"the reson your hair stays short is... because you haven't found a hair stylist with them 'growing hands'."
? Wow. 
If I let this girl have her way with my head she'd be relaxing me and doing too tight braids the same day"the reson your hair stays short is... because you haven't found a hair stylist with them 'growing hands'."
erplexed 
Good one!! LOL!!
I try to share my knowledge too, but everybody don't wanna listen. It's about half and half. Some people attribute it to my skin color and hair type, which is a load of crock. I put so much effort into my hair, that I HATE when someone makes it seem like it was sooooooooooooooooooooooo easy and that the only reason I got it is cause "you got that good hair." It's very annoying.
I think a lot of people just want the lazy way; they don't wanna work for healthy hair.
Saying this makes me mad all over again at my roommate cause damnit she "lost" my $40 shears that I bought from Sally's. I only used them on my hair once, the same day I bought 'em. Then the next day she asks to use them, and all of a sudden can't find 'em no more
$40 for some shears to be lost? It's things like that which make me wonder if I have the spirtiual gift of giving (we're studying gifts in women's study) and well if somebody asked for my $40 shears I'd be trying to "figure" that one out...I'd tell her let me get back at ya in a minute on that one...I guess that goes for the people you can't really quite rely on. Most my friends can get the world from me so it's case by case.
....some people looked at me crazy when I tried to ask for that in other states- my bad I though it was a universal thing... half packs are handy for ponytails and for finishing off a small patch of braids you didn't estimate for. Back on topic. I decided to use the internet to make sure I could really walk around and use those excuses or to determine they are just myths and they were myths! My hair still needs progress of course but I have a relationship with my hair now. It's no longer defeating when I touch it. I can do something about it, I'll just have to work at it and with it.
i was referring to hair like this
What in the...
Keep living the lie!!!!
It's so funny you posted this!
My stylist was installing my weave last month. I go to her really because there is no one else and at least she listens when I tell her not to braid too tight etc BUT I do everything esle myself ie wash, DC, straighten.
So when I went to her last motnh for my install I had quite some progress ie growth and thickness. And she said, "Oh wow, you see how I have 'growing hands'??"
I watched her relax bone straight a woman with thin fine 1" hair and have her make an appointment the next day or week for a weave.
She believes that black hair just can't grow hence the need to have weaves and wigs. She doesn't really get it that I am using weaves as a PS and not as a permanent solution.
I hope my continued progress changes her opinions.
did you give her the stank eye when she said that madness!
Most popular "I dont got that good hair"
( that's directed towards my sister)I've seen hair like this, and it always crossed my mind "WHAT HAPPENED?" and also what can i do to NOT to achieve that look.
I've had sun damaged, overprocessed, underprocessed,and dry hair.
MOi never akonpli cheveux anvan and dont want to ever no MANTI .
Originally Posted by LoveLiLi
There was a girl I was friends with in college. She was in my room one day and after complimenting my hair she went on to tell me her hair story.
According to her, she used to have long hair all the way down her back and her neighbor would do her hair everyday before school. She said the neighbor was jealous of her hair and instead of using grease, was using pure lye on her hair everyday for a year.
She said she didn't find out what the neighbor was doing until the year was over and that's why she had short hair.
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??IDK, but maybe she meant the lye that is used in soaps, not the sodium hydroxide (also called lye) that's in relaxers. Of course, if the neighbor was putting sodium hydroxide on her scalp, it would burn a whole through it like acid, for real. I'm sure there are chemical similarities between the two, but the lye used to base bar soaps (think lard-like)...I could see it being similar in consistency to grease. Just my op.
You know what? I can't even front I was ^^ there most of my ignorant adolescent years. So sad. I'm glad her face aint showing cause we would put a hit out on her to get it fixed. I'm also glad that I quit doing the same damage to my hair expecting different results. I must've been insane, fortunately I covered my head with weave ponytails or braids when it counted, but underneath my hair was something like this. I feel like laughing and crying at the same time.
LOL!
Don't even bother yourself anymore. If a friend asks me what to do with her hair, I tell her. If she starts arguing or giving excuses about why she can't do x,y,z...then I shrug and KIM. I used to stand there and argue right back..offering them my product and everything, but at this point, I can't be bothered. If they want to have their hair looking a mess, then oh well, because it's not on my head and it's not affecting my growth.
If she's on Reneice's site, chances are, it's been fixed.
