Glib Gurl
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I'm realizing that one thing that hinders me in my dating life is that I really don't have any male friends. I mean, other than my dad and my brother, there aren't any guys that I communicate with on a regular basis. And since my dad and brother are mostly inclined to "tell it like it is," I don't necessarily have the greatest opinion of men . . . it's interesting because on another messageboard I visit, whenever I complain about men, they jump down IN my throat and are quick to defend men in general. Here's a sample . . .
And the comment that sparked my thread here:
So yeah. Maybe the solution is to surround myself by non-jerky guys that I'm not trying to date to cultivate friendships. Hmmmm . . . .
See, not ALL men are like that, and you can't assume that they all are or you will come across as defensive and harsh, and the nice ones will run the other way. My husband is not like that. Most of the guys I've dated have not been like that. I bet, in the dozens and dozens of guys I've been out with, looking back I can think of maybe 3 who used tactics like that. And at the time I didn't think they were calculated tactics; maybe they weren't. I just thought they were jerks and ended things accordingly.
And the comment that sparked my thread here:
I understand being jaded after bad experiences, but "men suck" is just plain old bigotry. My husband, brother-in-law, bandmates, co-workers, musical colleages and friends certainly do not suck.
So yeah. Maybe the solution is to surround myself by non-jerky guys that I'm not trying to date to cultivate friendships. Hmmmm . . . .