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janaq2003

janaq2003

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Do you ever get frustrated and think to yourself " Maybe I wasn't meant to have long/er hair"? I'm having one of those days.....:sad:
 
No, because I started way shorter than shoulder length - and if I've gotten this far, there is no reason that I shouldn't get much, much, further. :yep:
 
To be honest I dont think everyone who want long hair is going to get it. Some people hair is just different:ohwell:. I'm Apl & Sometime I wonder if I'll get to WL.?May be Oct09:lick:
 
Aww (((Janaq))), I tell you what. Instead of focusing on how slowly your hair is growing and waiting till it's a certain length to have fun with it, start to make the journey fun.

What is it you won't be abley to do when it's longer? Wear a puff!!! So how about doing a braid-out or twist out on your bun and then having a puff. What about accessories? You look very nice in your avi, BTW. Just get ideas to have fun with styling your hair. You'll be so into trying out a new do to impress, that you'll just wake up one day and find that it's taking you ages to get the style that you've been wearing for so long right. You won't know why at first and will blame the products, the weather, gas prices.... And then voila! It'll dawn on you that it's coz it's too long for that style! :yep:

Remember, a watched pot never boils. ;)
 
I felt that way until I really started to see some length retention and how healthy my hair actually is.

I catch myself sometimes though, my hair grows slow and unevenly and I won't lie some days I just get upset about it.
 
Nope because I had 1 inch of hair at one point. Also I was a little past APL when I was relaxed. I can't wait to get back to APL!
 
Not really.

I bc'ed March of last year, and found LHCF that Sept. I started with barely neck length, and I'm almost APL now.

I wasn't all that patient, though. Now that I'm so close to APL I'm even more impatient. I'm weaving it up this month to keep from acting crazy. :ohwell:
 
No, I have never thought this. When relaxed I was BSL. Thats my goal as a natural. I know even with the shrinkage that my hair is growing. I'm having so much fun just playing with the curls right now. I don't measure with anything, I just run my fingers the lenght of a coil and feel how many loops there are. I do it all day long, I can't help myself.:lachen:
 
Yea man I feel like that all the time because I started in dec 2007 growing my hair from SL and sadly im still there and its seems like ive been doing everything right, but hopefully things will change for the better this year. You just have to keep positive and looking at other people's journey might help you and inspire you to keep going. You will get over the SL hump eventually it just takes patience. Stay positive :yep:
 
Yeah I feel that way alot now. I see new growth my hair isn't breaking and it still looks ultra short. I feel even worse now after a recent cut(the first since my journey). I know I've come a long way but because i haven't ever had long hair in my adult life I don't really know if I ever will. Sometimes that thought just makes me wanna cut it,but where would that get me?
 
I used to feel that way but I believe my own mindset about my hair is holding back it's potential. all the obsessing and worrying about it, is just making it worse. like nonie said, a watched pot doesnt boil. I think trying new styles, just having fun with your hair, and to just be able to get your mind off of growth helps.

My hair has always grown when I was content and not thinking about it all the time. The times when I was watching like a hawk, it grew at snails pace.
 
I feel that way at times. I think that once I have some comparison shots that will put my mind at ease.
 
No, because my hair was past BSL before I cut it all off up to NL this past May. I wanted to get rid of the layers and damage from styling it everyday, and I actually enjoy my hair more now that it's very thick and even. By next May, I want my hair to be a very thick and blunt SL or near APL.
 
To be honest... I don't often feel that way. I'm usually a pretty positive person. Besides I started my journey at ear length and I am now shoulder length so I can see the progress I have made.
I will say that every once in a while I wonder how long it will take and my impatience gets the best of me. But that's when I just try to put it up and forget about it for awhile.
 
