Kamilah
Member
I'm so sick of this efing Peter Pan mentality that guys, especially Black guys but all really, have that they can just take from a relationship and don't owe us anything. They feel no sense of obligation to provide, protect, or even just commit. This disgusts me on so many levels I cannot explain. This rash of "miss independent" songs epitomizes the trend. They say they want a woman who can do for herself (and probably him too) who "wants him but doesn't need him". What the heck? Just because I can pay my bills, am educated, and productive doesn't mean I don't need a man! And the newsflash to them is that they need us too! Why is there so little/no value on stability and relationships? No respect for the positive feelings associated with doing things for the person you love, there is no sense of appreciation of ONE person. No willingness to take the time to make the relationship work, no willingness to try to step up and be the man. Why don't they listen to those old songs when men sang about the joys of being the man in a relationship? How do we have a whole freaking generation of Peter Pans who just run from one woman to the next? I'm not jumping on the whole "45% of Black women..." train, but the reality is more stark. Children born out of wedlock, the notion of abstinance is nearly laughable in our community, "hooking up" being the norm. I'm just totally sick of it all because it seems so hopeless- for our generation in general but for Black people in particular. What the hell is wrong with our men?!?
Rant not over, but I'll spare you the rest. For now.
Rant not over, but I'll spare you the rest. For now.