I'm home early tonight. All of you were on my heart because I omitted something.
I needed to make this very important post for it refers to what every woman goes through.
How do we keep the Romance going when He wants to make love and we just don't feel like it.
We have ALL had those days, weeks, months...(no years
, please).
But ladies it's true and it happens for many reasons...hormones, emotions, he didn't take the trash out, again...
Yes, we get mad at them and we 'lock up' and at times we lock up good and tight and hide the keys.
Whatever the reason, we are just not in the mood. We actually haven't given it a thought, let alone made plans for it. Too much going on and then, 'Here he comes...our beloved, Mr. Frisky...full and raring to go and we want to give him a look..."Man you MUST be crazy"...Stoooopppp...Get off me'. Baby, you see all this work I have to do...stooopppp. Don't pinch me either." (Ladies you know this scene all too well).
Okay, whatever it is that's in the way of the Romance, 'Drop it, Leave it, Let it Go!' Drop it, NOW !!!
This is what you do...
Whisper in his ear,
"I hear you Baby. Come, help me get ready."
This is where you take him into the bathroom, ask him to help strip you down and the two of you relax in the tub together. Or allow him to bath and relax you. He'll be happy to. Also, whisper love words to him.
Such as:
"Hmmmm, thank you, Baby. You're helping me to feel better"
Reach up and touch his face, look into his eyes and say nothing. Just smile at him and 'blush' a little. LThen bury your head in his chest or shoulders and kiss him there and then, whisper, "I love you..."
Now, this is important.
Please do not use bubble bath. It can be irritating; especially when you make love directly after taking a bubble bath. It's not worth ruining the moments that you are sharing in love.
Instead of Bubble Bath, use powdered milk. I love powdered butter milk and coconut milk. You can purchase these at
www.fromnaturewithlove.com and they are not very expensive.
Milk leaves your skin very soft and it's gentle on our 'tender parts'. It also makes the tub easy to clean after a milk bath. I have some other uses for this milk for skin care that I can share later.
This act of Romance is a bonding between you and your husband.
For instead of him thinking and feeling rejected when you say you are tired, you are allowing him to experience the joy of relaxing you. He is also able to see and feel what you are feeling and that you are sincere and it's not rejection after all.
After the bath, allow him to dry you off. Then the two of you just flow together in love. After loving him, always whisper these two words into his heart
...
"More...Later".
God bless you, angels. Truly be blessed. And know this, if marriage has to be work, then make it a job that you both enjoy doing. The benefits are as high as the sky...Heaven.
Hugs to all,
"Shimmie..."