Excuses people make to justify their short and/or damaged hair

[RegaLady]

Some people REALLY do like short hair, believe it or not. I was one of them. Although my hair would grow, I would turn right around and cut it off. I liked/prefered it short. Damaged is another thing, but short or short cuts are a bit different. Some people liked how it flattered them and how low maintence they are.

 

[davisbr88]

This one girl in elementary school stood by this story for YEARS:
"My brother cut my hair when I was 3 and messed it all up so it won't grow back"
I was thinking... Um.... boo, you're 12 now.... It won't grow because you put a curling iron to it everyday.
Now she's 22 and weaved up.
I've been dying to direct her to the site, but I know I'll get that same lame story.

 

[DarkHair]

A friend visiting said that a local woman said 'the reason why our hair won't grow is because they change the water recently. Yours is long, that's why I know you're not from around here'.

 

[Newbie2Beauty]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NwrL9MV6jSk



They blame it on everything but themselves.

So sad.

OMG I am cracking up! This thread is hilarious!! Keep the stories coming!!

 

[luvmesumhair]

Shoot. Before I knew anything about hair, I use to tell people that "my hair only grows a certain length then it just starts thinning and breaking off. It does not grow any longer then this. That is why I cut it!" Meanwhile, I did not know that wrapping it, blow drying, hot curling (everyday) and combing it roughly, especially when wet! was a big NO NO. I would look at the floor full of hair behind me and just sigh and say "welp, guess it is time to get a trim again! LOL

Man O MAN I am so happy I found this site!

 

[melissa-bee]

Bump..........

 

[darlingdiva]

Wait...haircare is for RICH PEOPLE??? BWAHAHAHAHA
So, in 2010 people aren't pulling up to gated communities asking for Grey Poupon, they're asking for deep conditioner???? Gasping....for...air...

I can just picture the butler with the British accent walking you to the BSS and going: "Excuse me suhhh, but do you have any Joico K-Pak?????"

Alright, alright, I'm done now. Thanks for the laugh *still chuckling*

I thought my relatives were the only ones who said that "rich people" stuff when it comes to hair care. There are some members of my family who say that I use "rich people" stuff because I buy hair products from Whole Foods, Vitamin Shoppe, and health food stores.

 

[lovegymnasts]

Omg this thread reminds me of this girl i went to highschool with. Her hair is neck-length and damaged but she hides it with weave all the time. Her excuse, "oh my hair was super long when i was little but the perm broke it all off smh"

but get this; she walks around with a picture of her hair when she was little to prove to people that she had long hair

A note on people who say "I used to have long hair". That's what I used to say. And I did, when I was 14 my hair was cut from WL to around SL when I asked for layers my first time at the salon (***** looked at me and had the nerve to say 'What? When you ask for layers, that means short") Anyway, my mom was still encouraging, telling me it would grow back, but I was anxious to be grown and let stylists and others besides my mom do my hair. So it stayed between NL and SL and became damaged. REALLY damaged. Embarrassingly so. I used to tell people I had had long hair in the past and they'd look at me like, riiiiight. The problem was, I couldn't really figure out how to grow it back. I knew I had the potential, just didn't know how to grow it. My mom did, but I hated the idea of bunning all the time (needed to look cute ).
So anyway, that one may be less of an excuse and more of an expression of loss and just wanting it to grow back and not knowing how. Sorry if that's completely OT, I just had to put that out there.

But the whole "I just like being **********"thing...Ummmmmm, riiiiiighhht.

The thing I truly truly truly don't understand is if someone had long hair as a child because their mother or who ever was taking care of their hair AND they want their hair to return to that length then why not...

1. have that person take care of your hair again or
2. have that person teach you how to take care of your hair or
3. do the things that allowed your hair to grow out as a child

instead of making excuses?

You can find out how to grow it back by asking and listening to your Mama or who ever it was.
If the relaxer broke off all your hair and you want your length back, stop getting a relaxer.

If you do not want the long hair, fine.
If you truly do not care then fine.
If you truly do want it, don't make excuses while you do nothing or being hardheaded.

 

[theLovelyStyle]

A friend visiting said that a local woman said 'the reason why our hair won't grow is because they change the water recently. Yours is long, that's why I know you're not from around here'.

This is a good one

 

[IMFOCSD]

I love hearing that one.
People will ask me what they should do about their breakage and thinning, and I'll just be like....you can start with spacing out your relaxer more. Instead of four weeks, wait six or eight. And only relax your new growth, not root to tip.

They'll look at me like I done killed their puppy. Talking some..."oh my hair is too thick and grows too fast to wait so long. I HAVE to relax every 4 weeks."

