Country gal
Well-Known Member
Do you still communicate with your Exs or Fbs? Do you think it's okay if your man still communicates with the ex girlfriends and previous booty calls?
No, I have absolutely no contact with exes and I'd have a problem if my man still did. I have an issue with bringing it to his attention without sounding like I feel threatened though. I can talk all day about why I don't believe in it, but he may not share that same sentiment.
I don't want to hijack your thread but I also have a question I'd like answered on this. Should it be a deal breaker if you two feel differently about it? I'm not one that wants to try to 'force' someone to stop communicating with someone that may threaten our relationship because we all know how that can turn out, he'd more than likely just hide communication which is even worse. So what's the best way to handle it if it is what it is?
I don't communicate with my exs. Except lil man's dad and I am forced to talk to him. I don't get it. I have one male friend that I was intimate with and I don;t talk to him because he always brings up hitting it again. He claims it's been 7 years so he wants to go at it again.
Do you think it's okay if your man still communicates with the ex girlfriends and previous booty calls?
Absolutely not. And anyway, he should no longer have an interest in her life...so there should be no reason for him to even want to keep in contact with her.
Do you still communicate with your Exs or Fbs? Do you think it's okay if your man still communicates with the ex girlfriends and previous booty calls?
Yes. He has a girlfriend and doesn't care for me (and I really don't care for her) but he won't stop talking to me I haven't tried anything with him but boy has he flirted with me and talked about being with me.
my brother still communicates with his ex's and his new girl had no problem with this except for this one girl....and he would go hang out with her and talk to her alot, but he talked to other females as well....and somebody went to his girls job and overexagerated seeing him out with the particular female the new girlfriend doesn't care for..and she expressed that she's not happy with this friendship and doesn't want him that friendly with her...
He was like he doesn't have many friends and it doesn't matter hes not into her, if he still wanted to be with her he would and all this other stuff so he was basically playing down the situation and his girl "pretended" she was okay with this, but the week escaladed into more and more petty dumb situations between them till one day at the gym she flirts with a guy in front of his face that he blows up over and says she is doing it on purpose, she says she isn't...we know how that goes....they get into it and she tells him that she will probably start hanging out again with her male friends that she cut off......and he's like she's doing that on purpose she didn't have to cut them off and what not
so he's all mad at her...and im tellin him that all of this is coming from u refusing to stop hanging out with other chick...and some of the stuff is her consciously ****in with u some of it unconsciously but this is where its stemmin from and you have to realize the only reason she has a problem with this one particular girl is very simple
the other girl doesn't respect new girl nor the relationship and makes its very clear she would like to be back with you...she is quite okay that not only does her presence in your cause your girl "discomfort" but also that you defend the relationship.....its one thing if she respected the relationship and the other girl but she clearly doesn't...thats why its ONLY this specific one your girl is trippin off of...she doesn't give u grief over the other females u keep in contact with or see...those other ones show respect to the relationship.....so when u love somebody this is where consideration comes in...you can choose and decide what ever u want, but you are definitely being inconsiderate of her feelings and if thats not important to you then carry on....if it is you have a choice to make
the reason she cut all her male friends off is not because she is with you its because they want more and wouldnt respect you or the relationship and will definitely try to get in where they fit in...she didnt do it cuz she didnt like them, or didnt enjoy your company she did it out respect for you and her saying she will start hanging out again is her way of telling you that that respect is about to go out the window.....tic for a tac isn't good either though, so make sure you let her know that...but I understand where she is coming from
the respect factor is all that matters in situations like these..and peoples respect levels in alot of cases are not an all time high if there is any there at all, egos do drive the situations more so than respect
the reason she cut all her male friends off is not because she is with you its because they want more and wouldnt respect you or the relationship and will definitely try to get in where they fit in...she didnt do it cuz she didnt like them, or didnt enjoy your company she did it out respect for you and her saying she will start hanging out again is her way of telling you that that respect is about to go out the window.....tic for a tac isn't good either though, so make sure you let her know that...but I understand where she is coming from
the respect factor is all that matters in situations like these..and peoples respect levels in alot of cases are not an all time high if there is any there at all, egos do drive the situations more so than respect
Thanks wasn't enough! I'm so glad you shared this because this is exactly how it goes down 9 times out of 10 EVERYTIME. And the 'insecure' word is thrown on the woman or even man who has a problem with continued communications with exes waaayy too erroneously, much like the word 'hater' is overused. So many people don't understand that you must continually earn another persons level of devotion, loyalty, and undivided romantic attention. You reap what you sow. You give your mate a reason to worry, they'll give you a reason to worry, it's only natural, and IMO only right.
I now know the answer to my question. It definately should be a deal breaker and not a 'baby, can we talk about something' because the majority of the time it'll back fire on you. And he should know exactly why too. If you find out that it's to the level where they talk OFTEN and even see each other and you KNOW you can't deal with it, go ahead and mourn the loss of the relationship because no matter how you look at it you've reached a turning point. So it needs to be presented as a deal breaker like straight up "It's over, because I thought we were on the same page and this shows me that we are not. Peace." No ifs, ands, or buts about it. You gotta show these men you mean business if you want to make sure you aren't going to deal with something within your relationship. Leaving him, you are not feeding him the meal his ego is hungry for (possibly the reason he's not lettin go of the ex completely), you're snapping him to the reality that you DON'T need to be with him, the reality that there is a reason he's with you and not his ex, and you walking out that door means that you are confident there will be a man on the other side that won't have that 'issue' and will want you. If he's serious about you, he'll cut the communication off on his own in front of your face and he'll be taking ownership of the blame instead of pretending to not see the big deal and begging you to give him a chance to be the man you need. If he lets you leave, then you know what you were dealing with. Either way, you avoid the scenario below (souring of your relationship) which will eventually lead to your split anyway (why waste time?) or you will walk away (or stay) with your dignity in tact.
Do you still communicate with your Exs or Fbs? Do you think it's okay if your man still communicates with the ex girlfriends and previous booty calls?