Do you monitor the media your child consumes?

[brg240]

I was just wondering. I was rereading an essay and thought 'This is why I completely advocate parents reading the books their kids read. Or not letting their kids watch or listen to certain things.'

I know there was a post about twilight a couple years ago and I know there have been discussions about different types of music. I just found this very interesting essay (about a disturbing trend in ya fiction) and wanted to share.

I just think about who the books are aimed at tweens/teens and I just shake my head. I know what i read gets into my mind at 22, so how impressionable would a 12 year old be?


Here is the essay 'Bad Romance (or, YA & Rape Culture)' (The essay has cussing in it, warning you in advance)


I wonder if this post is better suited for ot section or my journal? Sorry if it is. It's just i was thinking in conjunction with the post by prudent1 on how to treat women. What this book advocates (well describes as this fantastic romance) is not in God's plan at all. I don't like the thought of a girl taking it to heart.

Or do you think it's no big deal? Like you read stuff when young (or consume stuff now) and it doesn't effect you?

If you don't read the article another one sums up some of the stuff in the book

"In a cast full of stalkers, designated love interest Patch is absolutely the worst. His his ideal woman is “vulnerable”. He zeroes in on Nora because he can intimidate her. Patch enjoys threatening her. That’s why he keeps asking her if he scares him - because he gets a thrill out of it. He puts his hands all over her, he invades her personal space, he makes unwanted sexual comments, he leers at her, he follows her around, he isolates her, he scares her. That is not sexual tension but sexual threat - the threat of rape. When Patch corners her alone in a deserted tunnel, Nora explicitly wonders if he's going to rape her...

 

[Shimmie]

I was just wondering. I was rereading an essay and thought. This is why I completely advocate parents reading the books their kids read. Or not letting their kids watch or listen to certain things.

I know there was a post about twilight a couple years ago and I know there have been discussions about different types of music. I just found this very interesting essay (about a disturbing trend in ya fiction) and wanted to share.

I just think about who the books are aimed at tweens/teens and I just shake my head. I know what i read gets into my mind at 22, so how impressionable would a 12 year old be?


Here is the essay 'Bad Romance (or, YA & Rape Culture)' (The essay has cussing in it, warning you in advance)


I wonder if this post is better suited for ot section or my journal? Sorry if it is. It's just i was thinking in conjunction with the post by prudent1 on how to treat women. What this book advocates (well describes as this fantastic romance) is not in God's plan at all. I don't like the thought of a girl taking it to heart.

Or do you think it's no big deal? Like you read stuff when young (or consume stuff now) and it doesn't effect you?

Yes... indeed we do.

Not just with the media and books ... also with the school materials that are being distributed AND the teachers and the school principal are questioned and informed of our personal beliefs and expect them to respect it.

A few years ago, the school was encouraging the students to read the Harry Potter series. We didn't accept this, especially since it had nothing to do with the school curriculum. Harry Potter glorifies witchcraft. We do not.

Public education isn't a license to destroy values.

 

[Prudent1]

brg240,
Yes point blank. Here's my reason why-Prov 4:23-
23 Guard thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life.

Our real lives, selves are within not the things that take place on the outside of us. God is most concerned with our innerman, the soul/ spirit which will not die. A soul is like soil. Whatever is planted and watered there will grow be it good seed or bad seed. The physical gateways that allow things to get into our soul are our eyes and ears. The enemy knows all of that. So, we have to be diligent and on guard ready to fight to protect our inner most being from what we see and what we hear. We must be diligent about the company we keep, the environments we frequent and the like. Then, we need to teach the children how to recognize garbage and how to guard themselves. Throughout history anytime the ruling force could not have their way with the adults who knew better, they bided their time and endoctrinated the children. History repeats itself. If you can get the children, you have got the next generation as a whole (now we know God will not be defeated but much damage will be done). Turn on any popular tween show and you will see a few common things. The parents are often completely unaware of their children's secret lives, the parents are portrayed as tyrants and unattached, the teens speak to/ of parents and other authority figures in very disprespectful ways, the children are always sneaking about leaving home or saving the world (and lie to cover their tracks)etc and all the while the laugh tracks are cued in to make it seem as if the actions are funny. What message does that send kids? Seriously, pick a program on teen nick, disney, or whatever. See if you find any programs where parents are lovingly guiding their respectful children in the right way.

 

[Shimmie]

brg240,
Yes point blank. Here's my reason why-Prov 4:23-
23 Guard thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life.

Our real lives, selves are within not the things that take place on the outside of us. God is most concerned with our innerman, the soul/ spirit which will not die. A soul is like soil. Whatever is planted and watered there will grow be it good seed or bad seed.

The physical gateways that allow things to get into our soul are our eyes and ears. The enemy knows all of that. So, we have to be diligent and on guard ready to fight to protect our inner most being from what we see and what we hear. We must be diligent about the company we keep, the environments we frequent and the like.

Then, we need to teach the children how to recognize garbage and how to guard themselves.

Throughout history anytime the ruling force could not have their way with the adults who knew better, they bided their time and endoctrinated the children. History repeats itself. If you can get the children, you have got the next generation as a whole (now we know God will not be defeated but much damage will be done).

Turn on any popular tween show and you will see a few common things. The parents are often completely unaware of their children's secret lives, the parents are portrayed as tyrants and unattached, the teens speak to/ of parents and other authority figures in very disprespectful ways, the children are always sneaking about leaving home or saving the world (and lie to cover their tracks)etc and all the while the laugh tracks are cued in to make it seem as if the actions are funny.

What message does that send kids?

Seriously, pick a program on teen nick, disney, or whatever. See if you find any programs where parents are lovingly guiding their respectful children in the right way.

Prudent1

Hannah Montana took off like a cannon.

There isn't enough thanks for you making this post. All of what you've shared is pure wisdom and God's truth.

We MUST guard the hearts and souls of our children. It's the younger generation that the enemy has always targeted and now more than ever with so much poison in what they are feeding into the hearts and minds of the children of this generation.

What Joshua said is more imperative than ever.

....As for me and my 'House', we WILL serve the Lord...

 

[paradise79]

Yes, of course!! For me it's a must; that's our duty as parents. the society is really messing up and there is no more limit, whether it concerns kids, teens, parents, teachers, etc. They need to get examples from home first and the way children are adressed and targeted in this society makes me really wondering most of the time. Childhood is a sensible period, where choices, character and personnality are build and I really don't see the importance of letting them being in contact with all this garbage.

DD is 6 and about 6 months ago, she started all this "annah motana"'s thing. I had no clue what the program was like and I watched it. I don't think is appropriate for her so I explained it to her. Same with Harry Potter,Rihanna, beyoncé, lady gaga and Co....And an important point I think is to simply explain the reasons and they will get it. Thanks God, she understood and it's just like she lost interest in all those.

Can we just let children be real,pure, innocent children in everything????Prudent1, very well said and thanks for that.