racheljay1985
New Member
I think a man who has feelings for you can fall deeper in love based on a number of things including the sex. For example: I started dating this guy over a year ago and things were great. We knew what we wanted from the beginning (a healthy relationship and eventually marriage, well he did- I wanted to wait on the marriage as I was afraid at the time) well, we wanted to get to know one another better so about 5 months in we hadn't started having sex yet. We had discussed it but wanted to wait and that wait time was getting closer to ending.
Flash forward a bit, I got this random moment of truth after talking to some radical and I told him that we should wait until after we got married. At first he didn't necessarily like it, and neither did I but my guilty conscience was tugging on me. He explained that he felt having sex would bring us even closer, that we wouldn't know if we had "bedroom" chemistry, etc. I know that yes, men and women can separate love from sex, but we also need to understand that men are more visual and sex is their way of sharing emotion. (women too) Yes, a man can show you he loves you in many ways, but sex is a biggie for them when their intentions are in tact. I told him how I felt and that he eventually said that he would wait.
Of course, that didn't last. On the 5th month we banged it out and it wasn't the best, but it was good. I was taught that when you are with someone, you have all your life to learn about each other's bodies, and how to please them so it didn't bother me that the first time wasn't earth shattering. So far it's gotten a lot better. Now, to end my story, that same man asked me to be his wife and we are now married. The sex seems to get better every time, so, I think yes, men can fall deeper in love with you once sex is involved. Think about it, if you're hot stuff, and he already likes/loves you, and then you break it down in the bedroom...girrrrrlllllll you hooked em! Sex is part of a woman's allure, we are already beautiful creatures. Once you have his heart, you also have his d*ck too hehe.
Flash forward a bit, I got this random moment of truth after talking to some radical and I told him that we should wait until after we got married. At first he didn't necessarily like it, and neither did I but my guilty conscience was tugging on me. He explained that he felt having sex would bring us even closer, that we wouldn't know if we had "bedroom" chemistry, etc. I know that yes, men and women can separate love from sex, but we also need to understand that men are more visual and sex is their way of sharing emotion. (women too) Yes, a man can show you he loves you in many ways, but sex is a biggie for them when their intentions are in tact. I told him how I felt and that he eventually said that he would wait.
Of course, that didn't last. On the 5th month we banged it out and it wasn't the best, but it was good. I was taught that when you are with someone, you have all your life to learn about each other's bodies, and how to please them so it didn't bother me that the first time wasn't earth shattering. So far it's gotten a lot better. Now, to end my story, that same man asked me to be his wife and we are now married. The sex seems to get better every time, so, I think yes, men can fall deeper in love with you once sex is involved. Think about it, if you're hot stuff, and he already likes/loves you, and then you break it down in the bedroom...girrrrrlllllll you hooked em! Sex is part of a woman's allure, we are already beautiful creatures. Once you have his heart, you also have his d*ck too hehe.
but I've heard the same thing also.... 
