Essence.com - 10 Underrated Guys You Need to Consider Dating

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I was okay with this list until I got to #8 . . . so basically, black women need to start checking for broke dudes with bad breath. Nice. :nono:
 
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I was okay with this list until I got to #8 . . . so basically, black women need to start checking for broke dudes with bad breath. Nice. :nono:

I don't see how you got all that from #8. With this economy there are plenty of eligible bachelors who are unemployed. It's up to you to determine whether the unemployed guy is just going through some tough time because of his current situation or if he is a chronic unemployer.
 
^^Not just #8 . . . but then look at #9 and #10 . . .

No disrespect against anyone who is unemployed due to the recession, but someone who is chronically unemployed or still working on "getting himself together" when he's 40? Um, no. (I know that's not what the article said, but that's the feeling I left with after reading the whole thing.)

I cannot wait to see the 10 underrated women MEN should consider dating . . .
 
Momma's Boys, heck NO. Trust me on this one, Heck M'F'n no. Since I can not curse.
ETA: I can't get with a man under 5'5" because I am 5'9" flat footed and with heels I am, ya know. Most short guys just look at my ample bosom anyway, FREAKS.
 
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^^Not just #8 . . . but then look at #9 and #10 . . .

No disrespect against anyone who is unemployed due to the recession, but someone who is chronically unemployed or still working on "getting himself together" when he's 40? Um, no. (I know that's not what the article said, but that's the feeling I left with after reading the whole thing.)

I cannot wait to see the 10 underrated women MEN should consider dating . . .

I get what you're saying. If a woman isn't broke, why would she bother dating a broke dude? Unemployed, maybe, but homey better be networking and have some ish in the works!

and men under 5'5"? um...thats a negative. I'm 5'4", so you need to be taller than me.

And no way the mama's boy. lawd:nono:

But this is essence Mag after all...:rolleyes:


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Where to begin with this list...

I'm 5'3 so ummm no. I don't think over 5'5 is too much to ask (one of my guy friends even told me it wasn't.)

I'm very introverted myself, I've been with introverted guys and it hasn't worked. I don't need an alpha-male but I do need a guy who can take charge when necessary.

I want a man that respects his mother, but I don't want to feel I'm playing second-fiddle to her.

I'd date long-distance if I absolutely had to, but I'd prefer not to just because my life is crazy-busy right now. I'd do it I was really into someone but I wouldn't push someone into dating long-distance if they didn't want to.

Unemployed guys are a huge no-no for me, unless they're in school or have a really good reason they're not working.

I'm 23 and I don't even get along with guys my own age, why would I date someone barely legal?

I'm afraid to date someone with man boobs just because I'm so petite lol. The exercise thing wouldn't work because I don't exercise, unless you count walking.

I have cave-woman tendencies myself, mostly because I'm so busy. I enjoy going out and exploring the world but sometimes I need a little push to do that. I hardly see how being with someone I have to drag out of the house would work.



Sorry to be so nit-picky but this list is ridiculous.
 
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- What’s ironic is that a man’s relationship with his mother is often indicative of how he will treat his wife.

- If health and fitness are a part of your lifestyle, chances are he’ll adopt some of your healthy habits.

- Just because his fingernails are dirty and his breath smells like fertilizer doesn’t mean he’ll never figure out how to remove his cuticles or that flossing isn’t done exclusively in a drop-top.
These don't sound like very likely outcomes. :ohwell: I wonder if the author of that article is suggesting these things to the clients of his matchmaking service.
 
Ten Over Looked Black "Women" when dating:

1) The Girl that can't get her hair together or the girl with natural hair or an obvious WEAVE.

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2) The muffin top girl
or overweight girls
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3) The girl with no job but working to finish her education
4) The girl with Large feet or hands
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5) The girl that cannot cook
6) The girl who is junky and a hoarder

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7) The girl with a bad attitude but just need some lovin'
8) The round-da-way hood girl
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9) The girl with children
10) The girl that is not physically attractive
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A list you will never see. You will never see this because no one cares about " Women" and guys settling for women. You have to be perfecto but him....not so much.
 
