First Date: Pick up or Meet up?

First Date: Pick up or Meet up?

  • Pick up

    Votes: 2 2.0%
  • Meet up

    Votes: 98 96.1%
  • Doesn't matter

    Votes: 2 2.0%

  • Total voters
    102
  • Poll closed .
If he is not a man I have known for a long time, I'll meet him at whatever spot we decide on.
 
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Meet up. People crazy and until you know who you are dealing with you can just play it safe at a neutral location.
 
I would say "meet" to be sure you're safe and whatnot. But I can't front like I haven't been picked up for first dates (note: I live in a secure apartment complex where they couldn't come back and get anywhere unannounced).

But quickly that should transition to picking me up. I don't want to be bothered with driving.
 
Meet up. I don't know homie well enough and not comfortable enough to be bringing him around my personal domain yet. Dude may be cray. Imagine if you went on a date with a guy who picked you up and at the end of the date, you find out he is not the match for you. Now you come out your house one day seeing him hiding in your flucking bushes because he is not accustomed to rejection. :rofl:
 
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Meet up. I need my car. If I'd know him for a long time (years) then pick up is okay...but I'm not putting myself in the hands of a stranger without a plan to get home.
 
Depends... If I know him, pick up. However, if it's a blind date or a first time date from online, we'll be meeting up. I don't give my address out and ride in cars with strangers.
 
I prefer to meet up. Though on the very first date with DH we met up near my apartment, then we drove, in his car, about 40 minutes away to go clubbing. And of course his car died on the drive home at like 1am. We ended up catching a ride with a police man (this negro had a pistol on him in the car too) back to my apartment but we didn't get home til 6am. It was a hell of a night :lachen:
 
I'm with the rest; they don't need to make a Lifetiime movie about me and some serial killer!
 
2 things I know for sure: My momma doesn't have any ransom money and people are crazy.

We're meeting up until I've known him for awhile.
 
First date, meet up. If they pass to the next round, I have them pick me up from my mom's house. She watches out the window to get make/model of car and she has even gotten license plate numbers. We also all have a code word we use with each other if we are in trouble. I know it is extreme, but I am scared of stalkers. This one guy I dated called my house the "bat cave" because he felt like it was a secret location. I'm weird and private like that...
 
Meet up he might be crazy. If the date isn't going to well, after dinner I can hop in my car and go home.
 
Meet up! No way I'm getting in the car with a stranger. I don't even like riding with coworkers or my roommates. I would take the bus if I had to Cars are such personal areas to me for some reason
 
I'm in NYC so meeting up is the norm, even for friends not just dates.

Even outside of NYC, I'd say meet up. I don't like the idea of a stranger knowing where I live.
 
I use to let them pick me up when I wasn't driving. It made me so paranoid about future stalking. LOL. Nowadays, I say 'meet up'.
 
meet up: he doesn't need to know where I live so soon, plus I treat all first dates as psychopaths until proven otherwise :look:
 
I've had enough dates to know that All men are crazy, and no if's and's or but's about it. The two times I've allowed non-boyfriends to know where I live, I have Deeply regretted it...because they'd always be around my place, stalking me, wanting to see me. :nono:
 
If I don't know him meet up. I'm funny about girlfriends I've known since I was in HS coming to my house. I definitely don't want some strange man knowing where I live.

If we've known each other a while they maybe pick up. But I like being able to end the date if things go sour and not have to worry about a ride.
 
Meet up at central location and ride together or simply meet up. I don't want my address out for one date.
 
Oh surely a meet up especially if its not someone i know. After one cray ex and some other crazies I've met I'll have to meet you in a public well lit spot--no hood spots, no clubs, no lounges. AND even to make it right I'll have my pepper spray and plus let someone close to me know what type of car you driving and what your first and last name is and just everything about him. Even go as far as sending a pic of him that i have to someone close.
 
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