Do you earn more than your husband?

[sithembile]

If you are a Christian, I'm interested in how you and your husband have dealt with this. I think it can be difficult for some Christian men, because they see themselves as providers and they may feel their role as the leader may be diminished in this circumstance.

 

[GodsPromises]

Yes I do and always have. When we first got married he was on disablity. Now he is still on disablity but also he is in school full time and he works part-time I am still the main bread winner especially with 12 daily pro helping out. I pay more then my share of the bill.

However, let me say that my dh is still the head of my household and because I respect him as head of the house and don't always bring up that I make the money so I make the decison it works out just fine. He still make the final decison on many things I have my say but he has the final word on important things. Like right now I am saying let's try to purchase a townhouse and he is saying no lets get a detached house, I will follow his lead because who knows he may be hearing something from the Father that I don't know about.

 

[sithembile]

Thanks for sharing LadyR. I'm happy that its worked for you. I earn more than my boyfriend, and since we are discussing marriage, I was concerned that it might be an issue. He has just started a new career and is finishing his degree part time, whereas I'm more established in my career. He has great earning prospects in his career so I'm not worried, but I don't want to be in a situation where my husband resents my money or my career. I believe in submission and I'd never flaunt it in his face, I just want to know how to handle it properly.

 

[GodsPromises]

Well in my case we are very unconventional. We don't have a joint bank account and most bill are 50-50, except for 2 which either I pay in full or more than half and after I give him the money for the bill my money is my money and his money is his money. We discuss who will buy food and alot of time I buy because I know what I want.

I say all of that to say the best thing you can do is sit down and talk it out and see what will work for your.

God Bless