achangedlife
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My fiance and I have been together for ten years. We have four wonderful children. We're still madly in love with eachother and still very happy. Two years ago I rededicated my life to Christ and have been spiritually growing ever since. I hear a lot of people say that if you're saved you shouldn't date people who aren't and even the bible says do not be equally yolked with nonbelievers. How can I leave the father of my children and the love of my life? Right now we are not living together, we do want to get married but we are having financial set backs right now and can't afford our own place, mainly because I'm working on my masters and his business is less than a year old so we don't have the income. I know he would marry me tomorrow if we were able to live together but he doesn't want to get married till we can afford to get a place but that may be 2-3 yrs down the road.
On top of all that he has not rededicated his life to Christ yet so should I even marry him if he's not saved? He's not opposed to going to church, he went with me on father's day and he enjoyed the service and even said that he was thinking about going again. We live an hour away from eachother so it's not easy to get him to go with me every week and I'm sure whatever thoughts he has of church the will devil will fight it when I'm not there to encourage him.
I have no intention of breaking up my family but sometimes I feel like I'm being stubborn and not yielding to God's will. I think of the scripture where Paul says that if two people are happy together than the one that's saved should not leave but that only applies to married couples. I'm very confused. I want to keep my family together and please God too. I know the primary thing is to not fornicate but that's not easy when you've been with someone for that long. I don't know what to do.
On top of all that he has not rededicated his life to Christ yet so should I even marry him if he's not saved? He's not opposed to going to church, he went with me on father's day and he enjoyed the service and even said that he was thinking about going again. We live an hour away from eachother so it's not easy to get him to go with me every week and I'm sure whatever thoughts he has of church the will devil will fight it when I'm not there to encourage him.
I have no intention of breaking up my family but sometimes I feel like I'm being stubborn and not yielding to God's will. I think of the scripture where Paul says that if two people are happy together than the one that's saved should not leave but that only applies to married couples. I'm very confused. I want to keep my family together and please God too. I know the primary thing is to not fornicate but that's not easy when you've been with someone for that long. I don't know what to do.