So I look at them like: ohwell:

Mkay...so if your hair is so thick and grows so fast, then where the hell is it?
Cuz it's certainly not on your head. [/QUOTE]

Lmbao!

 

[IMFOCSD]

i was referring to hair like this

and they talk about dax making their hair grow and touchups every three weeks ..........

Reniece is awesome & has done wonderful things to this persons hair.

 

[Anakinsmomma]

All my friends with damaged hair say that they like it that way and wear it that short and choppy on purpose. I just look at them like...come on son. Who cuts their ends into a W shape?


That was the story that I told too though.
When my hair first started to break at the crown, I'd tell people that I had gotten layers.
When it broke more, I told people that I was experimenting with different lengths.
And when it was all gone, like to the top of my ears, I'd tell people that I'd cut it that way. And I maintained my lie too...people would ask me how come my hair didn't grow, and I'd just be like oh..I get it cut every few months. (False)

It's easier to make up stuff than to swallow your pride and admit that you don't know wtf you're doing. And that you are scared and need help.

And now look at that length. That should be proof enough that proper care works.

 

[Aviah]

" I had ringworm" (in reference to why your edges are missing). Granted, we were kids, but I'mm sure her mother told her that as she was braiding that kids hair so tight she had to pop some pain killers to go to sleep. I can tell you ringworm in your hairline those years ago have nothing to do with that...

 

[Incognitus]

"I used to have long hair but I cut it." Ummm....you cut it 5 years ago boo boo. Why is it still the same length it was when you cut it?
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Hahaha....I've heard that many times too. Also, what's the deal with almost everyone saying they "used to have long hair until this one stylist cut it" or when they were a kid. It seems like EVERYONE had long hair as a kid and EVERYONE lost that length when a scissor happy stylist cut too much. LOL...

 

[lesedi]

Omg this thread reminds me of this girl i went to highschool with. Her hair is neck-length and damaged but she hides it with weave all the time. Her excuse, "oh my hair was super long when i was little but the perm broke it all off smh"

but get this; she walks around with a picture of her hair when she was little to prove to people that she had long hair

 

[Anakinsmomma]

One day a friend decided to sit me down and tell me the following to help me after I said I was getting my thyroid checked cuz my hair was thinning (I'm having other health issues too...):

-I don't relax my hair often enough so my hair doesn't get "used to the chemicals"
-I should switch brands every three relaxers (wait, what? Doesn't that contradict the above?)
-I shouldn't slick my hair back (not realizing my hair wasn't "snatched back" but "scarfed down")
- get a blowout every week.

Her hair is thinner than mine, has never been past SL and about a quarter of it is breaking off really badly in the front. Not gonna talk about the edges. It has "swang" but always looks dry. Her excuse "my hairdresser knows how to grow hair but I don't go to her enough". She goes once a week! She always asks me to go with her so I can get my hair done by her hairdresser. I appreciate the thought, but no thanks.

 

[lesedi]

One day a friend decided to sit me down and tell me the following to help me after I said I was getting my thyroid checked cuz my hair was thinning (I'm having other health issues too...):

-I don't relax my hair often enough so my hair doesn't get "used to the chemicals"
-I should switch brands every three relaxers (wait, what? Doesn't that contradict the above?)
-I shouldn't slick my hair back (not realizing my hair wasn't "snatched back" but "scarfed down")
- get a blowout every week.

Her hair is thinner than mine, has never been past SL and about a quarter of it is breaking off really badly in the front. Not gonna talk about the edges. It has "swang" but always looks dry. Her excuse "my hairdresser knows how to grow hair but I don't go to her enough". She goes once a week! She always asks me to go with her so I can get my hair done by her hairdresser. I appreciate the thought, but no thanks.

When my hair was relaxed (and healthy) i had all manner of people telling me this too. Talkin bout 'The heat grows the hair'.
Babygirl, how would you know anyway? You barely have an inch to press

 

[*SkolarStar*]

"I used to have long hair but I cut it." Ummm....you cut it 5 years ago boo boo. Why is it still the same length it was when you cut it?
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i was referring to hair like this

and they talk about dax making their hair grow and touchups every three weeks ..........

I had hair down my back when i was a baby. lol

i want to say. . .ok, so you had 8" of hair for your whole entire life then

 

[mzteaze]

Some of these excuses....

I heard this one lately:
- My father has a receding hairline and I got it from him. (I'm sure its not your wig placement)

- The oft repeated, "You got good hair"

 

[Incognitus]

Pre-LHCF, this is how I dealt with hair breakage or other setbacks:

I'd get depressed because of the setback. So I'd get expensive, natural-looking extensions (fusion, interlocking, etc) and keep on reapplying it until I'd get sick of weave in my hair. My motto was like that chicken infomercial: "just set it and forget it!" Sadly, that's exactly what I did.

