crlsweetie912
Well-Known Member
I know most of us have done this at some point....
he's nice to me (but he doesn't have a job)
he compliments me (but minutes later belittles you)
he comes from a good family (but you have been with him for 50-11 years with no marriage talks in the works)
Yall know what I mean? Has it gotten to the point that we will "overlook" some serious red flags just because the pickings are slim? Like I said before at the beginning, I have done it before, lots of times. That's why I don't fault anyone who has set standards of what they want in a mate! Cause men sure do and will STICK TO THEM! They aren't giving us a pass, the first stretch mark, or 10 lbs gained and some of them want to be GHOST!
For example:
I will use my mom....(kind of what led me to think about this kind of stuff)
My mom had my sister and I before she married my dad. I REALLY think that he married my mom because of us. Nevertheless my mom worked hard and stayed at her job for 30+ years....the problem, my dad was a DEADBEAT in every sense of the word! While he was "there" physically, he wasn't involved in our family at all (was even an addict...another story) But after 25+ years of misery, my mom and dad finally got a divorce. My mom was living her life, committed to doing her and really (from the looks of it) enjoing herself.....THEN.....
She meets the UGLIEST man I have ever known in my LIFE! He sweet talked my mom, told her what she wanted to hear (most was lies) and married him within a year....This fool has NO STEADY JOB, is lazy and treats her like a doormat....But she is so proud of her HUSBAND...
I think she was just lonely because, 10 years later, her house is almost in forclosure, he has gone through all of her money, and had hit her...
What are your thoughts? Have you ever overlooked a lot of the bad qualities in a man for the few good ones?
he's nice to me (but he doesn't have a job)
he compliments me (but minutes later belittles you)
he comes from a good family (but you have been with him for 50-11 years with no marriage talks in the works)
Yall know what I mean? Has it gotten to the point that we will "overlook" some serious red flags just because the pickings are slim? Like I said before at the beginning, I have done it before, lots of times. That's why I don't fault anyone who has set standards of what they want in a mate! Cause men sure do and will STICK TO THEM! They aren't giving us a pass, the first stretch mark, or 10 lbs gained and some of them want to be GHOST!
For example:
I will use my mom....(kind of what led me to think about this kind of stuff)
My mom had my sister and I before she married my dad. I REALLY think that he married my mom because of us. Nevertheless my mom worked hard and stayed at her job for 30+ years....the problem, my dad was a DEADBEAT in every sense of the word! While he was "there" physically, he wasn't involved in our family at all (was even an addict...another story) But after 25+ years of misery, my mom and dad finally got a divorce. My mom was living her life, committed to doing her and really (from the looks of it) enjoing herself.....THEN.....
She meets the UGLIEST man I have ever known in my LIFE! He sweet talked my mom, told her what she wanted to hear (most was lies) and married him within a year....This fool has NO STEADY JOB, is lazy and treats her like a doormat....But she is so proud of her HUSBAND...
I think she was just lonely because, 10 years later, her house is almost in forclosure, he has gone through all of her money, and had hit her...
What are your thoughts? Have you ever overlooked a lot of the bad qualities in a man for the few good ones?
After a month of a situation that began as 
(when my "glasses" caused me to ignore OBVIOUS signs), went to 
(when I got the guts to start asking questions), and and finally to :Run: (when I acknowledged the reality of the situation and rolled out), I made a few quick "notes to self":
