AnnDriena_
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As I've been speaking to others about the dating scene a friend of mine was telling me I may have too many "filters". I call them standards. If you don't meet them you need to kick rocks. There are some things I can't live with and I don't think it's right to PRACTICE on some dude to see if I can. Because if I don't like it I'm not going to try and make it work for me and then end up breaking someones heart in the end.
But I know a lot of people feel like they may miss out on the love of their life so they are trying to be more open hearted. Well how open hearted do you think you could be? and with what standards?
For example I can't date a man over a certain weight. If he can't fit into an active lifestyle it's not going to be fair to him to go off and do my own thing because it's too many stairs for him to climb or for me to date him and then try to turn him into an active person. I'm not willing to TRY him out because he MAY be the love of my life. I know too many people who are in unhappy relationships and not because they don't love the person they are with. But they thought love would conquer all and it doesn't.
I will not date a Non Christian man. That's too important to have differences in that area.
I will not date someone who can't hold a conversation well enough to keep me engaged.
I will not date someone who has multiple children by multiple women. Too much potential for drama. And I had a friend who was helping to pay her husbands child support. Hell to the NO.
What filters or standards do you have that you are unwilling to give up but others may think are holding you back?
But I know a lot of people feel like they may miss out on the love of their life so they are trying to be more open hearted. Well how open hearted do you think you could be? and with what standards?
For example I can't date a man over a certain weight. If he can't fit into an active lifestyle it's not going to be fair to him to go off and do my own thing because it's too many stairs for him to climb or for me to date him and then try to turn him into an active person. I'm not willing to TRY him out because he MAY be the love of my life. I know too many people who are in unhappy relationships and not because they don't love the person they are with. But they thought love would conquer all and it doesn't.
I will not date a Non Christian man. That's too important to have differences in that area.
I will not date someone who can't hold a conversation well enough to keep me engaged.
I will not date someone who has multiple children by multiple women. Too much potential for drama. And I had a friend who was helping to pay her husbands child support. Hell to the NO.
What filters or standards do you have that you are unwilling to give up but others may think are holding you back?