra-strap length and extremely thick. She's gained more than 2 inches since they last saw her. She wore a short cut and then a bob for years but everyone knows that her hair use to be waist length.
Her hair is type 4f (if there's such a thing) and beyond. Honestly. She could abuse the heck out of her hair and it will stay thick, bouncy and grow like crazy. And boy can it hold a curl.
Anyway, my cousin walks over to my sister, ran her hands through her hair and says "Huh, your hair feels like coconut husk. It's like wire" and starts to laugh . Mind you, my sister's hair was showing the heck off that day.
Now this is the same cousin who puts a weave in her daughter's hair. The one who's almost bald. The other cousin just laughs in a derogatory way and decides to stare at my head.
My sister was sooooooooooo mad. She told my cousin that she didn't have anything nice to say because she is just jealous so she should keep her comments to herself.
I'm sitting there applauding really loudly.
So what's the worst insult or derogatory comment you've ever received on your hair?

 

[CurleeDST]

I was dating this puerto rican guy and was wearing my hair natural. He used to refer to me as "nap trap". Needless to say we stopped dating soon after!

 

[ChoKitty]

My insults were and are always about my being biracial. When I was younger, and didn't know how to take care of my hair, it was in VERY bad shape. It shedded everywhere and wouldn't grow past my nape. It was so dry you could hear it "crisp" when you touched it, like crumpling paper. When it was like that, no one ever mentioned the fact that my mother was white. My hair was just like others in my family and other girls I knew...in horrible condition. Once I started learning how to take care of it (Thanks to the wonderful ladys on this board!!) and it started to grow, and shine and look healthy, stop shedding and look good, the absolute ONLY reason I could "have hair like that is 'cause yo' momma is white."

That has ALWAYS irritated me. The only thing I got from my mother is the red highlights in the summer. I hear it all the time. If my hair was messed up and broken, it wouldn't be an issue.

 

[ebonylocs]

So people are insulted when someone calls their hair "nappy"?
Why?
What exactly does "nappy" mean?
If it just means that it has tight coils/curls, i.e. typical sub-saharan African hair, why is that an insult?
Maybe it depends on the way the person says it, i.e. if they use it as something derogatory.

 

[Vshanell]

They are crazy. You have some pretty hair. How often do you maxiglide your hair?

Thanks Country , so do you! Girl, I just maxiglided today and I'll be posting pics soon. It came out ok but I was telling my mom that I've grown rather fond of bigger hair now so I don't flat iron nearly as much. I used to flat iron faithfully every two weeks but this past year it's been about every 3 to 4 months. I plan to keep doing this for now because my hair is so much healthier and the ends rarely split. I never realized how much the heat affected my hair.

 

[pistachio]

Let's see, there so many from jealous women.

1) I used to have it but I cut it off cause I don't like long hair. I tell them, well you need to cut off some more becaue it look like it is breaking off and also I could care less what some other women does not like and does not want, so tell that to someone who actually cares.

2) I cut mine because it bothers my neck.
I told her well it bothers your neck because it doesn't look like it grows much paste your neck and if she cut it then it's her business and not mine..

3) If they don't have it, then they know someone eles with hair longer than yours. I tell them I could care less about someone I have never met and that sounds like a Hater comment and that they need to keep them to themselves. I told another woman that I would never stoop low enough to give another woman a comment like that because it is just a dead giveaway that she is jealous. I told her she needs to get help about her problem with other women having hair.

Normally I am a very friendly person but I don't put up with comments from jealous women. They are intimidated by the black women with the long hair and will go all out to try to put you down.

I only talk to the intelligent, self confident women and share beauty secrets.

So to all of the ladies who are close to achieving all of those lovely locks, be prepared to deal with the nasty Hater comments. Keep your gun loaded because the green eyed monsters will come for you...

If someone said that to me in a derogatory manner I'd look at them with a blatant look of skepticism, and ask "You used to have long hair?"

 

[navsegda]

Let's see, there so many from jealous women.

