getting the urge to relax...:(

[teysmith]

YOU MEAN TO TELL ME I CAN DO SOMETHING WITH THIS!!!! PLEASE DONT LAUGH!!!

 

[Marand13]

When transitioning & the hair becomes unbearable I say its time to BC! Or try braid/twistouts. That was one of my go to styles when I transitioned the first time, other than sewins and braids and kinky twists.

 

[teysmith]

Why should ONE comment bother you? Everyone has an opinion and you don't have to agree with strangers or even care what they think.

Moving on to more important issues, I got your reply to my message but didn't get the chance to reply. If you don't want to deal with yout hair right now, get cornrows (extensions), which should be much cheaper than individuals, for a short while to give you time to decide what you want to do - relax or continue transitioning.

Checkout my hairstyles: http://public.fotki.com/mummysgirl/transition-to-natural/hairdos-while-trans/. If you can't cornrow, you can still use pretty headbands/scarves to lay down your new growth You can try twistouts, I think flat twists might be slightly easier to learn than cornrows... Flat twist tutorial:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aYKugFF04jI

If you decide to relax, enjoy your relaxed hair and you can transition another time...

thanks alot.. And I'm not bothered by her comment..just was writing what I thought she would like to hear..I had no ententions on leaving. I'm here to grow my hair!!

 

[MummysGirl]

Ofcourse there's a lot you can do with your hair!!!! Again, easy way =m Headbands, scarves, accessories...

Check out transitioners' fotkis, at the start of my transition, I spent every spare time I had gathering as much info/knowledge as I could. Check what current/past transitioners did with their hair when they were at your current stage in your transition.

You have longer hair than I thought. i like the second pic, you'd look good with a faux mohawk.

YOU MEAN TO TELL ME I CAN DO SOMETHING WITH THIS!!!! PLEASE DONT LAUGH!!!

 

[nappystorm]

I vote BC. Your hair is short. You have a beautiful face and can pull it off

 

[MummysGirl]

Good
Remember we are hair twins and I am at month 11... you can do it - short or long term transition

thanks alot.. And I'm not bothered by her comment..just was writing what I thought she would like to hear..I had no ententions on leaving. I'm here to grow my hair!!

 

[teysmith]

I vote BC. Your hair is short. You have a beautiful face and can pull it off

I thought about it but couldnt go through with it..I got about 3 inches a week ago. the only way I could probably do that if I was going to BC and then braid it up the same day...

 

[mrsjohnson75]

Try curly styles that work with your new growth not against it. Bantu knots are easy to do with transitioning hair. Buns are hard because it work to get the new growth to lay flat . Flat ironing is time consuming so I stick with quick and easy.

 

[teysmith]

Try curly styles that work with your new growth not against it. Bantu knots are easy to do with transitioning hair. Buns are hard because it work to get the new growth to lay flat . Flat ironing is time consuming so I stick with quick and easy.

I'm not comfortable wearing my hair this short.. i'm used to long weaves..

 

[LadyRaider]

Hey Teysmith,

I have short hair and am transitioning too! I am easily bored with my hair so that's why I can't do expensive braids and weaves. I spent 87 dollars on cornrows this fall and lasted two days! (they were tight!)

Sometimes I flat iron. If you do it once a month or so to change things up, it shouldn't do that much damage.

I was feeling very self-conscious about braid outs and twist outs at first, but I got a lot of compliments. I worried about scaring the white folks, as I like to put it, so at first I would just say, "Oh felt like wearing the afro today." I pretend it's just my natural hair. I have a professional job, too. I think I have the white folks trained to expect different things now. Some times they ask and I say, "Oh, just decided to flat iron this week."

Anyway... now I think I look pretty cute with a braidout and like I said I get lots of compliments..

I'm going to try wigs for a while so I can get my hands out of my hair. What's your problem with wigs, exactly? (You have me worried.)

You are much prettier than me, and I think I look okay with my curly twistout/braidout fro. Put on some cute earrings, and different headbands and do your make up and you'll be fine.

ENJOY your hair. If you are not having fun, then what's the point?

 

[teysmith]

I just realized from looking at a few of my pics that I made a bit of progress...I will make a new thread for it..

 

[teysmith]

Hey Teysmith,

I have short hair and am transitioning too! I am easily bored with my hair so that's why I can't do expensive braids and weaves. I had cornrows this fall and lasted two days! (they were tight!)

Sometimes I flat iron. If you do it once a month or so to change things up, it shouldn't do that much damage.