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I CANNOT believe this:


Just because his fingernails are dirty and his breath smells like fertilizer doesn’t mean he’ll never figure out how to remove his cuticles or that flossing isn’t done exclusively in a drop-top. “Shopping” is one style of dating, but I prefer “investing.”



:nono: :ohwell: I have walked out on a man with dirty hands on a first date & I'll do it again! (Yes, he refused to wash them, even though we were about to order food.) Stank breath is even worse! You're telling me because he couldn't be bothered to brush his teeth or pop in a breath mint, I have to stick it out and invest my time because MAYBE he'll do better next time?! Yeah ok :rolleyes:

Being selective is key! Being single for a while is not the end of the world! We do not have to settle for nasty just to be with someone, I really hope that no one takes this crap to heart :nono:
 
Ugh! I. AM. SO. SICK. AND. TIRED. OF. SOCIETY. TELLING. BLACK. WOMEN. TO. BASICALLY. SETTLE!!!!! :wallbash: :nono:


I'm sorry, but I can't date a guy shorter than me. I'm only 5'6, so I would THINK that it would be fairly easy to find a guy who's taller than me. He doesn't have to be 6'feet and above, but even 5'8 would be fine if he has other things going for him. But 5'5?? Puh-leeeze. I'd feel like I was dating my kid brother. Plus, I like to wear heels. :look:

Man-boobs??---Ummmm....no. :nono:

Bad breath/unkept?---- :barf:

I suppose I could possibly deal with all the others on the list. :ohwell:


^^Not just #8 . . . but then look at #9 and #10 . . .

No disrespect against anyone who is unemployed due to the recession, but someone who is chronically unemployed or still working on "getting himself together" when he's 40? Um, no. (I know that's not what the article said, but that's the feeling I left with after reading the whole thing.)

I cannot wait to see the 10 underrated women MEN should consider dating . . .

THANK YOU!!! :clap:

I just want to see a list for MEN and which women THEY should give a chance to!

Another reason why Essence magazine stays losing!

ROTFL! :lachen: :lachen:
 
11) The girl with emotional problems: depression, anxiety, maybe just bipolar


12) The girl without a house, and live with her parents


13) The girl who is dentally challenged


14) The girl that works at a low wage job but has a good heart...i.e. your co-worker.

15) The girl who did not grow up with a dad


16) The girl who has no curves, flat ***, etc...

17) The girl like you.....your mirror......

18) For Older Men, Women your AGE




 
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im an essence stan and this is very disturbing/deplorable list..on all accords..wtf...

dirty fingernails unemployed dude--lololol...cmon son really...
 
More visual aides for your viewing pleasure. . . .

The girl with emotional problems: depression, anxiety, maybe just bipolar

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The girl with no job but working to finish her education

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"I'm stripping to pay my way through college . . . ."

The girl that cannot cook

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The girl with a bad attitude but just need some lovin'


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The girl with children

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The girl who did not grow up with a dad

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A few other gems . . .

The hippie/free spirit/halfway-homeless-looking chick

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The Gold Digger

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The non-fornicating church girl

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I am sure we can think of more

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That list and the pics associated with it had me :rofl::rofl::rofl:

I can't...not man boobs, or cave man...sh*t not even the dude under 5'5" I can't do it (not physically b/c of their height but b/c they often, not always, have self esteem issues that go along with the height...I'd be okay with it if he appeared to be normal...). Better single than settling!
 
