janiebaby
Well-Known Member
I'm an ISTP!!!!!! Some of you may know that I randomly pop up in the RF and ask this question from time to time. After this thread last night...http://www.longhaircareforum.com/showthread.php?p=17656535#post17656535
I looked at the different personality types to see what I would be compatible with and thought hey the ISTP looks familiar I can probably get down with him.....little did I know that was ME!!!
I remember there was a thread about personality types way back when that I participated in so I went and did a search so that I wouldn't have to take the test again and this popped up http://www.longhaircareforum.com/showthread.php?t=130192
I saw that I had answered INTP but looked at the description and didn't think it was accurate soooo I took another test here: http://www.okcupid.com/tests/a-short-accurate-myersbriggs-personality-quiz
That's when I found out I am actually an ISTP and everything and I do mean everything they said about me is like 98.99999% true to the point of being freaky. This isn't like reading your horoscope this is like "you wasn't with me shootin in the gym was you???"
Here is a thread that I started before the holidays http://www.longhaircareforum.com/showthread.php?t=663307 when I created the thread I really was hoping that someone knew or recognized how I was feeling maybe through their own personal experiences. Often when I voice feeling like this I feel like maybe I'm being misunderstood or seen as maybe bragging like I have just so much to choose from I don't know how to pick or something. I know that it just may be that I don't give enough info and I really don't know how to express myself really sometimes (most times).
So here is the painful ugly truth about me in relationships.
ISTPs as Lovers
"To love means to open ourselves to the negative as well as the positive - to grief, sorrow, and disappointment as well as to joy, fulfillment, and an intensity of consciousness we did not know was possible before." -- Rollo May
ISTPs can be very intense and exciting individuals. Their strong Thinking preference makes them seem rather aloof and "hard to get". ISTPs live entirely in the current moment, which makes them especially interested in new sensations and experiences. They strongly dislike routine and strict schedules, and resist being controlled by others. They are fiercely independent and need their own space within a relationship. When involved in relationships which provide for their basic needs and which present them with new experiences, the ISTP will be happy to do what's necessary to keep the relationship alive and well. If a relationship becomes boring or oppressive to the ISTP, they will try to fix it, or move on. ISTPs take their commitments on a day-by-day basis. Even if they say "I do", it usually means "I do for now". They do not like to make lifelong commitments, although they may very well be involved in lifelong relationships which they have taken one day at a time.
ISTPs love to fix things, and may create problems in their personal relationships, just so that they can have the fun of fixing them.
They have a tendency to hold back their own views on things. They like to listen to other people's views, but are generally non-commital about expressing their own opinions. ISTPs have a habit of evading answering questions by asking more questions. This can be frustrating at times to their mates, if they are after a direct answer. The ISTP's decision making process is entirely internal, so they don't feel much need to share their opinions with others. When they are interacting with others, they are in "information gathering" mode, so they tend to ask questions rather than share views. The ISTP just doesn't feel the need to expose themselves fully to others. When it comes to intimate relationships, the ISTP has the further motivation of protecting themselves.
Most ISTPs are afraid of having to deal with their deeper feelings. Since their Thinking preference dominates their personality, their Feeling side is their least developed (inferior) function. Consequently, ISTPs are usually quite vulnerable and perhaps weak when dealing with their feelings. Their habit of keeping part of themselves hidden may also serve the purpose of keeping a protective wall around their hearts.
Although the ISTP does not usually have a well-developed Feeling side, they frequently do have intense feelings for people. They can feel overpowering love for their mates, although they are likely not to express their emotions, or to express them inadequately or inappropriately if they do venture towards expression. However, unlike many of the other personality types, ISTPs feel strong affections one day at a time. One day, they may feel completely, intensely in love with their mate, and the next day they may be totally disinterested, or perhaps even ready to move on. This "live for the moment" type of approach is different from how most other types experience their feelings, and is difficult for many to understand.
Consequently, the ISTP may be called "fickle" or "cold". In fact, they are not really fickle, and certainly not cold. They simply experience their lives on a moment by moment basis, and go along with it's natural flow. However, since most people need more commitment than can be offered when taking things day-by-day, the ISTP who wants to remain in a relationship will have to resolve themself towards being involved in a more traditional commitment. For most ISTPs, making a commitment to an intimate relationship will require an effort to stretch themselves outside of their comfort zones.
