Free Download Steve Harvey's Act like a lady..

don't bother :(
your instincts are good at least.... don't bother buying

on the Tyra show (i know.. i know consider the source )
he was sleeazy and cheesy and disrespectful to women on the show..
and egotistical.....

but lets get to the highpoints... he touched in his cough-cough book
all he did ....was recap and restate in Steve Harvey-ese
what 1 million other women's books and mens's book are ALREADY saying ..

example
his so-called 90 day rule..when you can suss out
whether or not a man is intimtate relations worthy

Hands up! if you remember seeing that particualr 90 DAY RULE
on early episodes of GIRLFRIENDS.
it wasn't even a book...

gimme a break

I respect his hustle cuz this idea was genius.... Cash in on all the single, poor, misguided Black women who wanna be in relationships, but the men aint' acting right. :rolleyes:

Steve ain't no damn relationship guru, so this book is really no different than any Negro on the street's opinion, imo. I suppose his comedic ability translates into engendering successful relationships? Yeeaaahhhhh..... :rolleyes:

I'll read it cuz it's free. I wasn't about to pay for this ****. :rolleyes:
 
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I noticed Steve says not to give a guy your number, or else he'll think you're 'easy'.

However, in Why Men Love B's, Sherry says never to call him first- he should call YOU. kind of hard for him to call you if you can't give him your number....


I've read Sherry's book, not Steve's... I'll download it for free though.

Is it possible that Steve means to not give a guy a number unless he asks for it?

I know that back in the day, I was having a nice convo with a dude and then I gave him my number before he left, but he never asked for it. He didn't call me either... but looking back, I see why (the whole, he didn't pursue me thing)
 
I've read Sherry's book, not Steve's... I'll download it for free though.

Is it possible that Steve means to not give a guy a number unless he asks for it?

I know that back in the day, I was having a nice convo with a dude and then I gave him my number before he left, but he never asked for it. He didn't call me either... but looking back, I see why (the whole, he didn't pursue me thing)

Hmmm, IDK Bunny. That would actually make most sense. I agree.

I think you should always wait for a guy to ask for your number. However, I gave one of the guys I'm dating now my number before he asked and we've been talking for like. . .3 months now? Everything is great.

But the thing is we were having a really good convo and the only reason I gave him my number is b/c I thought it would be good networking, as he's in the entertainment industry and we know some of the same ppl, etc. I really wasn't thinking "Oh I wanna holla". Yeah, I thought he was cute and wouldn't have minded him taking me out (obviously lol). . .but it was just a laid back vibe and I thought he was on the same page.

Uh now that I'm typing about it IDK if that was a good look or not :perplexed :lachen: Oh well! It worked out.
 
I myself will not be reading the book....don't have too. and, i'm not a fan of steve harvey. when you get to be my age, there is nothing that steve harvey could tell me regarding men, especially at this late stage of the game. men are not as difficult to deal with or figure out.
 
I've been trying to read through the comments. So far I gather this is just recycled information.

Not that I'm having man trouble or anything. But the sheer fact that I'll learn something new, maybe, seems appealing.
 
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I read the first couple of chapters in the store and it seemed alright. The strawberry letter segment of his show depresses me, but I feel like the book came at things from a slightly different perspective. I mean, all the books are essentially saying the same thing. But I do agree that he could have just as well gone on a nationwide campaign talking to men about how to do better. Women aren't any more at fault in these situations than the men are.
 
I heard on the radio that He and Harpin Collins (publisher) is suing the person who created this website and the people that download this.
 
I read some of the book and he makes some good points about men being men and standing up but then he is a total hypocrit and needs to stop throwing God in every chance he gets (you know it's bad when a Christian tells you to stop bringing up God) and then turns around and makes it known that you have to break Gods rules to get a man.

