This came out of another conversation I've had with my coworkers (all men) about relationships. Here's what they had to say about committment.
Basically - MEN view commitment as two people in EXCLUSIVE relationships. Marriage does not necessarily equal commitment (because there are people who while married do not act exclusively a la Shaquille O'Neal). AND it is possible to be committed without being married.
The problem is that women use the word "commitment" to be synonymous with marriage (ladies, this is true - if you want proof, go cruise around the "what men REALLY have to say about relationships" thread).
So maybe the commitment issue is not that men are afraid of commitment or women are to eager for commitment but more that when someone says "commitment" MEN and WOMEN are interpreting what that means as two totally different things.
What'cha think??
Basically - MEN view commitment as two people in EXCLUSIVE relationships. Marriage does not necessarily equal commitment (because there are people who while married do not act exclusively a la Shaquille O'Neal). AND it is possible to be committed without being married.
The problem is that women use the word "commitment" to be synonymous with marriage (ladies, this is true - if you want proof, go cruise around the "what men REALLY have to say about relationships" thread).
So maybe the commitment issue is not that men are afraid of commitment or women are to eager for commitment but more that when someone says "commitment" MEN and WOMEN are interpreting what that means as two totally different things.
What'cha think??