Essence.com - 10 Underrated Guys You Need to Consider Dating

Bun Mistress said:
Yea, Klearli I don't think people are taking this out of reference. If I'm gong to date you, I need you to be on my. level. I have plenlty of flaws; I am a messy, I run late some times. I will tell you off if you pop off at the mouth, ect. These are easily acceptable things that I can put up with. However, under 5'5"? Looking for an more accurate stat but only 30% of US males (black and non black) are 5'4" and under. I mean 5'4" is short for a woman (I'm 5'3"). So that is SHORT! But a man can't help his height and if a guy was 5'5" and I liked him I would consider it b/c it wouldn't bother me. I can see how if you were taller it would be a no go.

Two, the unemployment. I need a man that wants to work. There are two kinds of men that get laid off, the one that will live off some one (his GF, moma, the goverment) and wait for his next high paying job, or the guy that works where he can work while looking for his next career. I have NEVER been unemployed.

But really, 3, I need a guy that is keeping it together. I'm not 30 yet, and I keep my face looking nice, my teeth white, my skin clear, my hair done, my body tight, you get the picture. Its called maintence. You do it for yourself. It is a reflection of how you value yourself. What do I want some overweight, boob-man, stank-breath, dracula nails, pizza faced looser? I'm sorry, that is the definition of SETTLING .
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PRICELESS!!! LOL! :lachen: :lol: :rofl: :lachen: :lachen:

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA!!! :rofl: :lachen: :lol:
 
If a dude has dragon breath and dirty nails, you KNOW he has musty ballz, pee-stained drawers, and a big ol' 1970s bush down there. :barf:

You shouldn't have to teach a grown man about personal hygiene. :nono:
 
DSP said:
If a dude has dragon breath and dirty nails, you KNOW he has musty ballz, pee-stained drawers, and a big ol' 1970s bush down there. :barf:

You shouldn't have to teach a grown man about personal hygiene. :nono:
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Grosssss!!!

Having to ask a date to wash his hands is too much.

I am 5'3 myself, I don't want to start dating little people.
 
my standard used to be at least 5 years older...my current is 2 yrs younger and we are the same height 5'5". he likes when i wear heels. i wish i would have not been so hung up on age when i first met him 5 almost 6 yrs ago. we would be married by now lol
 
I follow the author on twitter. He had the youtube videos that people loved too.

In the end most of his stuff was him trying to be funny. His main point was stop having such narrow views and over looking men that can be great guys. When he said "man-boobs" man I think he meant men that we not perfetly fit. I would never date an obese man but I will date a man that doesn't have the perfect body.

The mama-boy? yeah I can't see how that could work for me. But when did short, introverted, or non-black men become "sub-par" or equate to lowering of your standards? Just as women's beauty comes in all packages so does men's.

And someone on his twiiter actually asked him to make a list for women and he said he would
 
Sorry I'm not lowering my standards for anyone....Essence has fell and bumped their brain and the person who wrote this needs to kick rocks....

I dealt with the guy with the stinky breath and honey it was nothing pleasant about it. I had to remind him to chew gum because his breath was kickin like jet li in a kung fu fight.

I'm definietly not going with the unemployed guy. ITA with the rest of you on that too.
Its a recession true but I'm not paying NO mans way. I dealt with the under employed guy again wasn't that he was under employed its just that he was satisfied with staying in the same situation and under employed.

And I'm 5'2 the guy I was dating was about the same height nope not going any shorter than myself. And i don't think its nothing to ask for to have someone a little taller.
 
I am so, so, SO sick of these lists. AS IF any man would give a woman with bad breath a chance!!

As I have said countless times before, black women are the least protected, least respected group of women all over the world. That is reflected by this list. Being told to give subpar men a chance because on a subconscious level it is believed that we aren't going to be able to do much better than this. Gross, just gross. I feel sorry for the younger generation coming up behind us.:nono:
 
I thought it was a nice article. Some women are really shallow. It's one thing to have preferences but sometimes "the list" is too extensive. There's nothing wrong with being open...you may realize that a trait you once thought was important isn't, in the grand scheme of things. So, it's not so much about lowering standards but rather reevaluating what's really important and eliminating thoughts that don't serve you well.
 