I was feeling very self-conscious about braid outs and twist outs at first, but I got a lot of compliments. I worried about scaring the white folks, as I like to put it, so at first I would just say, "Oh felt like wearing the afro today." I pretend it's just my natural hair. I have a professional job, too.

Anyway... now I think I look pretty cute with a braidout and like I said I get lots of compliments..

I'm going to try wigs for a while so I can get my hands out of my hair. What's your problem with wigs, exactly? (You have me worried.)

You are much prettier than me, and I think I look okay with my curly twistout/braidout fro. Put on some cute earrings, and different headbands and do your make up and you'll be fine.

ENJOY your hair. If you are not having fun, then wha'ts the point?

Thanks.. I think I will try this.. and I dont like wigs because I dont think they look anything close to natural... I dont know if there are any that dont look so ovious?? I tried wigs once and everyone knew that it was a wig right away.. I was expecting them to atleast think it was a weave.. I like lace fronts but cant afford them. I might go to the beauty supply and try a couple of wigs on and see how I like them.

 

[SmartyPants]

OK... after looking at your pics, there are two ways you can go. Either do a spiral set and go curly all over. Or, you can roll you hair on the largest rollers you can fit all your hair around once and go straight with just the ends tucked under. But, either way, your hair is not in bad shape. Your ends look healthy so a straight set won't look jacked on you.

 

[DDTexlaxed]

okay..fine..I wont ask or complain anymore about my hair anymore.... as a matter a fact I'll stay off the hair forum and hang out in some of the others...maybe the off topic section....

Please don't do that. I've struggled with the relaxed/natural journey 9 times with BCing then relaxing later. I just decided my 6 months into my last transition, that I am just not ready to have natural hair right now. The greatest thing about hair is that you are entitled to change what you want to do to it. Relax if you feel pressured because stress can definitely ruin your progress. We will support your decision no matter what journey you choose. From your post, it sounds like being relaxed would suit your lifestyle at this point in time. Please do not leave this part of the forum. We want to help you reach your goal of long hair growth, relaxed or natural.

 

[PeanutButterandHoney]

If I looked like you, I would BC, get me some good curl popping condish, go to the thrift store and get me some cute earrings and maybe a pair from Forever 21 and be done with it.
You are very pretty, and you have great skin. if anyone could pull it off it would be you.
Plus, the short natural hair is very professional.

 

[ajoyfuljoy]

Everytime I try to transition I always fail. I think I am one of those people who will just have to cut it off. I am ALWAYS tempted to do this.

 

[teysmith]

Thanks alot ladis. you all have been very helpful.. I flat ironed not to long ago. I will post pics and also pics of my progresss in a new thread later when I have time..

 

[BrandNew]

Hey teysmith, I would suggest you BC, you would wear it well.

 

[MrsHdrLe]

Ofcourse there's a lot you can do with your hair!!!! Again, easy way =m Headbands, scarves, accessories...

Check out transitioners' fotkis, at the start of my transition, I spent every spare time I had gathering as much info/knowledge as I could. Check what current/past transitioners did with their hair when they were at your current stage in your transition.

You have longer hair than I thought. i like the second pic, you'd look good with a faux mohawk.

I was thinking the same thing. You're definitely cute enough for it. But if you can't do 6that for work, then I suggest you hide your hair like previously suggested. You could rock a BC too, but I understand not wanting to do it. You should only BC when YOU are ready. In the meantime (though this may not be a very popular idea) you could go a head and relax(texlax) and then start cutting little by little when you have enough overall length to do ponies and buns that you would feel comfortable with. (See the Transitoners Who Didn't BC thread- not quite sure of the name but I'll bump it for you) Good Luck

 

[sharifeh]

okay..fine..I wont ask or complain anymore about my hair anymore.... as a matter a fact I'll stay off the hair forum and hang out in some of the others...maybe the off topic section....

I don't think she meant to be short with you. I think she just wanted to offer a suggestion.

Your pics are nice actually. You are very pretty!
Good luck with whatever you decide! I'm sure transitioning must be super hard. have you considered straightening your hair?

 

[la mosca]

Your face is so gorgeous. I think a lot of styles would complement your features. Personally, I think a spiral set would be really pretty, as would a flat ironed style. Also, maybe it would help to check out some of the style inspiration threads. When I'm in a style funk, it always helps me to look at fab photos.

 

[DMJ's Mom]

I'm at that same place right now. The only reason that I haven't relaxed is because I'm preggo. But I think that honestly even though I would love to relax right now as soon as I did so i would deeply regret it.

 

[teysmith]

thanks ladies for your support! I'm gonna try to stick it out.. I appreciate all the advice given and will defanetly consider some of the options..I'm so happy I discovered this wonderful site!