Discouraged 4a/4bs... this thread's for you!!!

Diva girl you are truly an inspiration even though I just joined the forum this month I was already about to give up after seeing everyone elses pics of their beautiful long hair. But now that Ive actually seen your before and after pics I know that I can do it. Thanks for that incredible thread it was a great pick me up!
 
You don't know how it warms my heart so to know that this thread is still going... still providing motivation to others who may have otherwise given up. I know people have written me inquiring about whether or not I'm still sporting braids. Currently my hair is in cornrows and as not been relaxed since February. My regimen can be found in my journal. I may have to tweak it a little though... I'm running out now, but will try to pop in a little later! Have a blessed day, Ladies!!! Happy growing!!!!!
 
Thanks for the inspiration and that little boy in your signature is adorable. Can you have him post his regimen? :lol: Just kidding but he really is a cuttie.
 
Aquamarie said:
Thanks for the inspiration and that little boy in your signature is adorable. Can you have him post his regimen? :lol: Just kidding but he really is a cuttie.
I knooow, he's so cute! Look at his little tummy (awwww) and I'm lovin the hair!
 
Off Topic: I miss you gurl. How are the kids? Can a sista get some updated pics of the lil man stud muffin that had the tourist chickenhawkin in JA? :lachen: How you be?:lachen:
 
I have only been getting about 1/8 " !!!!A MONTH FOR YEARS!!! So obviously my scalp was not getting the message of what the average was. Now it is growing faster in some areas but not the same all over. That is discouraging to me but now that I actually can see that there is some growth and I am retaining what I am getting, I am so relieved. I am not a 4b but hey, I have needs too! Like my hair "NEEDS" TO GROW FASTER... so do not give up ladies. I think in some areas, I am getting an inch a month but more like an average overall of 1.2" and that is with the MTG etc. I am hoping for better months ahead though. Please do not assume that some of us who are not 4b's got length without much struggle frustration and praying...but it will COME LADIES!!! It took me from 1999-2006 to achieve my growth. That is 7 years!!!! Lord alone knows how long it will take me to get to waistlength!!!!I pray not another 7 years!!! bonjour
 
Re: Discouraged 4a/4bs... this thread\'s for you!!!

AJamericanDiva said:
It seems like every other day a type 4a/4b is posting about how discouraged they are and want to know whether or not they can reach their goals. Seeing is believing.
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Take it from me. I am a fellow 4a/4b. As some of you may know, I've been experiencing some major postpartum shedding (tons of tears shed over that) and decided to do a braid-a-thon for one year with no relaxing in between. I started taking out my braids this week, even at week 5 as I had a lot of growth. Tonight as I took down my braids, I stretched my hair and low and behold... I'm inching closer to my goal of brastrap hair. At 5am, everyone is sleeping in my house, but when my daughter awakes, I'll have her take a backshot pic. The pic that I was able to take was a frontal shot. Later on today, I'll get rid of this grammamma maternity nursing bra and put on my red one that you usually see in my backshot photos. My goal is brastrap length. I even joined in the "Brastrap by 2005" challenge. At the rate I'm going, I may get there sooner. Here's my photo of when I started my haircare journey back in March of 2003 My starting point in March 2003 and this is a photo I took as I was taking down my braids. Me tonight, or should I say morning as I was removing my braids. Right now I am 4 months post relaxer. I don't intend to do another relaxer until next year this time and I am done with my braid-a-thon. I'm quite sure I should be well past brastrap by then, even with a good trim. Girls, be encouraged! I did not have long hair as a baby, nor even as a kid growing up. I was the "dry head pickney"! Look in my album. All the proof is there... baby pics and all. We can do it. Although it won't happen overnight, which is why I think a lot are feeling discouraged, with proper care and all the knowledge you're learning here at LHCF, I think you will succeed. At the very least, I think we are all capable of reaching brastrap length. God said something about a woman's hair being her crown or something to that effect... I pray and call God out on it, asking Him that my crown be a joy to me. I know some are thinking,
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she done lost it now, but I don't think there is anything too small to ask God for. I give Him the glory for allowing me to experience the length that I have and even further discovering these hair boards where I've learned so much and have gotten nothing but love and support!
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Happy growing as I know I'm rambling on now. Better go to bed now!!!

P.S. Will try and take a backshot of my hair stretched in the back and see how far I am from my goal... can't be too far!

Thank you so much for this post. I haven't had a chance to look at anyone's albums this week because I'm firewalled from doing that at work. Tonight I will finally be home and I will take a look. I'm going to save this thread so that I don't forget. Way to go girl.
 
