Ya'll know what she wanted to do after the wash and set... and I promised I'd let her after my next relaxer. I never went back and vowed to see if I could "fix" it first and you know what? After a few months of DCing, moisturizing and sealing, protective hairstyles and one dusting my hair my hair looks great. No frizzies and my hair is blunt shaped. I don't have the beauty of a hard chop, but I plan on dusting until I surpass my goal then hard chopping to reach it, with bumped ends.
I'm not saying keep the zig-zag ends but I am now a firm believer that sometimes chopping is the impatient thing to do. I also learned to re-think what I consider to be true damage. That would've been a major setback if I had let her do what she wanted.
I think that one sentence is the caveat in all this.
some degrees of "damage" are just setbacks and challenges that you can dilligently bounce back from.
and other types of damage require a good ole chop and restart
to think that someone nursing their hair back to health is futile without knowing the extent of their damage is just as unrealistic to me as those who think they can fix charred hair that has split ends from root to tip
both are extremes that dont take into account that in all things there are varying degrees of impact.
I have hair that my stylist (who is AMAZING) was convinced was going to have to be trimmed every 6 weeks until it was all cut off.
i stepped back, took a look at my hair and instinctively felt that i wasnt at the point beyond repair. and trust me im a
very self aware person so i know what its like to have damage so bad that you have to shave your head (been there...done that)
so i listened to my stylist...and then took my butt home and started putting time into my hair...and you know what.....my hair is thriving so much now that everyday i find myself in awe of how much progress ive made
in fact the last time i went to the salon....she said "are you ready for your trim?" and when she combed my hair and saw how healthy and unfrazzled my ends were - i peeped the look of slight shock on her face
i said "no i dont want one yet"
and she was like "yeah....u could last another 2 weeks with no prob"
that was 2 months ago. i havent been back because i am still nursing my hair back to health and its still working wonderfully to the point where i cant even tell my new growth from my texturized hair anymore (but thats another story).
the next time my stylist sees me .....my hair will be healthy
and 3-4 inches longer than when she last saw it. i can just imagine what her reaction will be lol
so ...im summation....EVERYONE is right.
some setbacks can be repaired....and some cant
there is no blanket answer.
if there was...boards like LHCF wouldn't be quite as dynamic ....and addictive