Dressing to go to church. . .

[pebbles]

This past Sunday was really hot, and when I got to church the women of the church dressed as if they were going to the beach or a barbecue. It was a meat market. Really short mini-skirts, halter tops, cut-offs, etc. It was upsetting to watch. I was so tempted to go up to the pulpit to make an announcement about the proper way to dress for church. Some of those women forgot to put all their clothes on! But I'm not the first lady of the house. That's up to her, and I think she should have said something. I know in her place, I would be very vocal about the proper attire to wear to church, particularly during the summer months with the women losing their minds as they did last week.

I understand it's hot, but we are still in the house of the Lord. If Jesus walked into the church at that time, I can just imagine the number of women who would be trying to pull down their skirts and cover more of their breasts. It was outrageous! Then all the men in the church are staring and looking, and some people wonder why they're looking? Heck, I'm a woman, and I couldn't help but look! It was shocking! I wasn't looking for the same reason a man would look, but such manner of dress gets attention.

It would be great if the sisters could understand that you can't come to church in just any manner of dress. God gets no glory from that, and it's distracting and a bit annoying, to be frank.

Thank-you. Getting off my soap box now.

 

[PatTodd]

I agree with you. I believe it is disrespectful to enter the house of the Lord in cutoffs or showing excessive cleavage. Some people I know who are Catholic can dress rather casually for church (jeans and t-shirts), and I don't mind that. Nor do I believe that someone should be excluded from worship if they really don't own/can't afford proper church attire. But it sounds as if the parishioners at your church should've known better. Don't be surprised if something about this shows up in the church bulletin next week!

 

[redeemed516]

We had this problem at my church too. I go to a fairly young church as far as the membership is concerned, but my first lady called to meet with the women of the church immediately following service and SHE LET IT ALL OUT!!! Women are really mindful now. Even still though...I know that when they were getting dressed that Sunday morning that something within them had to say..."Do I really need to wear THIS to CHURCH?"

 

[dreamgurl]

Pebbles making an announcement in the Church:


Let All Things Be Done Decently And In Order In The House Of The Lord.

 

[pebbles]

Pebbles making an announcement in the Church:


Let All Things Be Done Decently And In Order In The House Of The Lord.

LOL! I am telling you, I'm tempted!

 

[Sweet C]

Pebbles making an announcement in the Church:


Let All Things Be Done Decently And In Order In The House Of The Lord.

Amen to that! I agree that its something that the first lady will probably have to handle since it pertains to the women. If we are mindful of how we dress going to our job, and going out, why not to church?

 

[Honeyhips]

I totally agree with you. And it isn't even for church. Christian women just shouldn't be dressing any ol kind of way. This is just tacky. I'm not one of those types who think you have to dress to the nines to go to church either, but the way they came out is so wrong. UNLESS, they are newly saved, don't have a lot, and don't know any better.

This past Sunday was really hot, and when I got to church the women of the church dressed as if they were going to the beach or a barbecue. It was a meat market. Really short mini-skirts, halter tops, cut-offs, etc. It was upsetting to watch. I was so tempted to go up to the pulpit to make an announcement about the proper way to dress for church. Some of those women forgot to put all their clothes on! But I'm not the first lady of the house. That's up to her, and I think she should have said something. I know in her place, I would be very vocal about the proper attire to wear to church, particularly during the summer months with the women losing their minds as they did last week.

I understand it's hot, but we are still in the house of the Lord. If Jesus walked into the church at that time, I can just imagine the number of women who would be trying to pull down their skirts and cover more of their breasts. It was outrageous! Then all the men in the church are staring and looking, and some people wonder why they're looking? Heck, I'm a woman, and I couldn't help but look! It was shocking! I wasn't looking for the same reason a man would look, but such manner of dress gets attention.

It would be great if the sisters could understand that you can't come to church in just any manner of dress. God gets no glory from that, and it's distracting and a bit annoying, to be frank.

Thank-you. Getting off my soap box now.