To make matters worse, I took more time, care, and patience with my expensive human hair than MY OWN darn hair on my head! So, I didn't have a problem with taking the time to care for hair (heck, I properly cared for my extensions). It was moreso me getting depressed about damage or a set back so I would hide the problem. As the old saying goes: outta sight, outta mind.

Thank goodness I stopped brushing my hair issues under the rug...

 

[Anakinsmomma]

Pre-LHCF, this is how I dealt with hair breakage or other setbacks:

I'd get depressed because of the setback. So I'd get expensive, natural-looking extensions (fusion, interlocking, etc) and keep on reapplying it until I'd get sick of weave in my hair. My motto was like that chicken infomercial: "just set it and forget it!" Sadly, that's exactly what I did.

To make matters worse, I took more time, care, and patience with my expensive human hair than MY OWN darn hair on my head! So, I didn't have a problem with taking the time to care for hair (heck, I properly cared for my extensions). It was moreso me getting depressed about damage or a set back so I would hide the problem. As the old saying goes: outta sight, outta mind.

Thank goodness I stopped brushing my hair issues under the rug...

ITA. I used to get depressed all the time. I'd fry my hair for a certain occasion and I wasn't washing it enough and wondering why my hair wasn't holding a curl and/or frizzy. So a pony or weave was my crutch. But no more :no::no:

 

[NIN4eva]

Some of these excuses....

I heard this one lately:
- My father has a receding hairline and I got it from him. (I'm sure its not your wig placement)

- The oft repeated, "You got good hair"

Maaaaan... it's crazy! I'm actually getting into back and forths with people about the bolded. People are telling me that I'm biracial and have "good" hair. When I say that I'm not and that I don't they want to disagree with me! It's crazy. There are still too many people who refuse to believe that it's possible to have healthy looking, long, relaxed 4b/c hair.

 

[NIN4eva]

ITA. I used to get depressed all the time. I'd fry my hair for a certain occasion and I wasn't washing it enough and wondering why my hair wasn't holding a curl and/or frizzy. So a pony or weave was my crutch. But no more :no::no:

It's funny, I wanted to add some highlights for dimension but I'm too afraid to lighten my hair and cause a setback, so I thought I'd just put in some clip in's instead, but I couldn't do it. I wore wigs and pony's so much over the years and now that I feel free from them them just the idea of wearing any kind of extensions is too off putting. I'd rather go without.

 

[mzteaze]

You know the sad part, all the money I spent over YEARS buying weaves when my natural hair is now at or near the length I used to buy.

My mom told me recently that I have "good" hair. Ugh.

I have come to realize that people won't accept the amount of work necessary to keep hair growing.

 

[LovelyNaps26]

"my hair is short and sassy. like halle berry's"

 

[Vashti]

You know the sad part, all the money I spent over YEARS buying weaves when my natural hair is now at or near the length I used to buy.

My mom told me recently that I have "good" hair. Ugh.

I have come to realize that people won't accept the amount of work necessary to keep hair growing.

See, this is what gets me. Why can't they ask you how you got your hair to progress and grow? It's like they have no motivation or desire for better, healthier hair for themselves. They just accept this idea that they can't have nice, long hair.

I've had broken off, damaged hair for years and now one woman at work menmtioned that I "got good hair." I have the same hair texture she has but all of a sudden I havegood hair? Whatever happened to asking for better information so you can improve what you have?

 

[daydreem2876]

But my beautician says....

 

[Guyaneek]

I'm sorry but

I honestly think it's simply a lack of knowledge and thereby a lack of confidence that they can have healthy, long hair. If BW hadn't collectively been taught that beautiful hair is unattainable for us, folks may put more effort into it. And since so many of us have a deep hate for our hair textures, a lot of women would just rather not deal with or think about it and focus their time/energy/money on just abusing it into submission.

Plus, if they truly believe that it's out of their reach, I think it's easier for them to pretend that they don't care.

Wow!!! So well said!!!!

 

[mzteaze]

See, this is what gets me. Why can't they ask you how you got your hair to progress and grow? It's like they have no motivation or desire for better, healthier hair for themselves. They just accept this idea that they can't have nice, long hair.

I've had broken off, damaged hair for years and now one woman at work menmtioned that I "got good hair." I have the same hair texture she has but all of a sudden I havegood hair? Whatever happened to asking for better information so you can improve what you have?

Its easier to say its "good" (i.e. unattainable) hair than to admit that with a little knowledge and work you can make it happen with YOUR hair.

 

[Dizz]

OMG you HAVE ME ROLLING!

I know what you mean, unless they cut their hair with those special zig-zag scissors for construction paper projects!

LOOOOOOOL! I remember those!!!!