As a couple married or not, living together...Do you think there should be a discussion in the beginning about hanging out and a reasonable time to come in. I was listening to some male co-workers talking to this female. She was discussing her husband got off work went out to hang with friends for a birthday celebration. They hung out at a club that ended at 3a.m. and grabbed something to eat afterwards. When he made it home it was after 6a.m. The only way she knew he was still out was when she woke up to use the restroom, the clock read 6a.m.
She thought first that something was wrong so she called his phone and he was on the way home. When he made it in it was 6 something. She was bothered because she doesn't make a big deal about him going out but this was too late for her taste. She said he has hung out before and has come in about 3 or 4.She sometimes hears him come with the keys at the front door. He doesn't call because he says, he doesn't want to wake her. The guys went in on her about being controlling and just because he is married doesn't mean he is in prison. The issue is that whenever he goes out he just doesn't act considerate and make it back at decent hours. I suggested having a talk and setting up mutual boundaries. She says when she talks to him, he apologizes but the next time he goes out the hours are late returning. It's one thing to come in late once in a while but, when it is a continuous thing, it borders on creating issues. Of course the guys told her not to listen to me. because they don't see 3am as late! LOL!
What do you guys think?
She thought first that something was wrong so she called his phone and he was on the way home. When he made it in it was 6 something. She was bothered because she doesn't make a big deal about him going out but this was too late for her taste. She said he has hung out before and has come in about 3 or 4.She sometimes hears him come with the keys at the front door. He doesn't call because he says, he doesn't want to wake her. The guys went in on her about being controlling and just because he is married doesn't mean he is in prison. The issue is that whenever he goes out he just doesn't act considerate and make it back at decent hours. I suggested having a talk and setting up mutual boundaries. She says when she talks to him, he apologizes but the next time he goes out the hours are late returning. It's one thing to come in late once in a while but, when it is a continuous thing, it borders on creating issues. Of course the guys told her not to listen to me. because they don't see 3am as late! LOL!
What do you guys think?