 

[Honeyhips]

instead of "HOUSE OF THE LORD", put IN ALL THINGS.

Pebbles making an announcement in the Church:


Let All Things Be Done Decently And In Order In The House Of The Lord.

 

[UmSumayyah]

Old Navy has some lovely long skirts for summer this year. Modest, and breezy. I am guessing that it is actually cooler to wear than a short skirt. The fabric covering your legs deflects some of the heat from the sun, and if its long and full, it also creates a slight breeze for your lower body as you walk.
I remember being asked once in high school if I was hot with "all those clothes". I responded, quite truthfully, that the hottest part of me was my feet in the sandals because the rays of the sun hit it directly.
Maybe you can pass out some OLD NAVY fliers after services Pebbles.

 

[Honeyhips]

Maybe you can pass out some OLD NAVY fliers after services Pebbles.

unh uh...

 

[pebbles]

Maybe you can pass out some OLD NAVY fliers after services Pebbles.

LOL! I'm more tempted to throw a blanket over some of those women! Keep it covered, darn it!

 

[victorious]

Pebbles, don't beat me up, but...

I can seriously see you hosting the spinoff show "What Not To Wear...For the Christian Woman." UmSumayyah can co-host with the fashion tips.

I agree with you though. No sense in making a hot situation hotter.

 

[pebbles]

I totally agree with you. And it isn't even for church. Christian women just shouldn't be dressing any ol kind of way. This is just tacky. I'm not one of those types who think you have to dress to the nines to go to church either, but the way they came out is so wrong. UNLESS, they are newly saved, don't have a lot, and don't know any better.

Exactly! Whether in church or out, I really believe our manner of dress has to be a reflection of our relationship with GOD. I was just really dismayed this past Sunday.

 

[pebbles]

Pebbles, don't beat me up, but...

I can seriously see you hosting the spinoff show "What Not To Wear...For the Christian Woman." UmSumayyah can co-host with the fashion tips.

I agree with you though. No sense in making a hot situation hotter.

You know, that's a thought!

 

[Kikootie]

In all honesty, one should be able to dress anyway they please at church because it all boils down to motive and what is in one's heart. On the other hand we as women certainly do not want to be a stumbling block for others. There are 2 ways to look at it. These women may be totally dedicated to God, but just HOT! God knows what is in their heart. But at the same time, love should stop them from dressing in a way that may be a distraction. We need to understand where these women are in their walk with God too. Maybe some gentle correction is needed.

 

[pebbles]

Hmm, personally I don't believe that we should dress anyway we want to go to church or anywhere else for that matter. I do believe that there is appropriate attire for every occasion. If you are totally dedicated to God, you know, (as you stated), that we should not be a stumbling block for our brothers. Any sort of sexy, seductive, suggestive form of dress is out of order in God's house. I will always believe that. As a woman, you know what reaction you seek when you choose your clothes. I cannot believe that they are totally unaware as to what reaction they will get with these super short skirts and low cut blouses. . . I seriously question their motives. Some of the girls I didn't recognize, but too many of them are members of the church. Those women should know better.

 

[Honeyhips]

You said it better than I could. The only reason why I would think their motives would be pure if they just got saved and don't have anything else. Women know what we are doing when we dress a certain way. And some women feel that is ok, which is why I say they don't know any better, or different is a better word choice. You wouldn't wear clothes, or I will say shouldn't, wear clothes like that to an office. But that is a whole nother topic.


That whole stumbling block piece used to, kinda still does, bother me. Why am I responsible for some mans wandering eyes. Men are going to look regardless. But then I had to admit that even I can't keep my eyes off a woman when she has on a low cut top. It just doesn't seem to be fair.

Hmm, personally I don't believe that we should dress anyway we want to go to church or anywhere else for that matter. I do believe that there is appropriate attire for every occasion. If you are totally dedicated to God, you know, (as you stated), that we should not be a stumbling block for our brothers. Any sort of sexy, seductive, suggestive form of dress is out of order in God's house. I will always believe that. As a woman, you know what reaction you seek when you choose your clothes. I cannot believe that they are totally unaware as to what reaction they will get with these super short skirts and low cut blouses. . . I seriously question their motives. Some of the girls I didn't recognize, but too many of them are members of the church. Those women should know better.