Mahalialee4 said:
I have only been getting about 1/8 " !!!!A MONTH FOR YEARS!!! So obviously my scalp was not getting the message of what the average was. Now it is growing faster in some areas but not the same all over. That is discouraging to me but now that I actually can see that there is some growth and I am retaining what I am getting, I am so relieved. I am not a 4b but hey, I have needs too! Like my hair "NEEDS" TO GROW FASTER... so do not give up ladies. I think in some areas, I am getting an inch a month but more like an average overall of 1.2" and that is with the MTG etc. I am hoping for better months ahead though. Please do not assume that some of us who are not 4b's got length without much struggle frustration and praying...but it will COME LADIES!!! It took me from 1999-2006 to achieve my growth. That is 7 years!!!! Lord alone knows how long it will take me to get to waistlength!!!!I pray not another 7 years!!! bonjour

Chile, you sound just like me!!!
 
After sitting here for the last 1/2 hour reading this when i need to be getting ready for my cousin's wedding i had to post a comment.

You ladies are really a true inspiration. I do get discourage at times but reading this threard you really give me hope.

I was just looking at your daughter's hair and it's just simply gorgeous!!

I am new to this and patience is key for me...hopefully this time next year and can be here giving tips too.

Thanks so much!!!
 
Re: Discouraged 4a/4bs... this thread\'s for you!!!

AJamericanDiva said:
It seems like every other day a type 4a/4b is posting about how discouraged they are and want to know whether or not they can reach their goals. Seeing is believing.
shocked.gif
Take it from me. I am a fellow 4a/4b. As some of you may know, I've been experiencing some major postpartum shedding (tons of tears shed over that) and decided to do a braid-a-thon for one year with no relaxing in between. I started taking out my braids this week, even at week 5 as I had a lot of growth. Tonight as I took down my braids, I stretched my hair and low and behold... I'm inching closer to my goal of brastrap hair. At 5am, everyone is sleeping in my house, but when my daughter awakes, I'll have her take a backshot pic. The pic that I was able to take was a frontal shot. Later on today, I'll get rid of this grammamma maternity nursing bra and put on my red one that you usually see in my backshot photos. My goal is brastrap length. I even joined in the "Brastrap by 2005" challenge. At the rate I'm going, I may get there sooner. Here's my photo of when I started my haircare journey back in March of 2003 My starting point in March 2003 and this is a photo I took as I was taking down my braids. Me tonight, or should I say morning as I was removing my braids. Right now I am 4 months post relaxer. I don't intend to do another relaxer until next year this time and I am done with my braid-a-thon. I'm quite sure I should be well past brastrap by then, even with a good trim. Girls, be encouraged! I did not have long hair as a baby, nor even as a kid growing up. I was the "dry head pickney"! Look in my album. All the proof is there... baby pics and all. We can do it. Although it won't happen overnight, which is why I think a lot are feeling discouraged, with proper care and all the knowledge you're learning here at LHCF, I think you will succeed. At the very least, I think we are all capable of reaching brastrap length. God said something about a woman's hair being her crown or something to that effect... I pray and call God out on it, asking Him that my crown be a joy to me. I know some are thinking,
nuts.gif
she done lost it now, but I don't think there is anything too small to ask God for. I give Him the glory for allowing me to experience the length that I have and even further discovering these hair boards where I've learned so much and have gotten nothing but love and support!
kiss.gif
Happy growing as I know I'm rambling on now. Better go to bed now!!!

P.S. Will try and take a backshot of my hair stretched in the back and see how far I am from my goal... can't be too far!

I wish I was interested in having long hair and knew about this board in 2004. Today I would have BSL. Anyway, I was loving my jazzy short do at the time. I love what you said above about God's word. You are absolutely correct. God cannot lie and he cannot break His word. If you read his word and you pray on it and remind him of it, He will answer. GO GIRL! Thanks for bumping this to 2006 because shedding has been a dream killer for a lot of us lately.
 
This thread reaaaaaaaaaallly needs to be a STICKY, so folks don't have to go digging when they need some encouragement.

It is STICKY worthy...I'm sure I'm not alone in that sentiment...
 
I definitely vote sticky...but you can also subscribe to this thread and then it's easy to find. But, I definitely hope it becomes sticky!
 
Love, love, love this thread!! U are such an inspiration diva!!! Keep us posted on your progress!!! Whenever I get discouraged I look at this thread!!
 
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