1) I used to have it but I cut it off cause I don't like long hair. I tell them, well you need to cut off some more becaue it look like it is breaking off and also I could care less what some other women does not like and does not want, so tell that to someone who actually cares.

2) I cut mine because it bothers my neck.
I told her well it bothers your neck because it doesn't look like it grows much paste your neck and if she cut it then it's her business and not mine..

3) If they don't have it, then they know someone eles with hair longer than yours. I tell them I could care less about someone I have never met and that sounds like a Hater comment and that they need to keep them to themselves. I told another woman that I would never stoop low enough to give another woman a comment like that because it is just a dead giveaway that she is jealous. I told her she needs to get help about her problem with other women having hair.

Normally I am a very friendly person but I don't put up with comments from jealous women. They are intimidated by the black women with the long hair and will go all out to try to put you down.

I only talk to the intelligent, self confident women and share beauty secrets.

So to all of the ladies who are close to achieving all of those lovely locks, be prepared to deal with the nasty Hater comments. Keep your gun loaded because the green eyed monsters will come for you...

WORD. I hate having to deal with this. People in my own family have acted this way.

 

[Candiss]

So people are insulted when someone calls their hair "nappy"?
Why?
What exactly does "nappy" mean?
If it just means that it has tight coils/curls, i.e. typical sub-saharan African hair, why is that an insult?
Maybe it depends on the way the person says it, i.e. if they use it as something derogatory.

Well, I'm sure when it was said to the girls in this thread it was meant as aan insult. Most black people that I know are offended by the term "nappy" so if they were to call you nappy headed they would mean it as an insult.

 

[blazingthru]

I agree, I know that was the whole point of getting relaxers. When I was in my teens (starting teens) no one wore relaxers everyone got their hair straighten. Then roots came out and no one wanted any connection to the africans. it was weird. Now more people embraced their culture but back when I was coming up - it was shunned. Nappy hair was called N--ger knots. Or peases. It was horrible to hear it and for me I never wanted anyone to say anything like that to me. I remember that feeling inside. My hair is very straight in the back so its not likely but I have since learned that as your back grows and the little hairs grow long they curl way up into balls. Ha that was funny when I saw that. But for real I was ashamed to have them. I can embrace everything about going natural even fighting with the different textures but knots no I will cut them every time. I just can't bear it. I hate to see girls with hair in a pony tail and little balls around the back of their necks. I just do not know what to say about that.

 

[pistachio]

*knocks on wood*

I haven't had incidences like some of you describe from strangeers, but even if it did happen just think of this: At the end of the day, after they've said what they said, and walked away, you still have your hair, and they unfortunatly still have theirs...

 

[InJesusName]

I know I am late jumping in on this, but the church ladies are a trip! I had one to ask me if I had lost my job or was going through financial hardships since I wasn't getting my hair "done" anymore.

Go figure! You go from getting your hair realxed bone straight every five weeks and flat ironed until it sticks to your head and your hair isn't done anymore. Oh well... may the damaged hair be with you...I'm trying to grow!

 

[azul11]

bump. GOD BLESS YOU ALL.

 

[Inquisition12]

If someone said that to me in a derogatory manner I'd look at them with a blatant look of skepticism, and ask "You used to have long hair?"

Now that's a great comeback! :notworthy

 

[sweetcashew]

I was dating this puerto rican guy and was wearing my hair natural. He used to refer to me as "nap trap". Needless to say we stopped dating soon after!

"Nap trap"? What the heck was he thinking? I guess he thought it was "cute" to name your hair. But what he was thinking?

 

[CurleeDST]

Yup girl he called me a nap trap. Now I have no problem with having naps and calling my hair nappy but I DO have a problem when people's tone is as if it is something disgusting.

We were so threw!

"Nap trap"? What the heck was he thinking? I guess he thought it was "cute" to name your hair. But what he was thinking?

 

[pistachio]

Now that's a great comeback! :notworthy

haha! thank ya' very much!!!