 

[Kikootie]

Hmm, personally I don't believe that we should dress anyway we want to go to church or anywhere else for that matter. I do believe that there is appropriate attire for every occasion. If you are totally dedicated to God, you know, (as you stated), that we should not be a stumbling block for our brothers. Any sort of sexy, seductive, suggestive form of dress is out of order in God's house. I will always believe that. As a woman, you know what reaction you seek when you choose your clothes. I cannot believe that they are totally unaware as to what reaction they will get with these super short skirts and low cut blouses. . . I seriously question their motives. Some of the girls I didn't recognize, but too many of them are members of the church. Those women should know better.

I agree totally with what you have said. What I mean by saying we should be able to dress any way we please is ideally, if everyone is there to worship God (which many are not) their focus should be on Him and not how someone else is dressed. In this case, dress would not matter. Unfortunately, this is not real life yet. There are a whole lot of women out there with games and that is too bad.

 

[Sweet C]

Pebbles, don't beat me up, but...

I can seriously see you hosting the spinoff show "What Not To Wear...For the Christian Woman." UmSumayyah can co-host with the fashion tips.

I agree with you though. No sense in making a hot situation hotter.

You know my old church actually did this. They held a special women's service and let everyone know that they were having a special guest speaker to ensure attendance. Well, attendance was pretty good and after praise and worship, the lady got up to the podium and had a table covered with a cloth. She read one scripture pertaining to women dressing modestly and then after that she got to work. I mean she had bras, underwear, girdles, pantyhose, etc. on the table and went into graphic detail as to how these items are to be worn and what works best for different shapes. She even had models come out to show the do's and don't of how to dress to honor your temple, and everything she pulled out she told you where it was purchased (i.e. Walmart, Target, Value City, etc.). It was quite informative, hilarious, and much needed. After this, we saw far less women dressing provactively.

 

[Kikootie]

"That whole stumbling block piece used to, kinda still does, bother me. Why am I responsible for some mans wandering eyes. Men are going to look regardless. But then I had to admit that even I can't keep my eyes off a woman when she has on a low cut top. It just doesn't seem to be fair."


You are responsible HoneyHips because if you are operating in love as the greatest commandment says we should, then we will not want to cause others to stumble purposely or accidentally. You know what I mean? No one asked them to have wandering eyes but we can help prevent them from being distracted.

 

[dreamgurl]

One thing to keep in mind is that not everyone who attends Church services...whether it be every now and then or every Sunday, are Christians...

Some women are really sincere about their walk but are somewhat naive because of where they may be in their walk with Christ.
Some women may not (at first) have the proper attire to go to Church...but that should not stop them from coming...but as the Word of God continues to be brought forth...something should kick in and let them know what is decent and what is not...

Some women are glued to the part in scripture...where it states...come as you are...which they interpret...come as you please...without a thought of what might be pleasing to God...

Some women are aware of how they're dressing and their intentions are not pure and may have an angle or desire to draw attention to themselves...i.e. trying to catch a man...which then causes some people to focus their attention off of Christ and onto them...

There are going to be demons sitting right amongst us in the Church...the enemy sends them out as a way to start confusion and distraction in the House of the Lord...he loves to do that...he is the author of confusion remember...

A woman of virtue ministry is always helpful for all women...no matter where we may be in our walk...we are all a work in progress...some may need additional guidance...we all have the potential to fall...but as sisters moving toward one goal...keeping Christ number in one in our everyday lives...let us edify one another in love...inside and outside the House of the Lord...

 

[Honeyhips]

I'm having a problem with certain tones directed towards the people who have a problem with the way women dress at church. It has already been stated that some ladies don't know anything differently, you can also be both correcting and edifiying. No one is trying to judge or condemn these ladies. Or that the ladies who dress right have it together.

