Theo
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***Sorry, I know its long, but this is something that I've been dwelling on for the past couple of days.***
How would you view a man who became interested in you while he was in a relationship with someone else?
One of my classmates is in a long distance relationship while in medical school. Of course that is very stressful. Over the past couple of months, we've become quite close. We started out as study partners and it was completely platonic. Over time, however, I have developed some feelings for him, inevitably I guess.
Stress + long hours studying + attraction= very weird chemistry lol
Anyways, I have never shared them with him and we have talked honestly and frankly about love and relationships; I think he is a good guy with a good heart. I don't know his girlfriend, but I do respect his relationship. Lately I have taken measures to put some distance between us, mostly to protect my feelings. Nothing shytzi is going on, but when I fall, I fall hard, and it don't make no sense.![Yep :yep: :yep:](/smilies/yep.gif)
A couple of days ago, a mutual friend told me that he confided in her, and told her that he liked me, however, he feels conflicted about what to do being that he is in a relationship, which is close to 1 yr old. The relationship is already strained. She also said that he is concerned with how I might view him if he breaks up with her and then ends up pursuing a relationship with me, and worries that I might find him untrustworthy. Generally I would...
, but knowing myself, and the nature of our relationship there was nothing shady about us starting to like each other. It just happened.
Anyways, we've never talked personally about this. We remain close friends and we get along wonderfully, but I don't know how much longer that can last. There is definite chemistry between us. His relationship is already strained, and I think our friendship might be adding to the strain. Either way, I've fallen back on hanging out with him like that, for a couple of reasons. I mean, I know we're not physically cheating, but I'm afraid we might be emotionally cheating, or at least well on our way there, and I don't want to be apart of something like that.![Nono :nono: :nono:](/smilies/nono.gif)
So I'm confused. Could you get involved with someone who left another relationship to be with you? Is there ever an appropriate way of going about something like that? Anybody ever experienced anything like that? How did it work out?
Is it a bad idea and should I just stay away? Or continue our friendship and see where it goes? Can any good come of it?![Sad :sad: :sad:](/smilies/sad.gif)
How would you view a man who became interested in you while he was in a relationship with someone else?
One of my classmates is in a long distance relationship while in medical school. Of course that is very stressful. Over the past couple of months, we've become quite close. We started out as study partners and it was completely platonic. Over time, however, I have developed some feelings for him, inevitably I guess.
Stress + long hours studying + attraction= very weird chemistry lol
Anyways, I have never shared them with him and we have talked honestly and frankly about love and relationships; I think he is a good guy with a good heart. I don't know his girlfriend, but I do respect his relationship. Lately I have taken measures to put some distance between us, mostly to protect my feelings. Nothing shytzi is going on, but when I fall, I fall hard, and it don't make no sense.
![Yep :yep: :yep:](/smilies/yep.gif)
A couple of days ago, a mutual friend told me that he confided in her, and told her that he liked me, however, he feels conflicted about what to do being that he is in a relationship, which is close to 1 yr old. The relationship is already strained. She also said that he is concerned with how I might view him if he breaks up with her and then ends up pursuing a relationship with me, and worries that I might find him untrustworthy. Generally I would...
![Look :look: :look:](/smilies/look.gif)
Anyways, we've never talked personally about this. We remain close friends and we get along wonderfully, but I don't know how much longer that can last. There is definite chemistry between us. His relationship is already strained, and I think our friendship might be adding to the strain. Either way, I've fallen back on hanging out with him like that, for a couple of reasons. I mean, I know we're not physically cheating, but I'm afraid we might be emotionally cheating, or at least well on our way there, and I don't want to be apart of something like that.
![Nono :nono: :nono:](/smilies/nono.gif)
So I'm confused. Could you get involved with someone who left another relationship to be with you? Is there ever an appropriate way of going about something like that? Anybody ever experienced anything like that? How did it work out?
Is it a bad idea and should I just stay away? Or continue our friendship and see where it goes? Can any good come of it?
![Sad :sad: :sad:](/smilies/sad.gif)
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