But I agree with you....my hair looked like that all through middle school and it sucked butt. I acted like I liked my hair, but no...it sucked butt. I used to cry about it all the time.
That's actually what drove me to LHCF in college. My hair was SL, but it was dry, breaking, and slowly going back to how it was in middle school. I was really desperate and frustrated, so I started googling. Even though it sounded crazy to be sleeping in plastic bags and to be using "white people products", I was like *** it. Let me just try, because my hair now is jacked anyway. It can't get worse.
So with my friends and people around me, I just wait for them to get desperate and tired enough to consider another way. Eventually, they will be tired of having hair on their clothes and in the sink instead of on their head. They will be tired of oozing scalp burns from relaxing improperly. They will be tired of having to depend on weaves and lacefronts and never having nice hair of their own. And if they get tired and desperate enough, they will find LHCF. Or they will at least listen to me and go buy some dayum conditioner.
And if they don't, then oh well. Like I said, it's not on my head.
Yup I'am so glad i found longhaircareforum!!!
aint that some crap and the girl who told me this is getting ready to finish cosmetology school.
wow!
nono: She noted the progress and attributed all credit to herself...and her "growing hands" despite the fact that I had not been to her in months!
The salon will not solve your problem, nor will the people in the hair salon, nine out of ten times. Another member said, "I'm really starting to believe that anyone who gets paid to do hair needs to go through the same rigorous schooling doctors go through..." And its true! My hair has been jacked up by almost everyone that I've allowed to handle it and I've let A LOT of people in my hair all for the sake of getting it back on track after my first weave damage and broke my hair. I can't begin to tell you how many salons I've been to and can count on one hand and still have fingers left over, the number of good hairdressers I've come across in the span of 11 years. 
I offered but she said that she doesn't have time to care for her hair AT ALL....So, why don't you put her on to LHCF and leave her be.
she thinks deepconditioning is too time consuming.
Ok, you guys. I don't mean to come back in here and vent.
But the roommate who has the hair problems, the one who "lost" my shears. We just got into it (over another matter; I feel that she's a user, but that's a different story). She told me that I was the Devil, and that I was evil.
So, I told her she was never gonna grow any hair.....
) Anyway, my mom was still encouraging, telling me it would grow back, but I was anxious to be grown and let stylists and others besides my mom do my hair. So it stayed between NL and SL and became damaged. REALLY damaged. Embarrassingly so. I used to tell people I had had long hair in the past and they'd look at me like, riiiiight. The problem was, I couldn't really figure out how to grow it back. I knew I had the potential, just didn't know how to grow it. My mom did, but I hated the idea of bunning all the time (needed to look cute ). .
Originally Posted by LoveLiLi
There was a girl I was friends with in college. She was in my room one day and after complimenting my hair she went on to tell me her hair story.
According to her, she used to have long hair all the way down her back and her neighbor would do her hair everyday before school. She said the neighbor was jealous of her hair and instead of using grease, was using pure lye on her hair everyday for a year.
She said she didn't find out what the neighbor was doing until the year was over and that's why she had short hair.
-------------------------------------------
??IDK, but maybe she meant the lye that is used in soaps, not the sodium hydroxide (also called lye) that's in relaxers. Of course, if the neighbor was putting sodium hydroxide on her scalp, it would burn a whole through it like acid, for real. I'm sure there are chemical similarities between the two, but the lye used to base bar soaps (think lard-like)...I could see it being similar in consistency to grease. Just my op.
Anyway, my mom was still encouraging, telling me it would grow back, but I was anxious to be grown and let stylists and others besides my mom do my hair. So it stayed between NL and SL and became damaged. REALLY damaged. Embarrassingly so. I used to tell people I had had long hair in the past and they'd look at me like, riiiiight
erplexed
Well dang, they'd see some of our hair closets and think they had stumbled upon Fort Knox.Wait...haircare is for RICH PEOPLE??? BWAHAHAHAHA
So, in 2010 people aren't pulling up to gated communities asking for Grey Poupon, they're asking for deep conditioner???? Gasping....for...air...
I can just picture the butler with the British accent walking you to the BSS and going: "Excuse me suhhh, but do you have any Joico K-Pak?????"
Alright, alright, I'm done now. Thanks for the laugh *still chuckling*
i was referring to hair like this
I will just pick up my jaw and leave now. I really feel bad for her.
i just utilize good practices to retain length which keeps it healthy. healthy hair is good hair......you can lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink....le sigh.