 

[Kikootie]

Well said Dreamgurl. That was excellent.

 

[bludacious]

Personally, I wouldn't feel comfortable with a short skirt or a halter. I feel it is inappropriate. That is my view.
But, on the other hand, I feel some women don't know any better. I agree with the person in a previous post about the First Lady calling a meeting. Someone needs to tell these women about proper attire.

 

[MomofThreeBoys]

I totally agree.

Pebbles, as a sister in Christ, you should feel free to approach another sister about appropriate dress. Sometimes, people don't know and they need help. Of course, speak to them as the Lord moves you too

One thing to keep in mind is that not everyone who attends Church services...whether it be every now and then or every Sunday, are Christians...

Some women are really sincere about their walk but are somewhat naive because of where they may be in their walk with Christ.
Some women may not (at first) have the proper attire to go to Church...but that should not stop them from coming...but as the Word of God continues to be brought forth...something should kick in and let them know what is decent and what is not...

Some women are glued to the part in scripture...where it states...come as you are...which they interpret...come as you please...without a thought of what might be pleasing to God...

Some women are aware of how they're dressing and their intentions are not pure and may have an angle or desire to draw attention to themselves...i.e. trying to catch a man...which then causes some people to focus their attention off of Christ and onto them...

There are going to be demons sitting right amongst us in the Church...the enemy sends them out as a way to start confusion and distraction in the House of the Lord...he loves to do that...he is the author of confusion remember...

A woman of virtue ministry is always helpful for all women...no matter where we may be in our walk...we are all a work in progress...some may need additional guidance...we all have the potential to fall...but as sisters moving toward one goal...keeping Christ number in one in our everyday lives...let us edify one another in love...inside and outside the House of the Lord...

 

[Poohbear]

I totally agree with you pebbles and with what other ladies have said here... it's just not the appropriate attire to wear at the place where you worship, serve, and praise God with other fellow church members.

 

[phynestone]

I personally don't see how one cannot know what is appropriate for a place of worship and what isn't, but perhaps this is due to the way I was raised. Some churches are really lenient on the way their members can dress and others are much more traditional, which is nothing bad. A friend of mine once told me that if you feel as if you need to cover up if the Lord or your pastor were to see you, then you are not dressed appropriately for wherever you are going. It was thought provoking for me and just came back to my mind with this discussion. Pebbles, maybe you can take some of these ladies aside and offer them old clothes of yours and explain what may be permissble in the House of the Lord and what may not be.

 

[pebbles]

I agree totally with what you have said. What I mean by saying we should be able to dress any way we please is ideally, if everyone is there to worship God (which many are not) their focus should be on Him and not how someone else is dressed. In this case, dress would not matter. Unfortunately, this is not real life yet. There are a whole lot of women out there with games and that is too bad.

Ok, I see what you're saying.

 

[pebbles]

You know my old church actually did this. They held a special women's service and let everyone know that they were having a special guest speaker to ensure attendance. Well, attendance was pretty good and after praise and worship, the lady got up to the podium and had a table covered with a cloth. She read one scripture pertaining to women dressing modestly and then after that she got to work. I mean she had bras, underwear, girdles, pantyhose, etc. on the table and went into graphic detail as to how these items are to be worn and what works best for different shapes. She even had models come out to show the do's and don't of how to dress to honor your temple, and everything she pulled out she told you where it was purchased (i.e. Walmart, Target, Value City, etc.). It was quite informative, hilarious, and much needed. After this, we saw far less women dressing provactively.

I'm going to suggest this to the ladies church groups.

 

[dreamgurl]

offer them old clothes of yours and explain what may be permissble in the House of the Lord and what may not be.

You know this is an excellent idea...at our Church...we have a ministry that allows people who attend the Church to come in on a Saturday out of each month as needed to pick some shoes and clothes out of the bunch who are in need of clothes. The bishop made it clear that the clothes, members of the Church donate to the ministry be what he calls "Jesus Class".