I looked at the different personality types to see what I would be compatible with and thought hey the ISTP looks familiar I can probably get down with him.....little did I know that was ME!!!
I remember there was a thread about personality types way back when that I participated in so I went and did a search so that I wouldn't have to take the test again and this popped up http://www.longhaircareforum.com/showthread.php?t=130192
I saw that I had answered INTP but looked at the description and didn't think it was accurate soooo I took another test here: http://www.okcupid.com/tests/a-short-accurate-myersbriggs-personality-quiz
That's when I found out I am actually an ISTP and everything and I do mean everything they said about me is like 98.99999% true to the point of being freaky. This isn't like reading your horoscope this is like "you wasn't with me shootin in the gym was you???"
Here is a thread that I started before the holidays http://www.longhaircareforum.com/showthread.php?t=663307 when I created the thread I really was hoping that someone knew or recognized how I was feeling maybe through their own personal experiences. Often when I voice feeling like this I feel like maybe I'm being misunderstood or seen as maybe bragging like I have just so much to choose from I don't know how to pick or something. I know that it just may be that I don't give enough info and I really don't know how to express myself really sometimes (most times).
So here is the painful ugly truth about me in relationships.
ISTPs as Lovers
"To love means to open ourselves to the negative as well as the positive - to grief, sorrow, and disappointment as well as to joy, fulfillment, and an intensity of consciousness we did not know was possible before." -- Rollo May
ISTPs can be very intense and exciting individuals. Their strong Thinking preference makes them seem rather aloof and "hard to get". ISTPs live entirely in the current moment, which makes them especially interested in new sensations and experiences. They strongly dislike routine and strict schedules, and resist being controlled by others. They are fiercely independent and need their own space within a relationship. When involved in relationships which provide for their basic needs and which present them with new experiences, the ISTP will be happy to do what's necessary to keep the relationship alive and well. If a relationship becomes boring or oppressive to the ISTP, they will try to fix it, or move on. ISTPs take their commitments on a day-by-day basis. Even if they say "I do", it usually means "I do for now". They do not like to make lifelong commitments, although they may very well be involved in lifelong relationships which they have taken one day at a time.
ISTPs love to fix things, and may create problems in their personal relationships, just so that they can have the fun of fixing them.
They have a tendency to hold back their own views on things. They like to listen to other people's views, but are generally non-commital about expressing their own opinions. ISTPs have a habit of evading answering questions by asking more questions. This can be frustrating at times to their mates, if they are after a direct answer. The ISTP's decision making process is entirely internal, so they don't feel much need to share their opinions with others. When they are interacting with others, they are in "information gathering" mode, so they tend to ask questions rather than share views. The ISTP just doesn't feel the need to expose themselves fully to others. When it comes to intimate relationships, the ISTP has the further motivation of protecting themselves.
Most ISTPs are afraid of having to deal with their deeper feelings. Since their Thinking preference dominates their personality, their Feeling side is their least developed (inferior) function. Consequently, ISTPs are usually quite vulnerable and perhaps weak when dealing with their feelings. Their habit of keeping part of themselves hidden may also serve the purpose of keeping a protective wall around their hearts.
Although the ISTP does not usually have a well-developed Feeling side, they frequently do have intense feelings for people. They can feel overpowering love for their mates, although they are likely not to express their emotions, or to express them inadequately or inappropriately if they do venture towards expression. However, unlike many of the other personality types, ISTPs feel strong affections one day at a time. One day, they may feel completely, intensely in love with their mate, and the next day they may be totally disinterested, or perhaps even ready to move on. This "live for the moment" type of approach is different from how most other types experience their feelings, and is difficult for many to understand.
Consequently, the ISTP may be called "fickle" or "cold". In fact, they are not really fickle, and certainly not cold. They simply experience their lives on a moment by moment basis, and go along with it's natural flow. However, since most people need more commitment than can be offered when taking things day-by-day, the ISTP who wants to remain in a relationship will have to resolve themself towards being involved in a more traditional commitment. For most ISTPs, making a commitment to an intimate relationship will require an effort to stretch themselves outside of their comfort zones.
How have you been? Long time no see!
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