I don't know. At times I feel like APL will never come for me, but you have to stay optimistic. I see myself getting closer and closer to APL. The key for me was to stop making all these deadlines and just knowing when it is time, it is time! Over 8 months, my hair has gotten a lot thicker, and health is over length.
 
janaq2003 said:
Do you ever get frustrated and think to yourself " Maybe I wasn't meant to have long/er hair"? I'm having one of those days.....:sad:
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Yes every Monday, then Tuesday I tell myself things will get better and my hair is growing :look:

Wednesday I feel like Monday :wallbash:, then Thursday I make myself feel better for a while and so on and so on

Its a revolving cycle
 
I have been feeling a little sad about my hair growth.I started at neck length and I can't really claim shoulder length.I mean my hair in the back lays on my shoulder but my sides just can't get it together to grow with the rest of my hair it barely touches my collarbone.I just told my so that I want to cut it because I can't really do anything with it.I hate split ends and I am in dire need of a trim which will probably have me right at neck length again.I'm contemplating a weave but I don't know anymore.I used to wear wigs and weaves to hide my hair but now it all just looks fake on me.It is very frustrating.Especially when I'm trying to prove people wrong about blacks and hair growth.
 
I am between SL and APL. I had my bouts with Woa is me will my hair grow. I realize that my hair is growing all the time, something went wrong in retaining the length. When I first went natural, I wore twists alot. I have been wearing Wash and GOs and straightening my hair more often. The problem could be with the TLC. I started getting progress and starting show off my hair. Versus wearing protective styles.
 
Nonie said:
Aww (((Janaq))), I tell you what. Instead of focusing on how slowly your hair is growing and waiting till it's a certain length to have fun with it, start to make the journey fun.

What is it you won't be abley to do when it's longer? Wear a puff!!! So how about doing a braid-out or twist out on your bun and then having a puff. What about accessories? You look very nice in your avi, BTW. Just get ideas to have fun with styling your hair. You'll be so into trying out a new do to impress, that you'll just wake up one day and find that it's taking you ages to get the style that you've been wearing for so long right. You won't know why at first and will blame the products, the weather, gas prices.... And then voila! It'll dawn on you that it's coz it's too long for that style! :yep:

Remember, a watched pot never boils. ;)
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Yup, that's why my hair won't grow! lol :grin:
But seriously, I'll have my hair in cornrows for a month (because I wear wigs and scarves over them) and I don't see anywhere near half an inch of growth...maybe a few milimeters. :wallbash: I feel very discouraged, but then I think, maybe it's just "resting" for a while. I need to eat better and drink more water, and remember to take my multivitamin, then maybe my hair will "wake up." And I have to remember that a month's growth doesn't matter that much....how much I get after a whole year matters.
 
janaq2003 --- I feel ya! Sometimes it seems like my hair is making progress. Other times it seems like it just won't budge. AAARGH! However, when I look at my progress photos, I really do see a difference. Maybe not fast enough, but there is a difference.

Hang in there. It does get better.

lol
 
I used to think that I was not meant to have hair longer than shoulder length pre-LHCF, but at the time I never really cared about having long hair so it never bothered me. I was just puzzled as to why my hair wouldn't get any longer if it was growing and I had to touch up so often.

Now, I am not frustrated or impatient because in just three months of hair care, I have seen a lot of improvement. I am milliimetres away from APL. I realise that I will not have long hair overnight, but I know it is possible to at least get to BSL, which is my goal.
Who knows, I may even get to MBL, then WL (although I don't think I want WL)..
 
As long as I stay out of this forum I don't feel that way! :yep:

Honestly, the only reason why I wasn't upset to cut my hair off was because I knew it would grow back to shoulder length in a few months...but growing past shoulder length to APL is impossible for me! I don't think I can do it, and honestly I don't care anymore either.

...and since I stopped caring, my hair has grown about an inch per month!! :yep:


 
I do sometimes, but then I remember my childhood. I had long and thick hair. It was to the middle of my back-curly!!! So it's just slow growing and I have to pay more attention to it. I need to stay on here for inspiration!
 
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