Friends??

[Blessed_Angel]

Yeah, that's the main reason I've made fewer and fewer friends as I've gotten older - my tolerance for drama - esp. drama that you can SEE coming 5 months down the road - has gone down to nil. Nil. NIL.

My life isn't messy, and I'm not trying to invite ANYONE into my life and my heart (and that's what friendship requires, for me) who is messy. Not. having. it.

I want friends - crave them - but - I'm picky. And I'm not willing to settle with hanging out with just anyone in order to have 'friends'.

And yeah, I need to get out more, too. I can admit that.

Agreeing with all the bolds.

I guess I am too picky.

I'm a stage in life where I don't have much $$$ and most of my "friends" want to go to vegas and clubbing all the time, dropping loads of money on drinks and flights. I just can't do that. Not to mention I am just not into clubs at this point in life.

Another thing is I don't BS people and most people don't like that. There is what you want to hear and what you NEED to hear. Especially regarding relationships, and most people don't want me to tell them the truth. Isn't that what friends are for?

I get sick of people who gossip all the time...I mean really...is there nothing else going on in life? Especially people who gossip in front of me and are all whispering. That is incredibly rude and I just don't go for it.

I hate texting. I don't do it unless I can't call. People want to send me 50-11 texts.

Maybe I'm a little like a man. I like my life simple, drama-free and yeah...

Yes, that's what friends are for. I just befriended a fake friend who was always mad at me for not telling her what she wanna hear. What? Are we in high school; or are we grown arse women?

I want friends that I can be honest with and vice versa; but it should be done without hurting someone's feelings. For some, it doesn't matter how nicely the comment is stated; they'll always get "offended".

I mean, like I have had friends who meet a guy in a club, don't talk to him, and on the first night sleep with him, and then complains he only calls them for sex.

Everyone is like, "oh he is such a jerk blah blah"

I'm like. You carried yourself like all you wanted is sex. What do you expect him to want to really KNOW you now?

Of course...that's not what people want to hear. So I am the rude one, the jerk.

I carry my lunch to grad school everyday. My friends eat out everyday. I can't afford that. Now I'm the antisocial one.

People want to go out clubbing the night before we have a huge brief due...that's not me.

I miss having deep conversations with people. Perhaps that's why I am on here so much. So much to discuss.

I had a friend like that, she would get on my nerves. I would tell her the same thing, but she didn't wanna hear it.

As for you studying instead of partying; kudos to you, because you sound like me: you're gonna look out for yourself instead of pleasing others. In life, you have to choose. Because it's very seldom that you'll find people in your life who can be happy along with you; it's usually either you or them. And it's great that you chose you. I guess that's why I don't have many friends; and alot of associates.

I miss having deep conversations with women as well. In the meantime, I just have them with DH.

As I have gotten older i find myself being my own friend. I spen more time with myself and family and less with friends. I find myself staying home more when the girl's go out. I'm in a place in my life where I'm trying to get in tune with myself. I have found that friends I thought I had, really weren't my friends and I'm alright with that. I find things to do with my children and that makes me happy!

Yes, I've gotten to that point as well. I just focus on me and my family. But deep down inside, I really want a chick; atleast one, that I could really role with once in a while. It keeps me feeling young and sociable. And I want to stay young for as long as I can.

I'm glad you started this thread. It is!!I used to think that I had some serious problems. I have stretch marks on my thighs. I'm not sure what I am going to major in. And then I meet people, and these people have crazy drama in their lives. And it's not that I'm insensitive, I am really open to listening to other people. Which becomes an even bigger problem, because I get sucked into their drama and I become temporary confidant instead of friend.

Also, I don't know how it is with older generations, but in my generation, literally all anyone wants to do is drink. Like everyday! Studying becomes a drinking game. Gotta have a shot before going to see Batman. I think this is becoming a barrier to me becoming friends with people my age. I'm sorry I know, I how to have fun without alcohol? I'm not much of a party girl, and with this hollywood culture, that's all any wants to do is take pix and post them on facebook.

I have alot of acquaintances. But, if I could just have one really best friend or two that would last me a life time. Having to deal with people's drama, and people's low self-esteem, and people's fakeness ), it's just too tiring. A girl needs her beauty sleep, once in a while, you know?

Yes, that would be perfect. I just don't have time for the mess; and I don't compete with my friends, so I don't need the "oh, girl, I got a bigger bag than you do". Like who cares about a bag? I just can't stand the pettiness!

I don't know. It's not hard for me to make friends. BUT.... I want to make friends more with Christian minded women who are in their late 20's.

I haven't found a church home yet. So, it's kinda hard..... erplexed

I've recently realized that that's what I need in my life.

I need to find a church home as well.