11)The girl with emotional problems: depression, anxiety, maybe just bipolar

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13) The girl who is dentally challenged

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17) The girl like you.....your mirror......
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Black girl whose net worth is $5
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Black girl with Bad Credit

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I think some of ya'll are taking this list too seriously. I mean, its meant to be in jest, which is why the examples are so exagerated. I mean, I don't think the author really thinks we should lower our standards so much that we settle for someone with no concept of personal hygiene. But a hard working construction man might look a little grubby more often than not. He might be such a mans man that he really can't dress. Or maybe he dresses a little bummy. You'd give up love for that? And I can't believe all the people saying no to man boobs! Last I checked, unless a man is in good shape with nice pecs, he has man boobs! I mean, he might not be wearing a bra, but he has some tittays! Were going crazy in that other thread where men are saying they don't want overweight women...but people are in here like, uh uh, if he tooo short or fat, I can't even do it. What??? How shallow. I feel like the only people who can say they don't want an overweight man are those who are an ideal weight themselves.

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I think some of ya'll are taking this list too seriously. I mean, its meant to be in jest, which is why the examples are so exagerated. I mean, I don't think the author really thinks we should lower our standards so much that we settle for someone with no concept of personal hygiene. But a hard working construction man might look a little grubby more often than not. He might be such a mans man that he really can't dress. Or maybe he dresses a little bummy. You'd give up love for that? And I can't believe all the people saying no to man boobs! Last I checked, unless a man is in good shape with nice pecs, he has man boobs! I mean, he might not be wearing a bra, but he has some tittays! Were going crazy in that other thread where men are saying they don't want overweight women...but people are in here like, uh uh, if he tooo short or fat, I can't even do it. What??? How shallow. I feel like the only people who can say they don't want an overweight man are those who are an ideal weight themselves.

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Actually I think the author was dead serious :nono: I agree with the rest of your post - that we shouldn't be overly judgmental . . . but I don't think good personal hygience is too much to ask :giggle:
 
What is the point of it being in jest when it's in the relationship section? It's Essence, not Mad Magazine.

But yes, people shouldn't be so judgmental, but some of these are OUT there. Like I need to teach a man how to not be a slob (even if he brushes his teeth). We're too old for that...
 
Oh was this article supposed to be a joke? It seemed like to me it was (supposed to be) a legit article.
 
I think some of ya'll are taking this list too seriously. I mean, its meant to be in jest, which is why the examples are so exagerated. I mean, I don't think the author really thinks we should lower our standards so much that we settle for someone with no concept of personal hygiene. But a hard working construction man might look a little grubby more often than not. He might be such a mans man that he really can't dress. Or maybe he dresses a little bummy. You'd give up love for that? And I can't believe all the people saying no to man boobs! Last I checked, unless a man is in good shape with nice pecs, he has man boobs! I mean, he might not be wearing a bra, but he has some tittays! Were going crazy in that other thread where men are saying they don't want overweight women...but people are in here like, uh uh, if he tooo short or fat, I can't even do it. What??? How shallow. I feel like the only people who can say they don't want an overweight man are those who are an ideal weight themselves.

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There is a difference btwn cant dress and lacks basic hygiene.

Clothes you can work on, but when I have to tell you to wash your arse and brush your teeth.....:nono:
 
Yea, Klearli I don't think people are taking this out of reference. If I'm gong to date you, I need you to be on my. level. I have plenlty of flaws; I am a messy, I run late some times. I will tell you off if you pop off at the mouth, ect. These are easily acceptable things that I can put up with. However, under 5'5"? Looking for an more accurate stat but only 30% of US males (black and non black) are 5'4" and under. I mean 5'4" is short for a woman (I'm 5'3"). So that is SHORT! But a man can't help his height and if a guy was 5'5" and I liked him I would consider it b/c it wouldn't bother me. I can see how if you were taller it would be a no go.

Two, the unemployment. I need a man that wants to work. There are two kinds of men that get laid off, the one that will live off some one (his GF, moma, the goverment) and wait for his next high paying job, or the guy that works where he can work while looking for his next career. I have NEVER been unemployed.

But really, 3, I need a guy that is keeping it together. I'm not 30 yet, and I keep my face looking nice, my teeth white, my skin clear, my hair done, my body tight, you get the picture. Its called maintence. You do it for yourself. It is a reflection of how you value yourself. What do I want some overweight, boob-man, stank-breath, dracula nails, pizza faced looser? I'm sorry, that is the definition of SETTLING.
 
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