sweetvi
Well-Known Member
Dating while living with parents or in their home..what are your exp.,advice,etc?
I know times has changed with the recession and even with college educated folks who can't find employment for long periods of time. As a result, many people are forced to return home, especially in their 30's to 40's. In my culture, it is normal to have the women and sometimes men to stay in the home until marriage .
I am against this for several reasons: some parents can become involved and wont respect.your boundaries.
True story: a friend went out with her boyfriend and decided to return home at a reasonable time (midnight) out of respect for her parents. Her mother chased her with a stick, hit her and said she was embarrassing her reputation. ohwell:She was so hurt and shocked and everyone (fam) encouraged her to move out. She was 25 ,educated with a successful career at the time. She is now in her early 30's, still at home and depressed that she is not yet mArried.
There is no reason for her to not be able to move out except culturally she has been conditioned to remain at home until marriage. Smh. (They are Haitian). She says she will feel guilty if she leaves. Her parents are perfectly healthy.
What are your thoughts on that? Can you have a successful relationship while living with parents? Will the guy take advantage of the situation or run away? I personally believe if you are dating someone, you need to see him in all settings and situations. Living with parents makes it difficult..
I know times has changed with the recession and even with college educated folks who can't find employment for long periods of time. As a result, many people are forced to return home, especially in their 30's to 40's. In my culture, it is normal to have the women and sometimes men to stay in the home until marriage .
I am against this for several reasons: some parents can become involved and wont respect.your boundaries.
True story: a friend went out with her boyfriend and decided to return home at a reasonable time (midnight) out of respect for her parents. Her mother chased her with a stick, hit her and said she was embarrassing her reputation. ohwell:She was so hurt and shocked and everyone (fam) encouraged her to move out. She was 25 ,educated with a successful career at the time. She is now in her early 30's, still at home and depressed that she is not yet mArried.
There is no reason for her to not be able to move out except culturally she has been conditioned to remain at home until marriage. Smh. (They are Haitian). She says she will feel guilty if she leaves. Her parents are perfectly healthy.
What are your thoughts on that? Can you have a successful relationship while living with parents? Will the guy take advantage of the situation or run away? I personally believe if you are dating someone, you need to see him in all settings and situations. Living with parents makes it difficult..
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