Do you care about what he does?

aribell

aribell

formerly nicola.kirwan
Profession-wise. Does it make a difference to you what field a potential (or actual) SO/DH works in? Or is only how well he can provide the important thing?

I don't necessarily care how much he makes, but I feel l have to find his work interesting. If he's telling me about his job, even if it's a good one, and I'm like :yawn:, it's kind of a no-go for me.
 
No. As long as its legal.

In this economy, a steady paycheck....

The question wasn't about amount so I'll end it there.
 
Doesn't matter to me. As long as he can provide.

My SO works in the chemistry arena. I don't understand a lick of what he says to me, neither do I find it riveting.

But who am I to argue if he loves it.
 
I don't, but I'm noticing that everyone around you does. The first question anyone asks is "what does your SO/husband do?" It's like why do people care?
 
Matter not to me if it's a legal job. Alot of really great paying/steady jobs are ho-hum.
 
I prefer someone who showers before they go to work, rather than someone who has a job that gets them so dirty that they need to shower when they get home.
 
Nope. As long as he isn't impregnating lesbians like in "She hate me", IDC. I only care about how much he makes :look:
 
Are we talking what he does or earning potential in what he does? :look:

If its what he does...:nono:
If its how much I can expect him to make...:yep:

Why?
I dont want no ego trips because I make more than him.
 
It doesn't matter much to me, as long as he's gainfully employed.

My DH and myself are both in telecom, but we are on different spectrums of the business. I understand what he's talking about but when I start he has no idea what I'm talking about.....
 
I care that he cares about what he does. IMO, there is nothing worse than a man who hates his job and me having to psych him up just to go :nono:
 
daydreem2876 said:
I care that he cares about what he does. IMO, there is nothing worse than a man who hates his job and me having to psych him up just to go :nono:
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Yeah, that's a no-go for me as well, especially since most people have many options if they apply themselves to find something that they actually like to do.

I guess I wouldn't necessarily care what he did if he was genuinely passionate about it. Or, if he was passionate about other pursuits even if his job was boring.

JustKiya said:
Nope, don't care as long as it's legal.
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All the "as long as it's legal" comments remind me of this guy once who was just very vague about his employment. I met him at Panera Bread, not exactly a place where "scrubs" hang out, lol, so he seemed fairly legit. But still, all he would say was that he was "in promotion" or "entertainment," mentioned parties and something or other. He talked about working all the time and wanting to save and build up a business but never said anything specific, even when I kinda pressed further. I concluded that he was either unemployed or into something illegal/shady (like owning a strip club, for instance).
 
I would like for my hubby to have an interesting job. Something he could talk to me about and I would find interesting. My ex was in business and omg I found that stuff sooooo boring. I would like to date someone in the engineering field. :yep:
 
I have a logical, standardized job that is boring to talk about. So I don't expect to have to love his career. If it is stable and he can support a family on it as well as save, I would be happy.
 
imready4change said:
I don't, but I'm noticing that everyone around you does. The first question anyone asks is "what does your SO/husband do?" It's like why do people care?
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:lol: My mother just asked me this last night!! I was like, "Why do you want to know???" I think she was asking to see if she could get an idea for how much he makes... :rolleyes:

I don't care what my potential/future SO/DH does for a living, as long as it isn't anything that could have him in jail, or compromises his morals/religious values. As long as he can provide, I'm good. :yep:
 
Yes. I wouldn't date a porn star, stripper or anyone in the sex industry. I wouldn't want to date a cop, prison guard (basically anyone with a dangerous job).
 
JustKiya said:
Nope, don't care as long as it's legal.
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And actually, that ain't even true. :lachen:

I won't date/marry a:

porn star
military man
fireman
cop
CIA agent
(seeing a theme, here?)

Ummmm.... that's all that I can think of off of the top of my head. :lachen:
 
JustKiya said:
And actually, that ain't even true. :lachen:

I won't date/marry a:

porn star
military man
fireman
cop
CIA agent
(seeing a theme, here?)

Ummmm.... that's all that I can think of off of the top of my head. :lachen:
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can i add to this list...

politician
bartendar
minister (no disrespect, I love Jesus but yeah...no)
musician
 
JustKiya said:
And actually, that ain't even true. :lachen:

I won't date/marry a:

porn star
military man
fireman
cop
CIA agent
(seeing a theme, here?)

Ummmm.... that's all that I can think of off of the top of my head. :lachen:
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I would date a FIREMAN!

They have to stay in shape (to be able to lift fat people from a buring building) and they are not home (need to work on sharing my space) all the time!
 
Yes, I do care, but what's more important to me is his education. Education level is a barrier to many fields (i.e. you can't really be a doctor without an M.D.) so you won't find men who aren't college educated in them. On the flipside if an educated man chooses a more "blue collar" profession I'd be more open depending on where he was going with it. How much he makes doesn't really matter to me as long as he's responsible with his funding and can provide for a family.
 
The current guy Im talking to has a job thats kinda exciting but I know he doesnt make that much money. But its legal, he enjoys it waaayy more than I enjoy my job, and he's not a bum. I have to admit I jazz it up when someone ask :look:
 
Yes, I care...

Your type of job can tell a lot about your personality because you are passionate about it. Or it can tell a lot about you because you choose to settle for a job you are not passionate about/ are not passionate about any job.
 
Yes- I care. Too many exceptions -dangerous jobs, jobs I have no respect for- to not care. I also want him to be educated no matter what he chooses to do. How much he makes shouldn't matter as long as he is the provider but it might matter to him if I make more- but that's another story.

So yes- I don't have an exact list but it definitely matters when it affects my life-like will we be stable or constantly moving around the world- that's impt to me.
 
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