The only one I didn't like was the Cave Man guy. I can't date someone who doesn't have good hygiene. Bad odors are offensive. I love kissing and funky breath is not a turn on.

I can understand being unemployed due to the recession. It's happened to a lot of people. As long as he doesn't have a history of chronic unemployment and he has skills, education, and motivation to acquire a new position I can work with that.
 
Klearli said:
I think some of ya'll are taking this list too seriously. I mean, its meant to be in jest, which is why the examples are so exagerated. I mean, I don't think the author really thinks we should lower our standards so much that we settle for someone with no concept of personal hygiene. But a hard working construction man might look a little grubby more often than not. He might be such a mans man that he really can't dress. Or maybe he dresses a little bummy. You'd give up love for that? And I can't believe all the people saying no to man boobs! Last I checked, unless a man is in good shape with nice pecs, he has man boobs! I mean, he might not be wearing a bra, but he has some tittays! Were going crazy in that other thread where men are saying they don't want overweight women...but people are in here like, uh uh, if he tooo short or fat, I can't even do it. What??? How shallow. I feel like the only people who can say they don't want an overweight man are those who are an ideal weight themselves.

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Then wouldnt it be in the comic/jest section?


Goldenprincess said:
I dated a guy with boobs once. He always wore buttondowns so I didn't know until it was too late.

*shivers*
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umm that's why you make out with them before going on the way. GIRL :nono:
 
:rofl:......wooooo.....:rofl: this thread...

A couple more to add to the list

The girl with interesting nail art

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The girl who's obviously smarter then you

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The girl who does not know who her baby daddy is

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I would get with (very small) man-boobs but he CAN't be sloppy at all. Introverted guy or no swag guy, no problem.

Mama's boy. I'm not competing with no man's mother. She carried him for nine months. Who can top that?

No job guy. Even if it is just because of the recession, no. Get your stuff together (it happens to all of us) then come see me.
 
Glib Gurl said:
^^Not just #8 . . . but then look at #9 and #10 . . .

No disrespect against anyone who is unemployed due to the recession, but someone who is chronically unemployed or still working on "getting himself together" when he's 40? Um, no. (I know that's not what the article said, but that's the feeling I left with after reading the whole thing.)

I cannot wait to see the 10 underrated women MEN should consider dating . . .
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IME, a lot of these guys have emotional problems that keep them from obtaining gainful employment. So, waiting for him to get a job is pointless bc he'll find some way to *** it up.

ETA: can't do cornballs, or cave men. Even the cornball in the pictured looked corny as hell...so imagine what he would come off as to you when he's not modeling in an Essence photo shoot./COLOR]
 
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I wonder if on the list of 10 Underrated Girls/Women Men Need To Consider Dating is:

The Black Woman :perplexed
 
Although some of these are plum out ridiculous, overall he does have a point. Some things REALLY do NOT matter as much as we think they do. And if you are willing to get rid of certain requirements, you can possibly meet a guy who will far exceed your standards.

My boyfriend is a perfect example, as he falls into a few of these categories.

- He can be introverted, but everyone who meets him thinks he's great.
- He's DEFINITELY dorky as hell. But so I am. Pot can't call the kettle black...
- He's non-black.
- Super close to his mother (who loves me, by the way...hehe :grin:).
- Lives a little bit further from me than I would like.
- He's two years younger than me.

And yet, this man treats me as if I were the most precious being to ever grace the face of the planet. He makes me laugh until I fall to the ground and my stomach hurts. He understands me better than anyone else I've EVER met. He's sharp as a damn tack...and I love him soooo much.

Added bonuses? He's quite handsome and in the subsequent months after we met, he busted his *** to land a new job which he loves :yep:

Take another look at your checklist and think long and hard about what really matters. If you're not willing to miss out on love just because of a certain "requirement," then, guess what? It's not REALLY a requirement, so let it go. You may be glad you did...

Okay, going back to lurk mode...:grin:
 
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