Dating While Saved

NapturalGlory said:
Hello ladies,

I've been registered on dating sites for over a year off and on just to test the waters and see what's out there waiting to bite me... and I've been (cyber) bitten believe me!!! I just don't UNDERSTAND it... Why do these men come at me with SEX talk when I explicitly state that I am SAVED AND ABSTINENT and not tryin to hear that... I mean are men hard-headed or what? LOL... hard headed below the belt I guess...

This is what some guy just emailed me. We've chatted a little in the past but then he didn't call or email and now he pops back with:

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"Let me make love to your mind, and not your body today?
I would like to release that orgasm deep within your body that is sitting at the bottom where your muscles are erect with passion, and lust from you spiritual inner being.

Hmm, you are waiting to be touched, you are longing to be loved, and pleasured with every inch of my seductive ways. Catch with your memory my eye contact, my voice, my touch that is way beyond what lies within your soul."

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I'm really disappointed. I wanted to have a real conversation with a man and instead I'm talking with lil Romeo Jr. This guy is over 30 and a model. Who knows how many women he's been with between the last time we talked (over 2 months ago) and today when he pops back in with this corny mess!

I guess I just need to pray that much harder... At this rate I don't think I'll EVER get married... I'll be abstinent til the 10th of FOREVER!
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I understand where you are and I know what it is like. I too am young, attractive, and have been abstaining for some years. I really don't even date that much because very few guys can be friends let alone be in a relationship with a woman without sex. I had one guy approach me and I let him know upfront all I wanted was a friendship and he persisted to try to be more so I cut him off. I just await a certain quality type of man. Very few men possess good character and values.

I hope that you cut this guy off because he really sounds toxic.....:barf:
 
This is so sad but true. I don't even really entertain dudes anymore because I don't like having to defend my own honor against their horny butts!! Like czyfaith, I've decided to wait rather than search. I think God has other things for me right now, and when I least expect it, the one for me will show up...patience is truly a virtue. And you know what they say about a virtuous woman (smile)
 
Divine Inspiration said:
This is so sad but true. I don't even really entertain dudes anymore because I don't like having to defend my own honor against their horny butts!! Like czyfaith, I've decided to wait rather than search. I think God has other things for me right now, and when I least expect it, the one for me will show up...patience is truly a virtue. And you know what they say about a virtuous woman (smile)
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that exactly what im doing right now. if God wants me to be with someone I believe he will bring him to me when the time is right.
 
locabouthair said:
that exactly what im doing right now. if God wants me to be with someone I believe he will bring him to me when the time is right.
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You and Divine Inspiration are doing the right thing. I hope the OP finds inspiration through her faith and through those who share it.

Because this forum is sacred, I won't say what those "men" are. Very sad...
 
NapturalGlory, I agree with what Blossom said - the guy doesn't sound saved. Have you tried Christian dating sites? I'd recommend www.fusion101.com. Long (very good) story behind that recommendation.

Blessings
 
latia said:
He definitely isn't saved. Just relax and do you. Someone awesome will come along.
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Okay! No DOUBT!

Don't give him a second thought.

God will send you someone. I agree with the poster who recommended Christian dating sites.

And also actively attend and participate in functions geared towards Christians.
 
Blossssom said:
Okay! No DOUBT!
And also actively attend and participate in functions geared towards Christians.
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Blossssom you are so on point with the above. I am changing my circle of friends and activities in hopes of surrounding myself with others that have conviction. Since my return to Cali I have been surrounded with dysfunction and folxs that appreciate God only.:(
 
latia said:
Blossssom you are so on point with the above. I am changing my circle of friends and activities in hopes of surrounding myself with others that have conviction. Since my return to Cali I have been surrounded with dysfunction and folxs that appreciate God only.:(
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Appreciate God only? Are you having a hard time finding Christian friends?

It does seem over the last several years harder to surround yourself with people who aren't just about talking God's word but also living it.
 
Yeah it seems "God knows my heart" is the sentiment. My favorite cousins are not Christians. We grew up really closeknit and in the church. I am the club secretary. We started this group to help the community and positive family stuff. Every weekend is a party though. They don't understand the effects of overindulgence. I am tired of partying. I already started making changes a month ago. I have lots of active Christian friends at work. I will start doing more things with them again. I love my cousins but it's time for a change.
 
NapturalGlory said:
Hello ladies,

I've been registered on dating sites for over a year off and on just to test the waters and see what's out there waiting to bite me... and I've been (cyber) bitten believe me!!! I just don't UNDERSTAND it... Why do these men come at me with SEX talk when I explicitly state that I am SAVED AND ABSTINENT and not tryin to hear that... I mean are men hard-headed or what? LOL... hard headed below the belt I guess...

This is what some guy just emailed me. We've chatted a little in the past but then he didn't call or email and now he pops back with:

-----------------------------

"Let me make love to your mind, and not your body today?

I would like to release that orgasm deep within your body that is sitting at the bottom where your muscles are erect with passion, and lust from you spiritual inner being.

Hmm, you are waiting to be touched, you are longing to be loved, and pleasured with every inch of my seductive ways. Catch with your memory my eye contact, my voice, my touch that is way beyond what lies within your soul."

-------------------------------

I'm really disappointed. I wanted to have a real conversation with a man and instead I'm talking with lil Romeo Jr. This guy is over 30 and a model. Who knows how many women he's been with between the last time we talked (over 2 months ago) and today when he pops back in with this corny mess!

I guess I just need to pray that much harder... At this rate I don't think I'll EVER get married... I'll be abstinent til the 10th of FOREVER!
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He sounds like someone lurking on the the date boards to prey on nice women.
I think your quote says it best and totally describes this fool
Matthew 7:6
Do not give what is holy to the dogs; nor cast your pearls before swine, lest they trample them under their feet, and turn and tear you in pieces.
 
I just wonder with even the Christian dating site, can't these men misrepresent themselves there as well? I know that the person who recommended the fusion site said the story was long, but could you share the highlights?
 
I think you are looking in the wrong place, its like going to a club expecting to find a God fearing man. I wouldn't recommend looking for a man, but if you do, try Christian websites.
 
classimami713 said:
I just wonder with even the Christian dating site, can't these men misrepresent themselves there as well? I know that the person who recommended the fusion site said the story was long, but could you share the highlights?
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That's just it, though. The OP knows that the man in question is not a Christian. So, if she joins a Christian website, she being a true Christian will be able to ascertain if the men at the website are truly Christians as well.

Outside of nightclubs and other "dens of the devil", it doesn't really matter where you meet people. Christians know their own.
 
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I'm glad you had a good time. I went to a movie last night with a guy from my church, it was more of friends going out together rather than a date, but at least it was something, I haven't dated for over 18 months (since being born again). I don't know if it will go anywhere, I'm not sure how I feel about him.
 
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