growbaby
Well-Known Member
Hey ladies,
Have you ever had a friend and/or family member who was/is non-supportive of your hair dreams, goals, and accomplishments? I have, and I thought I could start a thread that supports us gals going through situations as such. Maybe others have gone through the same thing, overcame the disapproval, and can shed some light on how to handle it?
Here's my story. (It's a long one).
So my best friend of 6 years (known her for 10) has always had the most beautiful hair. She has 3b/3c texture that would hang to about APL curly and Full MBL/Grazing WL straight. For most of our friendship my hair would only fluctuate between SL and APL.
When I started my hair journey 1 yr and 9 months ago, she didn't approve of me spending $100 on hair products and vitamins. She said it was a waste of money because my hair looked fine and could grow back by itself. I was BARELY SL at the time and by grow back she meant back to APL. (But in her defense my family said the same thing, I believe they didn't notice how damaged it was due to lack of hair care knowledge.)
Fast forward to a year later my hair is at full APL/ grazing BSB and she does tell me it looks good and tells her coworkers about my videos and tells me to give them advice.
Fast forward to 9 months later (now). She recently got her hair ombré-d with blond on 75% of her hair. Exactly one week after the color, it began breaking of in chunks due to over-bleaching. She, very unwillingly, cut it into a Full NL A-line bob. She hates it.
Now a couple things before I continue. She can be a little self-centered, self-indulged, and cares a lot about looks. These are flaws that I accept about her, we all have them. Since its been cut she's always upset and complaining about her hair. People have even told her "you are not your hair girl, and you're still gorgeous" she then replies "but I am my hair".
Here's where I come in. So I have takin on the reigns of being the long-haired friend (not complaining). I am now FULL BSL/grazing MBL and people notice. But she ALWAYS makes it a point to tell everyone that her hair was longer and I had to do all this stuff to make it grow and since she's half Mexican it'll be longer than mine in no time. I even told her that she was and still is a hair Inspiration for me and I always wanted my hair her length. She cut me off right there n said"but it's not" (YES I KNOW). Just last week a guy she knows that she hasnt seen in a while called to me thinking i was her because of my hair. she then says to him (infront of me and a couple of our friends) "how could u think she was me? her hair is NOWHERE NEAR as long as my hair was). I can't even be excited about my hair around her because either A) it's not as long as hers was or B) her texture is way better than mine. She brushes off any hair advice i give even though just over a month ago shes recommending me to give it to others. Idk what to do anymore.
Can anyone give me some tips on how to handle this? If not and you have your own story, please feel free to share and hopefully SOMBEODY can help us lol.
Have you ever had a friend and/or family member who was/is non-supportive of your hair dreams, goals, and accomplishments? I have, and I thought I could start a thread that supports us gals going through situations as such. Maybe others have gone through the same thing, overcame the disapproval, and can shed some light on how to handle it?
Here's my story. (It's a long one).
So my best friend of 6 years (known her for 10) has always had the most beautiful hair. She has 3b/3c texture that would hang to about APL curly and Full MBL/Grazing WL straight. For most of our friendship my hair would only fluctuate between SL and APL.
When I started my hair journey 1 yr and 9 months ago, she didn't approve of me spending $100 on hair products and vitamins. She said it was a waste of money because my hair looked fine and could grow back by itself. I was BARELY SL at the time and by grow back she meant back to APL. (But in her defense my family said the same thing, I believe they didn't notice how damaged it was due to lack of hair care knowledge.)
Fast forward to a year later my hair is at full APL/ grazing BSB and she does tell me it looks good and tells her coworkers about my videos and tells me to give them advice.
Fast forward to 9 months later (now). She recently got her hair ombré-d with blond on 75% of her hair. Exactly one week after the color, it began breaking of in chunks due to over-bleaching. She, very unwillingly, cut it into a Full NL A-line bob. She hates it.
Now a couple things before I continue. She can be a little self-centered, self-indulged, and cares a lot about looks. These are flaws that I accept about her, we all have them. Since its been cut she's always upset and complaining about her hair. People have even told her "you are not your hair girl, and you're still gorgeous" she then replies "but I am my hair".
Here's where I come in. So I have takin on the reigns of being the long-haired friend (not complaining). I am now FULL BSL/grazing MBL and people notice. But she ALWAYS makes it a point to tell everyone that her hair was longer and I had to do all this stuff to make it grow and since she's half Mexican it'll be longer than mine in no time. I even told her that she was and still is a hair Inspiration for me and I always wanted my hair her length. She cut me off right there n said"but it's not" (YES I KNOW). Just last week a guy she knows that she hasnt seen in a while called to me thinking i was her because of my hair. she then says to him (infront of me and a couple of our friends) "how could u think she was me? her hair is NOWHERE NEAR as long as my hair was). I can't even be excited about my hair around her because either A) it's not as long as hers was or B) her texture is way better than mine. She brushes off any hair advice i give even though just over a month ago shes recommending me to give it to others. Idk what to do anymore.
Can anyone give me some tips on how to handle this? If not and you have your own story, please feel free to share and hopefully SOMBEODY can help us lol.
