Thanks ladies. I've read your responses. I will probably give this guy one date.
He has turned me off a little (actually a lot)! He's 14 years my senior (which isn't ideal, but I know these things can work). I'm still in my early/mid 20's, so I'm dating more than one person at a time, and I'm not in a serious relationship right now.
He has convinced himself after one conversation that I'm the "one," which is slightly frightening, and it seems like he wants me to confirm that I think he's the "one" but we haven't even gone on a date yet. He keeps telling me how special I am, and all I can think is "dude, I don't even know you yet." And we haven't even gone on one date. I'm not the type of female that wears my heart on my sleeve with most guys early on, so it's especially awkward for me to have a guy that does that. I, like many females, am attracted to Alpha males, but I'm also attracted to a variety of guys. I've dated good and bad alpha males, so I take them, like the "sensitive guy" on an individual basis.
Truthfully I was not physically attracted to him in any way, but I genuinely thought he was a nice guy, so I gave him my phone number. The last time we spoke,
he said "I saw you checking me out behind your sunglasses." But I was not checking him out at all (although I didn't have the heart to say this). Career wise, he's not college educated, and this doesn't bother me, but since I'm running his stats, I'll go there. He is also White (again, this is not a huge issue, b/c if I was attracted to him, it would be all good, but it makes it a little harder, since I'm not). I don't want to lead this man on, but I feel that one date probably won't hurt. It will give me a chance to get to know him, and I'm trying to keep an open mind! I'm not sure if I like him yet, and I feel like he's planning a future, which shows interest, but I can't make promises to him (or any guy I'm dating right now).
Also, he made a comment to me that "you aren't like the other Black women I've dated." I don't know what he means by this, so I will let my resident LHCF ladies give advice!
I'm wondering if I shouldn't have given him my phone number
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. Also, if I don't answer my phone, he seems to get really paranoid. I'm worried that he's one of those insecure types, and I just can't deal with that right now! During our second conversation last night, he told me he's told all his friends about me and his family. I'm not upset about this, but I feel like this guy is looking for a serious relationship, and if we are compatible, that's one thing. But sometimes, there are people that I think are in love with the idea of being in love more than being with a person! And I wonder if that's him!