LadyBlu
New Member
OK Ladies, here's the deal. I was introduced to a guy about a year ago, but when I met him, I was at the end of a terrible marriage, and I wasn't even THINKING about getting to know anyone. Notice I said I was introduced to this guy...
Anyway, his actions pretty much let me know that he liked me (daily texts, phone calls from the West Coast, flowers, etc), so I put the brakes on it telling him I wasn't ready for a relationship coming out of a marriage and that I didn't do long distance. He said he understood and we basically just communicated via text every now and then (holidays).
Well, I went to the West Coast with some friends for New Year's and he and some of his friends met up with us. We all hung out and had a great time, but now the daily texts have started again.
This is my issue and the reason for my title. This guy is REALLY nice. He treated me and my friends like royalty the whole time we were out. He's the most considerate, sweetest person I have ever met. To top things off, he's GAINFULLY employed...first class, top shelf all the way. The thing is...he's really overweight.
I know it's what on the inside that counts, but...
I feel terrible even typing this. He's already told me he wants to spend more time with me (alone this time), but I don't want to lead the guy on, and I don't want to keep hanging out with him and spending his money if he thinks things are heading in a different direction.
I want to be honest with him and let him know that there could never be more than friendship between us, but if he asks why I don't want to say "You're Too Fat". I was married to an overweight guy, and I know the downsides of that first hand (let's just say I wasn't in any danger of getting pregnant). Am I just being way too superficial?
Anyway, his actions pretty much let me know that he liked me (daily texts, phone calls from the West Coast, flowers, etc), so I put the brakes on it telling him I wasn't ready for a relationship coming out of a marriage and that I didn't do long distance. He said he understood and we basically just communicated via text every now and then (holidays).
Well, I went to the West Coast with some friends for New Year's and he and some of his friends met up with us. We all hung out and had a great time, but now the daily texts have started again.
This is my issue and the reason for my title. This guy is REALLY nice. He treated me and my friends like royalty the whole time we were out. He's the most considerate, sweetest person I have ever met. To top things off, he's GAINFULLY employed...first class, top shelf all the way. The thing is...he's really overweight.
I know it's what on the inside that counts, but...
I feel terrible even typing this. He's already told me he wants to spend more time with me (alone this time), but I don't want to lead the guy on, and I don't want to keep hanging out with him and spending his money if he thinks things are heading in a different direction.
I want to be honest with him and let him know that there could never be more than friendship between us, but if he asks why I don't want to say "You're Too Fat". I was married to an overweight guy, and I know the downsides of that first hand (let's just say I wasn't in any danger of getting pregnant). Am I just being way too superficial?