Yes the book is just a rehash of other dating advice but he isn't even rehashing it consistently. He's contradicting himself all over the place. It's annoying. And instead of telling me why the men cheat and making excuses for it he does need to address men and let them know that women have needs that aren't being met by them but we still execise self control and they can too.
 
Well, you can talk to a man about how he knows better when it comes to how he deals with women, and you can write as many books as you want.... but at the end of the day, if YOU aren't forcing men to respect you the way you need to or step back, then they won't comply.

Simply put these books all say "Men are going to try to do what they can with you, but you need to change YOUR dynamic to force them to comply or step back."

Why must we get upset and defensive because "every book always acknowledges the man's bullsh.. and let's him off the hook anyway?" Because MEN aren't scratching their heads, hurt, crying and heartbroken on how to get what they want. Most of the time they "take what they can get or want" and move on. They have assessed whether or not they will respect YOU or comply and whether they can shift things in their favor, then bend and break the rules.
Men test you... a good part of your initiation into their world is composed of tests. If you fail a test, then to them, you aren't fit to stand strong in your values, and morals, and therefore, you aren't relationship material...especially if you profess to do or be one thing but "do it just for him" (especially if it's a sexual act you've done WAY too early). They won't tell you whether you've passed or failed verbally, they tell you with how they treat you. If you can't stand strong or impress favorably with him, how can he partner with you against LIFE?

If you find yourself scratching your head and wondering about why men have "the upper hand" on your relationships with them it's because you "allow them to," so what's wrong with all these books telling you HOW you ARE the underdog and you need to shift that? Ad how, if available? Men don't need books or talking tos- at least not in most of their minds, because they like the current state of affairs post-sexual revolution and feminism. "Oh you can do for yourself? Aight, so I don't have to do it for you!" "Oh you can have sex like a man? You can be casual? Aight, I don't need a relationship with you, you're easy... you'll want one after I've already busted it down and I'm already done with you" "Oh you think you're independent? Aight, I don't need you either." These books simply show you how NOT to be the underdog YOURSELF.


Men simply want women:

- Who are strong yet feminine enough to tap into a man's ego and satiate his need to be "needed" in more than just a sexual or financial way.

- Who respect themselves, but assert it quietly and not with a finger snapping, neck rolling attitude and won't let you step all over them.

- Who use their feminine energy to subtly woo a man back

- Who presents a challenge

- Who can remove herself from the defensive position when it comes to the battle of the sexes, and who can look at herself thoroughly and analyze what happened and make a plan to fix the patterns she's in to activate a better outcome the next time.


At the end of the day, if you're taking time out to love yourself, and take care of yourself... then you're getting WAY ahead of the pack of women who "need a man," hash out over the past, repeat the same patterns and say "Well WE don't need the talking to... the men are the wrong ones so talk to them." No there's no need to talk to someone who already thinks the da game been good to them... because "if it aint broke don't fix it."
 
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LAURYN,

You been on point with your relationship advice lately. :lol: What the hell got into you?

That last post was real. It's US, not them.
 
LAURYN,

You been on point with your relationship advice lately. :lol: What the hell got into you?

That last post was real. It's US, not them.
Lol!!! Thanks...

Nothing has gotten into me. I'm not perfect by any means, I'm just trying to be more open and honest with MYself so that I can grow and improve my relationships with people... from my friends, to husband to family and general folks. When I realize I may not please everyone's objective, then the important task is to empower myself actively in those opportunities where I can shift things in everyone's favor.

I'm basically learning what love is, in its most expansive form, of both the self and others.
 
I finished the book and while I thought it was funny and a light read, a lot of it was common sense. I mean maybe what's common sense to one woman isn't common sense to the next, but I don't get what's so hard about some things. It's not rocket science. I think some people were just a little tiffed by SH's delivery.
 
Steve Harvey is a smart man. He is all about his money making hussle. :lachen:

I learned everything I ever needed to know from my father.
 
^^As many ladies that have it in thread... might as well just send an email to one and get PDF... Holla at me if wanted..
 
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